I understood that to mean that nycindie thinks the OP "should be able to talk about [abortion]" with their SON, not that nycindie was insisting that the OP has an "obligation" to justify their opinion about abortion to US.
I think you didn't read it right in context.
Exactly. My point was that, as I see it, being pro-choice means that one is, first and foremost, invested in people knowing what all their choices are. When one is an advocate for choice, it doesn't make sense, to me, to be tight-lipped about what options are available. So, because of that, it didn't quite compute for me that a person is pro-choice and finds it painful to talk about with her son.
No way was I saying that the OP was "obligated" to explain her stance to us. That's ridiculous.
Mmmm....I take your point but even in that context, unless you're asking someone else to accept your point of view, you have no obligation to express why you have that point of view or why someone else should share it. That goes if the audience is us or offspring.
Again, you are off. I did not say that the OP should or should not do anything, nor that she agree with me. I was simply stating an opinion in relation to my not understanding a statement the OP made. That is all. I simply said that, in my opinion, I would think someone who is pro-choice should be able to
explain what the choices are to people who need to know. Furthermore, I have never understood why it has to be an emotional thing to discuss. To me, it's just: "here are the options."
Nondy, I do understand you better now. What you said in response to my post does make sense and now I get what you meant.
Even though you "don't like children" you must interact with a lot of them because you are so much more knowledgable about 10 year old, even more knowledgable than me (who is around them all day). It's like Virginia Woolf (who was child-free) writing about Mothering in To The Lighthouse. Like her, you, Boring, have amazing knowledge and insight.
I am also child-free by choice. I do like kids, though, and kids like me - but I don't really want to be around them for long periods. I never wanted to pop any out myself. I have very strong ideas about parenting and always knew that such an enormous responsibility was not for me. I don't really think one needs to interact with many 10-year-olds to know that they have access to an awful lot of info these days, or to remember what it was like to be ten years old myself.
Not picking a fight, huh?
I do not see anyone picking a fight in this thread except you. When you first posted your "Stop" message, I had to read backwards to try and find the post where someone was picking a fight to figure out who you were scolding. I couldnot see what could possibly have triggered what you wrote. Nobody here was picking a fight, and it's odd that you think that.