New and excited.

[Neves]

Hello all. My wife and I have tried the swing life style, and realized we want something more. Not the one and done type or people just wanting sex. We are looking for a closer more meaningful relationship. This lifestyle seems more up our ally. We are looking for a girlfriend, again not just sex, but dating and long term. We tried the poly dating sites before, and just seemed to be more of the same hook up kinda thing. I guess our first question is how do we meet like minded people and even start? I was not good at flirting when I was younger and I haven't had a chance to try again since I met my wife. Please help us.

 

[Skadi]

Hey Neves, try to find a poly meetup close to where you live: https://www.meetup.com/
Where I live they come together monthly, so I can advise to start there.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Neves,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You can also try googling "polyamory" with the name of your state or nearest major city. I don't know if poly groups are getting together physically with the Covid situation, but you can at least find some like-minded individuals. In the meantime, keep reading and posting on this forum. Good luck!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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[Magdlyn]

Your best bet is to further let go of the couple-centric idea of "sharing" one woman, which comes from swinging sex. You two are now what we'd call "unicorn hunters."

The huge majority of polyamorous couples date separately. If you're not disentangled enough for that, you will be in for years of disappointment and rejection.

Short version: https://medium.com/@PolyamorySchool/the-most-skipped-step-when-opening-a-relationship-f1f67abbbd49

Longer version: https://davidlnoble.livejournal.com/176039.html