New here, Hi!

[kittyxuchiha11]

Hi! My name's Lauren and I'm a 22 year old girl form the UK, currently in a wonderful poly triad with my girls<3 I joined this form just to meet new people to talk to honestly, just felt like i should get to know the community a bit!

About us: My partner and I have been together for a year and a bit and pretty much from the get go of our relationship we knew we were both poly and wanted to date someone else. I'm not fantastic on my terms, but what i think most describes what were looking for, and currently have, is polyfidelity, and we're happy with it just being the 3 of us.

Anyway, we first started trying to date someone else about late December last year. we've tried a couple of times but nothing has really stuck, until we met our current girlfriend recently. She reached out to me on a dating site originally with questions about being poly, and once we started talking it was clear we really got on and from like day one there was something really special between us.

My partner was also messaging her at the same time so unlike other times we all got to know each other pretty quickly. our main problem before was that a potential partner would talk to me lots, but not my partner so it didn't really work out because of that.

We had our first date like 5 days after we met which some people might say is too quick but it felt just right. since then we've been seeing her at least once or twice a week and only just made of 'official' this week so that's amazing. I'm so incredibly happy and for the first time in my life my relationship feels right and completely fulfilled, which feels great honestly.

So, that's me and my relationship, i hope to get to know you all soon!

 

[Desiree]

Wow!

Hey,

I’m new to this forum as well, and pretty new to the community actually. But anyway, wow! That really does sound great! I’m very happy for you, to know that you’re experiencing such a fulfilling relationship. You sound so excited in your writing, it really comes off and it fills me with joy! I wish the best for you and your partners!

Sincerely,

~* Desiree

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Lauren,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I think it's wonderful that you have a sweet triad, things really came together for you. I hope the three of you will have many great years with each other. Will all three of you live together eventually? I hope I'm not prying, I was just curious. I'm looking forward to getting to know you better.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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[kittyxuchiha11]

Will all three of you live together eventually? I hope I'm not prying, I was just curious. I'm looking forward to getting to know you better.

Hi Kevin, and thanks for replying! Although its early days just now, and she's literally in the process of moving house so we cant quite convince her to move in any time soon, we certainly hope we'll all live together eventually.

A lives with two room mates so she mostly spends her time over and J and I's house, although in our flat we rent we have very small bed and it is such a squeeze to fit us all in one bed. A has a king size bed so very much looking forward to her one day moving in with that haha

 

[kdt26417]

I see what you mean about it being the early days and whatnot. No need to be in a rush, just let things develop naturally. Hopefully A will move in with you eventually, and bring her king-sized bed with her! Anyway welcome, and thanks for sharing.

 

[Magdlyn]

Welcome kitty/Lauren!

I'm glad you're happily living with J and getting along well. You two have been seeking another partner who is attracted to you both, and vice versa, for a year or so. So far, so good with the new person. I hope it continues through NRE and beyond.

Of course it's way too early to depend on being a fully functional triad just yet, only 3 weeks in (much less contemplate moving her into your flat). You're all infatuated and full of new relationship hormones. That's normal, that's very exciting. It sounds like you're having fun and feel good about your future. I wish you well.

How do you define "became official?" You seem to have "become official" with each girl about 3 or 4 weeks after meeting on your dating site.

If you're going to be posting at all regularly, our Guidelines request you choose nicknames for your partner(s), rather than just an initial. It makes posts much easier to read, and keep track of who's who. Thanks!

Who knew in a world so big, I'd find you both

My girls <3

J
Met online ~ 17th August 2017 ~
Met in person ~ 30th August 2017 ~
Became official ~ 15th September 2017 ~
Closed the distance and moved in together! ~ 18th June 2018 ~

A
Met online ~ 21st November 2018 ~
Met in person ~ 26th November 2018 ~
Became official ~ 4th December 2018 ~

 

[kittyxuchiha11]

How do you define "became official?" You seem to have "become official" with each girl about 3 or 4 weeks after meeting on your dating site.

If you're going to be posting at all regularly, our Guidelines request you choose nicknames for your partner(s), rather than just an initial. It makes posts much easier to read, and keep track of who's who. Thanks!

Hi and thanks for the reply! I must have missed that when I had a read through the guidelines, oops sorry. Any way, thank you for your kind words, I know I must seem like a baby here compared to the rest of you since this is my first poly relationship where it's working out so far haha

What I mean became official is when we went from casually dating to being in a committed relationship. A few weeks might seem like a super short time to some people, but I'm sure you and everyone else knows when you jist click with someone and want some commitment involved.

I'm super busy just now with work and helping Ash (That's A)
Move to her new house just now but will definitely update everything and have a look around the site more when I have a spare minute! Thank you again for such a lovely message

 

[kittyxuchiha11]

How do you define "became official?" You seem to have "become official" with each girl about 3 or 4 weeks after meeting on your dating site.

If you're going to be posting at all regularly, our Guidelines request you choose nicknames for your partner(s), rather than just an initial. It makes posts much easier to read, and keep track of who's who. Thanks!

If this is a double post i'm sorry, i tried to reply yesterday and it looked like it went through, but i was on my phone so who knows.

Thanks for the reply Magdlyn! I must have missed the thing about the nicknames when i was giving the guidelines a read, sorry about that! I've now updated my signature, and will be using their nicknames from now on

Anyway 'became official' is pretty much going from casual dating to them being my girlfriend.

See, we had a bit of a misunderstanding with this Josie and I when we first got together. I just thought dating was when you were with someone and like as soon as you started seeing each other you were girlfriends, josie informed me that nope i was wrong and you had to date someone and go on several dates and they they have to ask you to be their girlfriend.

So yeah, the became official is jut going from casual dating to girlfriend status, which i know to some people a few weeks might seem way too quick, but honestly i'm sure you, and everyone else here, can relate to when it feels just right and you know you want to make that step. It's also for my mental health as well tbh, i don't handle there being no promise of commitment when i already have such strong feelings for someone. Sure it might be infatuation with a new person, but i still get all sad at the idea that there isn't commitment there, that might be something i have to work on but who knows.

Thanks again for such a nice reply!