New relationship destroying my life and unable to make sense of it
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anamikanon
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Wow. And I thought Spexy had gone crazy with NRE. This is crazy.
I didn't realize the thread was this old when I started reading it. And frankly realized it with your update. I have never felt so relieved on this forum than reading that update. I had already got my "DUMP HER NOW" post written in my head when I saw it.
Glad to know things are working out so well for you.
For what it is worth, I hope you don't let this experience scar you. Your reactions to her being poly sounded on the "doing great" side till everything went down the rabbit hole.
I didn't realize the thread was this old when I started reading it. And frankly realized it with your update. I have never felt so relieved on this forum than reading that update. I had already got my "DUMP HER NOW" post written in my head when I saw it.
Glad to know things are working out so well for you.
For what it is worth, I hope you don't let this experience scar you. Your reactions to her being poly sounded on the "doing great" side till everything went down the rabbit hole.
Shaya
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Hey,
Sorry for the awful situation you're in. NRE with a third tends to destroy a lot of previous relationships, especially for people new to poly. Anamikanon went through something similar recently, as did I.
In my link above, I listed that one of the things I wanted to work on for myself in the near future was to do self improvement to make myself less codependent. I also wanted to learn relationshipping skills. After all, a relationship is about the hardest thing to do in life and yet there is a society norm that makes us think we can just do it without reading a "how to" guide. Contrast this with "how to" guides for almost everything else in life including how to build a bookshelf, hook up a TV radio dish, cookbooks, etc. Books on how to do a relationship are a must and should have been compulsory reading in high school. Certainly more useful than reading Romeo and Juliet. That was a terrible relationship.
Sorry for the awful situation you're in. NRE with a third tends to destroy a lot of previous relationships, especially for people new to poly. Anamikanon went through something similar recently, as did I.
In my link above, I listed that one of the things I wanted to work on for myself in the near future was to do self improvement to make myself less codependent. I also wanted to learn relationshipping skills. After all, a relationship is about the hardest thing to do in life and yet there is a society norm that makes us think we can just do it without reading a "how to" guide. Contrast this with "how to" guides for almost everything else in life including how to build a bookshelf, hook up a TV radio dish, cookbooks, etc. Books on how to do a relationship are a must and should have been compulsory reading in high school. Certainly more useful than reading Romeo and Juliet. That was a terrible relationship.