New to Polyamory.

[Matt&Beth]

My wife and I have been married for 19 years, we are very close and love each other very much. An old ex of my wife recently got in touch with her. He works in our area every couple of months and he wanted to reconnect with her. In his messages it soon became clear he wanted to re-establish a sexual relationship with her. She obviously told me about it and we talked about it for a couple of weeks before he was due up.A few days before he was due, I asked her if it was something she would be interested in. After hours of talking about it she told me that it was. I was a little shocked but agreed to it.
He said that he had an air bnb booked for two nights really local to us, she met him in a local bar and they had a couple of drinks before going back to his place where they had sex. She got home about midnight, really turned on and we had the best sex we’d had in years. She met and slept with him the following day. Since then she’s met up with him a couple more times, she‘s happier than she’s been in years and our sex live just keeps getting better and better and closer and closer.
He‘s due up in a couple of weeks and she’s planning to spend the night with him, I couldn’t be happier for her! It’s probably the best thing that could have happened to our relationship to move it to the next level. All our close friends now know about our relationship, because I want her to be able to go out for drinks and a meal with him before heading back to his place.
Also during this time we have also being exploring the possibility of having a MFM relationship, I would say I’m bi-curious so something I would love to experience. We have had 2 dates with a guy and are meeting up this Friday where we are all looking forward to ending up in bed together!
We don’t feel it’s something that we have to hide, it’s our relationship and it’s working for us, why should we be ashamed of it? Any advice for the future of our new open relationship would be much appreciated as this is still really new to us.
Thanks for reading.

 

[Magdlyn]

I'm glad things are working out for you so far. I don't know in advance what kind of advice you might need, so I'll just recommend reading the book Opening Up. It covers all the bases of what could go wrong and how to prevent mistakes or recover from them.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Matt&Beth,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

My sincere congratulations for your successful initiation into polyamory. Hopefully you will continue to have success as you venture into MFM territory, I am in an MFM V myself (where all three people are straight). It takes some hard work, but it is very worth it in the long run. I think the best advice I can give is for you to participate a lot in this forum, you can learn a lot about poly here, and it can be a launching pad for recommended poly books and websites. Check out our General Poly Discussions and our Poly Relationships Corner. Post your questions as you go along. That is your best way to start, I think.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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