New to this, where do i start?

[C1oudS7rife]

I live in Orlando, FL. Looking to make genuine connections with others with similar interests. I don't drink, yet bars were the only place I had ever met ppl up until a year ago when I stopped drinking. Looking for some insight as to where is best to find others that might like to do other things than just go out drinking all time. Any and all help/ assistance is appreciated. Thank you and merry Christmas everyone!

 

[Evie]

Merry Christmas!

The Americans will likely be along with some dating site suggestions that are poly friendly in your area, but in the meantime I'll just suggest anything you can (safely during this pandemic) meet people in person that may be a little more open to the fringes of society. Amateur theatre, ren faire etc., D&D, (hmmm, costuming seems to be a theme) or seasonal festivals all tend to have open minded people.

 

[Magdlyn]

Think about other hobbies you have been pursuing since your mind is clearer and you're healthier now. Then go on meetups or FB (or whatever platform) and look for groups with those interests. You never know if you might find a person to date there, or meet a friend of a friend who does the activity, or get invited to a party/get together where the emphasis isn't on drinking.

The best way to find romantic partners is to expand your social circle in general. What's happening in Orlando? Maybe even just joining the local city group on FB would help.

As for me, I use Fetlife to find partners since I am kinky. I prefer dating sites, or social sites where you can read detailed profiles, and see photos ahead of time, to get an idea of how a person talks, what they're into besides sex and kink, etc.

 

[kdt26417]

Hello C1oudS7rife,
Here are the poly-friendly dating sites I know of:

• https://bare.dating/
• https://polyfinda.com/
• https://en.lovoo.com/#/
• https://www.okcupid.com/
• https://www.kasidie.com/
• http://www.beyondtwo.com/
• https://www.lavalife.com/
• https://www.openminded.com/
• http://adultfriendfinder.com/
• http://www.polymatchmaker.com/

"As for where to meet poly people, if by some chance you are interested in anything alternative like Renaissance fairs, goth culture, sci-fi conventions, indie music, bdsm, or any small fringe group, you will be more likely to meet people who have at least heard of poly and are accepting of it."
-- SpaceHippieGeek, Polyamorous Percolations

Even if it's not an "alternative" type group, if there's a club or something in your area that does something you're interested in, you can always join that group and it just gives you a way to get out there and meet people. If you meet someone on a platonic level and get to talking about poly, then they can decide how they feel about it without any "pressure to agree." Then if they do decide poly doesn't bother them too much, and some kind of romantic connection subsequently develops, you'll already have "had the poly conversation" with them.

I hope that helps.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.

 

[C1oudS7rife]

All of you are so helpful thank you!