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[Amarna]

Hello!

I've been lurking for awhile reading various threads and have gained a lot of insight already. I hope to get to know some of you and participate in conversations!

My husband and I have begun to talk about opening our relationship and are both excited (and a little nervous to tell the truth) to begin this new phase of our relationship. I broached the topic of poly with my husband after months of studying and reading about polyamory and other couples experiences with the subject. I thought my husband might be receptive to the idea because of some comments that he'd made in the past and after some thought and long discussion we've decided to transition our relationship from monogamous to an open marriage. My husband is more interested in casual dating whereas I feel like I would get more out of deeper relationships.

We've been together for 10 years and have two children ages 9 and 3. I'm very interested to hear from other parents about their experiences transitioning to a poly relationship.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Amarna,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

There's quite a bit of discussion here about poly parenting, see the following:

• Children and Polyamory: Merged Threads, General Discussion
• What about the Kids?
• Question about parenting a poly partner's child.
• Poly and kids
• Polyamory with children

Just let us know if you have any questions.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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Welcome aboard!

 

[IndieSolo]

Hi and welcome! There are a lot of parents here. Hopefully, some of them will pop in here. If you have specific questions about parenting and poly, feel free to start a new thread in either the General Discussions or Poly Relationships forums. Some people don't visit the Introductions forum.

 

[Spork]

Hi! I'm a poly parent. However, as you'll note that like families, polyfolk and our lifestyles come in all shapes and sizes and colors...

My sons are teenagers, so our conversations about these things are quite different from what one would want to do with smaller kids.

And I am (somewhat) recently separated from their Dad, and I'm a solo poly single Mom. I have four very meaningful relationships, but all are primarily conducted, at least insofar as adult activities are concerned, outside of the home I share with my sons. I don't hide my relationships from them, they were introduced after I became confident that these individuals would be a part of our lives for a while, but while my boys know that I'm romantically involved with them I just spare them the details.

I think that we all have to shape our worlds in the ways that seem healthiest and best for our situation.

I hope that you benefit from the insights and understanding of the community here. I have!

 

[Amarna]

Thank you for the warm welcome!

This seems like a great online community so far.

"I think that we all have to shape our worlds in the ways that seem healthiest and best for our situation."

I couldn't agree more Spork, that's exactly how I look at things.