Hi everyone,
I'm glad I stumbled upon this little site. A little about me, I'm 33 and my husband is 31 we're both born in raised in California. We've been married going on 6 years this year, two beautiful children, and taking life one day at time. We're just now stepping or more like diving into the poly scene. My husband’s been poly most of his life just never had an opportunity to act on it before in his past, while I'm extremely new to the concept. Kind of goes hand in hand with being raised in a traditional setting where anything but monogamy is considered a sin and disrespectful to your spouse. Although we've always talked about opening our relationship to another person that just hasn't happened just yet.
Recently we have found ourselves in a situation that may or may not be heading in that direction. It's really too early to tell. I have to admit that with the level of communication my spouse and I have, definitely helps put any anxiety and jealousy at bay. Not to mention my internal struggle of being so incredibly happy watching him go through the exciting process of meeting someone new.Watching the excitement of him discovering just how much they have in common. Then there's also fact that overall he is the love of my life, and the person I choose to spend the rest of my life. Also then there's the other internal struggle of not really knowing just where my place in this dynamic should be. Part of me is unsure if I should continue to try and build a deeper connection other than a friendship with her or sit back and just let them move forward. I know in the long run he's deeply in love with me and I will always be his little piece of home sweet home. However at the same time if they really do start develop feelings for one another and the connection between her and I just isn't there, then I still don't think I would want to be the one to stand in the way of their happiness.
I look forward to hearing any advice people are willing to offer and tips on how to navigate this crazy new level that society and family have ingrained as being something so negative. When really it seems more empowering and rewarding than the later. Also I would love to hear some comments from poly couples or individuals that also have children in the mix. How open are closed are you when it comes little hands in mind.
I'm glad I stumbled upon this little site. A little about me, I'm 33 and my husband is 31 we're both born in raised in California. We've been married going on 6 years this year, two beautiful children, and taking life one day at time. We're just now stepping or more like diving into the poly scene. My husband’s been poly most of his life just never had an opportunity to act on it before in his past, while I'm extremely new to the concept. Kind of goes hand in hand with being raised in a traditional setting where anything but monogamy is considered a sin and disrespectful to your spouse. Although we've always talked about opening our relationship to another person that just hasn't happened just yet.
Recently we have found ourselves in a situation that may or may not be heading in that direction. It's really too early to tell. I have to admit that with the level of communication my spouse and I have, definitely helps put any anxiety and jealousy at bay. Not to mention my internal struggle of being so incredibly happy watching him go through the exciting process of meeting someone new.Watching the excitement of him discovering just how much they have in common. Then there's also fact that overall he is the love of my life, and the person I choose to spend the rest of my life. Also then there's the other internal struggle of not really knowing just where my place in this dynamic should be. Part of me is unsure if I should continue to try and build a deeper connection other than a friendship with her or sit back and just let them move forward. I know in the long run he's deeply in love with me and I will always be his little piece of home sweet home. However at the same time if they really do start develop feelings for one another and the connection between her and I just isn't there, then I still don't think I would want to be the one to stand in the way of their happiness.
I look forward to hearing any advice people are willing to offer and tips on how to navigate this crazy new level that society and family have ingrained as being something so negative. When really it seems more empowering and rewarding than the later. Also I would love to hear some comments from poly couples or individuals that also have children in the mix. How open are closed are you when it comes little hands in mind.
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