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Thanks, Opal and YaH! Another benefit of being poly is having another partner to do fun things with when one of them is sick! haha
I just hope I am still with Punk this summer, and still seeing him twice a week, as miss p plans to work 3 weeks at her camp in NH, and 1 week at the CA camp.
Also, a part of me quietly wonders what it will do to Punk psychologically when his mom passes away from her cancer... sigh... He is so close to her. I hope he finds it a relief to see her suffering end.
I just hope I am still with Punk this summer, and still seeing him twice a week, as miss p plans to work 3 weeks at her camp in NH, and 1 week at the CA camp.
Also, a part of me quietly wonders what it will do to Punk psychologically when his mom passes away from her cancer... sigh... He is so close to her. I hope he finds it a relief to see her suffering end.
Well, I had a serendipitous surprise yesterday! One of my former bfs, Biker, texted me to see if we could get together.
He and I had dated for about 7 months in early 2015, but he had to stop. He has addiction problems... The thing is, he tends to fall off the wagon when he is happy, not sad. And I made him very happy. So he had spent the rest of the year going to meetings, going to the gym, focusing on his work and family, etc.
But he just couldn't take it anymore, missing me. We've chatted about once a month since he took the break, so we'd been in touch, and I knew he was longing for me, and hadn't seen anyone else.
I had the day free so I invited him over. He's a really nice guy, and I missed him too! He is 69, tall, lean, fit, virile (and well hung). Working out 4 days a week keeps him as healthy as a man 20 years his junior. Friendly, funny, cute. He gets along well with miss pixi and is nice to our dog too.
We had kinky sex for hours... Whew! Poor man hadn't had sex in six months. It was pretty wonderful. We also took breaks to sit and chat, catching up, and he also treated pixi and me to Chinese takeout.
I wondered if this was to be a one time thing, but he asked if I'd like to see him again, and of course I said yes. I said, I don't want to send you on the road to Perdition. He laughed and said he is well capable of doing that on his own. He's a big boy, so I will let him handle it.
After Biker left I texted Punk to invite him here Sunday. I wanted today free, since Biker wore me out! And I am working tomorrow night. Punk accepted. After that though, miss p found out there will be a Bernie Sanders party tonight in the next town at the middle school, so maybe we will go to that with Punk also.
He and I had dated for about 7 months in early 2015, but he had to stop. He has addiction problems... The thing is, he tends to fall off the wagon when he is happy, not sad. And I made him very happy. So he had spent the rest of the year going to meetings, going to the gym, focusing on his work and family, etc.
But he just couldn't take it anymore, missing me. We've chatted about once a month since he took the break, so we'd been in touch, and I knew he was longing for me, and hadn't seen anyone else.
I had the day free so I invited him over. He's a really nice guy, and I missed him too! He is 69, tall, lean, fit, virile (and well hung). Working out 4 days a week keeps him as healthy as a man 20 years his junior. Friendly, funny, cute. He gets along well with miss pixi and is nice to our dog too.
We had kinky sex for hours... Whew! Poor man hadn't had sex in six months. It was pretty wonderful.
We also took breaks to sit and chat, catching up, and he also treated pixi and me to Chinese takeout. I wondered if this was to be a one time thing, but he asked if I'd like to see him again, and of course I said yes. I said, I don't want to send you on the road to Perdition. He laughed and said he is well capable of doing that on his own. He's a big boy, so I will let him handle it.
After Biker left I texted Punk to invite him here Sunday. I wanted today free, since Biker wore me out! And I am working tomorrow night. Punk accepted. After that though, miss p found out there will be a Bernie Sanders party tonight in the next town at the middle school, so maybe we will go to that with Punk also.
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Turns out the Bernie thing was in Hudson NH, not Hudson MA. So we didn't go. Oops. But Punk came over anyway and spent a few hours. I felt a little bad for miss P, I mean a tinge of guilt, having 2 men come here in 2 days. But I can never turn down an offer from a boy, she knows that.
He seemed subdued. I thought his eyes looked puffy and his voice sounded scratchy. I know he doesn't have a cold so I thought to myself, he might've been crying. But I didn't bring it up. He'd vented last time, we all know what he's going through.
After we all chatted a while, he asked me for a massage, since he's been holding stress in his bad shoulder. I am not a bad masseuse, so I was happy to rub his sexy manly shoulders. Naked. In bed. He was able to tell me right where the tightness was and I worked on it. Then he "paid me" for the backrub with foreplay/moreplay. Once I was happy, he just flopped into my arms. Didn't want anything done to himself. And we just snuggled for a bit. Mmmm...
Then I suggested naked Yahtzee, so we played that on the bed. After I won 2 games and he won 1, we came out and he helped me make dinner. I'd baked a cake earlier and hadn't iced it. So I also did that. Punk had been stealing snitches of it already, he has a sweet tooth. I know several ways to this man's heart!
He seemed to be more energetic after dinner. We hung out and he was perkier and talking more, telling stories and sharing trivia, in his usual hyper way. No swing dancing this time though. He left kind of early, but I got a very good kiss before he left.
After that I went downstairs for TV with pixi, and she was feeling well enough to come on to me sexually. Yay. So we messed around for a while. I was pretty sore from the visit with Biker, plus I am doing PT now for my back, and had had a session yesterday morning. But the sex with Punk and pixi wasn't too athletic so it was OK. I'm not complaining about triple dipping when it happens!
I also messaged Nick earlier in the day and we flirted a little, which was fun.
Tonight I have to drive out for work. It's snowing heavily now, but we are only supposed to get 2" of snow out of this southerly blizzard. And no accumulation up to where I have to drive to. So I should be OK.
I felt a little bad for miss P, I mean a tinge of guilt, having 2 men come here in 2 days. But I can never turn down an offer from a boy, she knows that. He seemed subdued. I thought his eyes looked puffy and his voice sounded scratchy. I know he doesn't have a cold so I thought to myself, he might've been crying. But I didn't bring it up. He'd vented last time, we all know what he's going through.
After we all chatted a while, he asked me for a massage, since he's been holding stress in his bad shoulder. I am not a bad masseuse, so I was happy to rub his sexy manly shoulders. Naked. In bed. He was able to tell me right where the tightness was and I worked on it. Then he "paid me" for the backrub with foreplay/moreplay. Once I was happy, he just flopped into my arms. Didn't want anything done to himself. And we just snuggled for a bit. Mmmm...
Then I suggested naked Yahtzee, so we played that on the bed. After I won 2 games and he won 1, we came out and he helped me make dinner. I'd baked a cake earlier and hadn't iced it. So I also did that. Punk had been stealing snitches of it already, he has a sweet tooth. I know several ways to this man's heart!
He seemed to be more energetic after dinner. We hung out and he was perkier and talking more, telling stories and sharing trivia, in his usual hyper way. No swing dancing this time though. He left kind of early, but I got a very good kiss before he left.
After that I went downstairs for TV with pixi, and she was feeling well enough to come on to me sexually. Yay. So we messed around for a while. I was pretty sore from the visit with Biker, plus I am doing PT now for my back, and had had a session yesterday morning. But the sex with Punk and pixi wasn't too athletic so it was OK. I'm not complaining about triple dipping when it happens!
I also messaged Nick earlier in the day and we flirted a little, which was fun.
Tonight I have to drive out for work. It's snowing heavily now, but we are only supposed to get 2" of snow out of this southerly blizzard. And no accumulation up to where I have to drive to. So I should be OK.
I haven't written in a week. Nothing major happened that I needed to process, just normal life stuff. Things are good, except for my back. I was working out too hard and trying to tell my physical therapist she was increasing the intensity of my exercises too rapidly for my back pain, my age, my weight. But she kept requiring me to do more and more until last Tuesday, I fell apart. Pain from my neck (plus a headache), to my trapezius, all the way down my back, my glutes, the front of my pelvis, and the back of my thigh, all on my right side. Ugh, it pissed me off I got injured when this damn PT is supposed to be strengthening me to reduce my back pain.
So I had several days of "10" pain when before my normal is an 8... I live on painkillers, tramadol and ibuprofen, to be able to function. Now, almost a week later, I am still in more pain than when I started PT. Grrrr. I am about ready to quit PT and just join a gym and go back to water aerobics, which I had done previously for 5 years. If all that PT is supposed to be doing is increasing my lower core strength, I can do that in the pool, and then get a hot tub soak and jets after swimming.
Back to my love and social life! I didn't see Punk again until Saturday. 2 days ago. We didn't chat in between then and last Monday either. I was focusing on my pain and on relating to miss pixi after having been busy with Punk and Biker the previous week (plus I worked that previous weekend). Spending lots of time with her was nice. We also took our dog to the vet for a checkup. She is 13 but doing well, nice to get that reassurance.
We went out for Mexican food for our anniversary on Friday. Saturday she was heading into Cambridge for a reunion of counselors from her camp. I opted to stay home and have a date with Punk. So that worked out well.
miss pixi went to a bowling alley with about 30 of her co-counselors, then most of the group went to a person's house in Medford to hang out. So I had a nice time being alone in the house with Punk. He arrived at 7 and stayed til 11:30. He didn't seem distracted or sad. He was very happy and friendly and energetic, ready for fun, and the sex was awesome. I'd massaged him the past 2 dates, but this time he knew about my injury and massaged me for a change. And that was after the amazing oral sex and fucking. Mmmm... so nice... Just what I needed. Punk was extremely pleased as well.
After we recovered, we made a quick dinner, and he humored me and came downstairs to the family room to watched the SAG awards with me (I love movies and the gowns! ...My sister and I love to talk about the fashions after every awards show). We also chatted during the show of course.
One thing is, though Punk cuddles me after sex, he isn't much of a couch cuddler. I dunno if it's because of his bad shoulder or what. ...I do feel our relationship isn't as intimate as it could be. I would expect, from the amount of time we spend together, after 3 months, we would be "in love." But we aren't. I suspect it's because, well, he obviously has some Mommy issues, he is co-dependent with her. And she is very ill. His emotional energy goes to helping her be as comfortable as possible, and dealing with his grief. We have a distance. I regret it. But it is what it is. I enjoy his company very much, and I know he likes me, even if he doesn't love me. We have had biweekly dates for over 3 months now. To be honest, I wish it was more. I wish he seemed open to actually loving me. I get a little envious reading KC's blog, how deep her relationship is with Woody, etc.
Perhaps it's a good thing though. I am deeply in love with miss pixi. And I was scarred by having loved a narcissist, my last full-on relationship. So if things are a bit less intense emotionally with Punk than they could be, perhaps that is actually healthy for me for now.
Anyway! miss pixi arrived home when I was in bed asleep, bringing two of her friends with her. They spent the night. Then yesterday, Sunday, we 4 went out locally for breakfast, and then we drove them to the bus station in Boston so they could return to Brooklyn NY. We returned home, and an hour or so later, our local friend K (co-counselor, athlete and trans-activist) came over with 2 other counselors from out of state. We had a nice afternoon chatting and having coffee, then we all went out for Indian food before they had to go! I was glad I got to spend time with 5 of the camp staff even though I opted not to go out to the official reunion party. Best of both worlds. Intimate date with Punk, and also hanging out with some really cool intelligent other people the following day.
This week Punk and I are going to go thrift store shopping. We've never done that together, and we both suddenly realized we both love it and need to do it together! I look for Pyrex and other vintage housewares and vintage toys. He looks for wooden furniture that he refurbishes and artistically does wood inlay and decoupage on, to sell.
Hopefully this weekend miss p can get to go see her Master. Both of them had colds and/or sinus infections this month, so she hasn't seen him since New Year's day!
So I had several days of "10" pain when before my normal is an 8... I live on painkillers, tramadol and ibuprofen, to be able to function. Now, almost a week later, I am still in more pain than when I started PT. Grrrr. I am about ready to quit PT and just join a gym and go back to water aerobics, which I had done previously for 5 years. If all that PT is supposed to be doing is increasing my lower core strength, I can do that in the pool, and then get a hot tub soak and jets after swimming.
Back to my love and social life! I didn't see Punk again until Saturday. 2 days ago. We didn't chat in between then and last Monday either. I was focusing on my pain and on relating to miss pixi after having been busy with Punk and Biker the previous week (plus I worked that previous weekend). Spending lots of time with her was nice. We also took our dog to the vet for a checkup. She is 13 but doing well, nice to get that reassurance.
We went out for Mexican food for our anniversary on Friday. Saturday she was heading into Cambridge for a reunion of counselors from her camp. I opted to stay home and have a date with Punk. So that worked out well.
miss pixi went to a bowling alley with about 30 of her co-counselors, then most of the group went to a person's house in Medford to hang out. So I had a nice time being alone in the house with Punk. He arrived at 7 and stayed til 11:30. He didn't seem distracted or sad. He was very happy and friendly and energetic, ready for fun, and the sex was awesome. I'd massaged him the past 2 dates, but this time he knew about my injury and massaged me for a change. And that was after the amazing oral sex and fucking. Mmmm... so nice... Just what I needed. Punk was extremely pleased as well.
After we recovered, we made a quick dinner, and he humored me and came downstairs to the family room to watched the SAG awards with me (I love movies and the gowns! ...My sister and I love to talk about the fashions after every awards show). We also chatted during the show of course.
One thing is, though Punk cuddles me after sex, he isn't much of a couch cuddler. I dunno if it's because of his bad shoulder or what. ...I do feel our relationship isn't as intimate as it could be. I would expect, from the amount of time we spend together, after 3 months, we would be "in love." But we aren't. I suspect it's because, well, he obviously has some Mommy issues, he is co-dependent with her. And she is very ill. His emotional energy goes to helping her be as comfortable as possible, and dealing with his grief. We have a distance. I regret it. But it is what it is. I enjoy his company very much, and I know he likes me, even if he doesn't love me. We have had biweekly dates for over 3 months now. To be honest, I wish it was more. I wish he seemed open to actually loving me. I get a little envious reading KC's blog, how deep her relationship is with Woody, etc.
Perhaps it's a good thing though. I am deeply in love with miss pixi. And I was scarred by having loved a narcissist, my last full-on relationship. So if things are a bit less intense emotionally with Punk than they could be, perhaps that is actually healthy for me for now.
Anyway! miss pixi arrived home when I was in bed asleep, bringing two of her friends with her. They spent the night. Then yesterday, Sunday, we 4 went out locally for breakfast, and then we drove them to the bus station in Boston so they could return to Brooklyn NY. We returned home, and an hour or so later, our local friend K (co-counselor, athlete and trans-activist) came over with 2 other counselors from out of state. We had a nice afternoon chatting and having coffee, then we all went out for Indian food before they had to go! I was glad I got to spend time with 5 of the camp staff even though I opted not to go out to the official reunion party. Best of both worlds. Intimate date with Punk, and also hanging out with some really cool intelligent other people the following day.
This week Punk and I are going to go thrift store shopping. We've never done that together, and we both suddenly realized we both love it and need to do it together! I look for Pyrex and other vintage housewares and vintage toys. He looks for wooden furniture that he refurbishes and artistically does wood inlay and decoupage on, to sell.
Hopefully this weekend miss p can get to go see her Master. Both of them had colds and/or sinus infections this month, so she hasn't seen him since New Year's day!
I'm glad you have what you do with miss pixi, and I'm glad for what you do have with Punk, though I hope as time goes on it will develop the way you'd like. What I have with Woody is awesome, but keep in mind that I don't really have much of anything at all with Hubby; we coexist in the same physical space, occasionally cross paths, and fuck sometimes. But we also often spend a day or two with no more interaction than "I love you, have a good day" as he walks out the door in the morning. I can't even get him to *sit* on the couch with me, let alone cuddle!
Ugh about miss pixi's sinus infection. Doll had one that lasted for a couple of weeks, but she seems to be on the mend now, finally. She kept refusing to go to the doctor; as I understand it, she and Woody ended up kind of blackmailing each other into going, because Woody had a nasty cough and Doll had the infection, and each of them was pushing the other to see a doctor while refusing to go themselves. (I told Woody if he didn't go, I was going to take him myself...)
Ugh about miss pixi's sinus infection. Doll had one that lasted for a couple of weeks, but she seems to be on the mend now, finally. She kept refusing to go to the doctor; as I understand it, she and Woody ended up kind of blackmailing each other into going, because Woody had a nasty cough and Doll had the infection, and each of them was pushing the other to see a doctor while refusing to go themselves. (I told Woody if he didn't go, I was going to take him myself...)
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Thanks, KC. You're right. And I don't want to feel or sound greedy. I am working on just letting this relationship be what it is. I know I tend to have a bit of expectation of "relationship escalator," even though I am not looking to cohabit with anyone besides pixi, or, heaven forbid, marry a man! I can't even marry pixi, since I get alimony from my ex husband, and will get some of his SS when he retires. Punk is a fun friend, sex partner and kink playpal, and that can be good enough. I've even lost weight since I met him, since I eat too much when I am not getting enough sex. LOL
I am seeing Punk today at 2 for our little shopping trip. He has to be home by 6 for some reason. I will see if he can also come by on Saturday night, since pixi is definitely going to see her Master in Boston overnight. I am happy for her! If Punk can't come then, it's OK, I will enjoy the alone time.
My back got slightly re-injured on Tuesday at PT, so I officially quit. I need a break from that kind of exercise, so it serves me no benefit to keep going. The only thing that helped me was the massages.
I looked into my insurance 2 weeks ago to see how many PT appts I could get per year, and I noticed my company now offers coverage for chiropractic too! It didn't used to! Only 12 visits a year, but that is better than nothing. I am having my first visit tomorrow. After a week or two of continued healing from the PT induced sprain, I will join the gym and begin water fitness classes (oh so carefully). I am also covered for osteopathic adjustments which seem identical to chiro adjustments, so once I use up the chiro I can do that.
Hopefully this will work for me as it did previously. The racquet/swim club is in my town, just a couple miles away. I gotta be fit for sex! lol Well, I'd love to resume gardening and dancing and be able to comfortably hike in the woods or at the beach too.
I am seeing Punk today at 2 for our little shopping trip. He has to be home by 6 for some reason. I will see if he can also come by on Saturday night, since pixi is definitely going to see her Master in Boston overnight. I am happy for her! If Punk can't come then, it's OK, I will enjoy the alone time.
My back got slightly re-injured on Tuesday at PT, so I officially quit. I need a break from that kind of exercise, so it serves me no benefit to keep going. The only thing that helped me was the massages.
I looked into my insurance 2 weeks ago to see how many PT appts I could get per year, and I noticed my company now offers coverage for chiropractic too! It didn't used to! Only 12 visits a year, but that is better than nothing. I am having my first visit tomorrow. After a week or two of continued healing from the PT induced sprain, I will join the gym and begin water fitness classes (oh so carefully). I am also covered for osteopathic adjustments which seem identical to chiro adjustments, so once I use up the chiro I can do that.
Hopefully this will work for me as it did previously.
The racquet/swim club is in my town, just a couple miles away. I gotta be fit for sex! lol Well, I'd love to resume gardening and dancing and be able to comfortably hike in the woods or at the beach too.
My last date with Punk, on Thursday, was so fun! He didn't have lots of time to spend but we made the most of it. I have never had so much fun shopping with a man before in my life.
I wear this pair of legwarmers (remember the 80s?) around the house when it's chilly. Punk likes the look, and had been telling me we should get a couple sweaters and make the arms into legwarmers. So first we sorted thru women's sweaters and found 6 for me to try on. I also got a cute little yellow sweater for pixi.
Then we hit the housewares department. Punk was going around, picking things up and commenting on them, just like I like to do with miss pixi. Punk said he loves browsing in stores, it's calming for him. I feel the same way. So awesome to share this hobby.
I guess he's something of a metrosexual... But not in an annoying way.
So, we found a couple cute kitsch items (a couple of which will be Valentine's gifts for pixi), then we headed over to furniture. Nothing struck his fancy, so we went to men's clothing. He sifted through all the sweaters. He's color blind for green and blue. I am getting used to automatically telling him what colors things are. He found a couple sweaters to try on.
He also tried on a very sexy distressed leather jacket that was a bit too small. But he looked so hot in it, I took a picture of him. That man knows how to pose. I guess it comes from having been in a band for 10 years, he has an idea of how he comes across. I tease him and call him "male model," but it sure makes for some hot pix to lust over afterwards. Mmm...
We also found a "Snuggie" wrap thing that looked like a Hogwarts Griffyndor robe. He tried that on too, and I photographed him in it. He managed to make that look hot too. lol I guess I am a wee bit biased.
Then he found some jeans to try. We headed to the fitting rooms. After he tried on his sweaters and jeans, he joined me in my fitting room to see the sweaters on my legs. Another bucket list item/fanstasy checked, a sexy time in a fitting room with a man! (I've had several of those with miss pixi.) After he assessed the fit of the sweaters, he seemed to get a little aroused, and gave me some hot kisses. We didn't go further than that... But it was fun and felt naughty.
When we returned home we had a short but intense quickie (short for us, only 30 minutes), and then he had to go. He is coming over again tonight. We are planning on cooking a nice dinner together. I said I had pork chops and he requested I get some apricots to cook them in. A man that likes to cook and shop. Good lord. After 30+ years living with a guy who hated shopping, cooking and cleaning, it's such a fucking relief and pleasure to experience this.
Speaking of "love," I have noticed a couple times, when we are listening to music, if it's a song he really likes, and the lyrics mention "love," Punk will sometimes stroke my knee and give me this Look... I wonder...
Yesterday was fun being snowed in with pixi (altho I had to reschedule my first chiro appointment, darn it). I managed to clear the heavy wet 10"of snow from both our cars, and finished up just as our guy arrived to plow us out.
Last night, excellent dinner with pixi (she made coconut ginger lime fish and shrimp soup) and she was in a mood. Sexy time ensued, best we've had in a while. Yeah, baby.
I wear this pair of legwarmers (remember the 80s?) around the house when it's chilly. Punk likes the look, and had been telling me we should get a couple sweaters and make the arms into legwarmers. So first we sorted thru women's sweaters and found 6 for me to try on. I also got a cute little yellow sweater for pixi.
Then we hit the housewares department. Punk was going around, picking things up and commenting on them, just like I like to do with miss pixi. Punk said he loves browsing in stores, it's calming for him. I feel the same way. So awesome to share this hobby.
I guess he's something of a metrosexual... But not in an annoying way.
So, we found a couple cute kitsch items (a couple of which will be Valentine's gifts for pixi), then we headed over to furniture. Nothing struck his fancy, so we went to men's clothing. He sifted through all the sweaters. He's color blind for green and blue. I am getting used to automatically telling him what colors things are. He found a couple sweaters to try on.
He also tried on a very sexy distressed leather jacket that was a bit too small. But he looked so hot in it, I took a picture of him. That man knows how to pose. I guess it comes from having been in a band for 10 years, he has an idea of how he comes across. I tease him and call him "male model," but it sure makes for some hot pix to lust over afterwards. Mmm...
We also found a "Snuggie" wrap thing that looked like a Hogwarts Griffyndor robe. He tried that on too, and I photographed him in it. He managed to make that look hot too. lol I guess I am a wee bit biased.
Then he found some jeans to try. We headed to the fitting rooms. After he tried on his sweaters and jeans, he joined me in my fitting room to see the sweaters on my legs. Another bucket list item/fanstasy checked, a sexy time in a fitting room with a man! (I've had several of those with miss pixi.) After he assessed the fit of the sweaters, he seemed to get a little aroused, and gave me some hot kisses. We didn't go further than that... But it was fun and felt naughty.
When we returned home we had a short but intense quickie (short for us, only 30 minutes),
and then he had to go. He is coming over again tonight. We are planning on cooking a nice dinner together. I said I had pork chops and he requested I get some apricots to cook them in. A man that likes to cook and shop. Good lord. After 30+ years living with a guy who hated shopping, cooking and cleaning, it's such a fucking relief and pleasure to experience this. Speaking of "love," I have noticed a couple times, when we are listening to music, if it's a song he really likes, and the lyrics mention "love," Punk will sometimes stroke my knee and give me this Look... I wonder...
Yesterday was fun being snowed in with pixi (altho I had to reschedule my first chiro appointment, darn it). I managed to clear the heavy wet 10"of snow from both our cars, and finished up just as our guy arrived to plow us out.
Last night, excellent dinner with pixi (she made coconut ginger lime fish and shrimp soup) and she was in a mood. Sexy time ensued, best we've had in a while. Yeah, baby.
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2 more fun dates with Punk since the last time I updated. Last night we played Trivial Pursuit (he brought it) for hours with miss pixi. I won. I think Punk was impressed with my general knowledge. He knows a LOT of trivia.
Tomorrow pixi and I are going to the Fetish Flea in RI for the day. I was invited by this young guy I've been chatting with for about 7 years, on and off. He lives in Providence and is a musician and music teacher. He doesn't make much money yet, and doesn't have a car, so we've never met. I live 45 mins closer to RI than I used to, so we are taking the opportunity of the Flea to finally meet! He and some friends are renting a hotel room, and I plan to first meet him, along with pixi, for coffee. And if it feels right (and I am pretty sure it will) he and I will go to his hotel room for physical communication. He is kinky, and poly, and seems so warm and cuddly. His gf is out of town for the weekend, so I am glad he thought of me.
I had my first appointment with the chiropractor on Tuesday, got xrays but no adjustment. Today I go in for my first adjustment! I am still hurting from the injury the PT gave me... I can't wait to feel better!
He knows a LOT of trivia.Tomorrow pixi and I are going to the Fetish Flea in RI for the day. I was invited by this young guy I've been chatting with for about 7 years, on and off. He lives in Providence and is a musician and music teacher. He doesn't make much money yet, and doesn't have a car, so we've never met. I live 45 mins closer to RI than I used to, so we are taking the opportunity of the Flea to finally meet! He and some friends are renting a hotel room, and I plan to first meet him, along with pixi, for coffee. And if it feels right (and I am pretty sure it will) he and I will go to his hotel room for physical communication. He is kinky, and poly, and seems so warm and cuddly. His gf is out of town for the weekend, so I am glad he thought of me.
I had my first appointment with the chiropractor on Tuesday, got xrays but no adjustment. Today I go in for my first adjustment! I am still hurting from the injury the PT gave me... I can't wait to feel better!
Back from the chiro, where we looked at my xrays. He has determined my right leg is 6 cm shorter than my left, which would explain the pain I get in my right lower back. I got electro-stim, an adjustment and a heel lift for my right shoe. I hope we are on the right track! I am googling info where it seems studies show 66% of people with my kind of back pain have leg length discrepancy, almost always the right leg.
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Holy moley! Glad you're getting answers, but I'm surprised nobody noticed before now!
Hooray for progress!
Hooray for progress!
Holy moley! Glad you're getting answers, but I'm surprised nobody noticed before now!
Hooray for progress!
I was hoping you read this, YaH, since you're having pain as well. The chiro explained it in detail to me and I've also been googling it.
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I'll have to read up on that as well... I know when I was a kid, they used to do scoliosis checks in school and check hip alignment and all that, so I'm not expecting that to be a source of the pain, but who knows?
At any rate, PT has been working well for me (thankfully). I can sleep in bed without having to get up because my back hurts too much. No mattress change required! Just got my x-ray on my hip as well, since once I got off the anti-inflammatory, it felt the same way it did before. Boo.
Let's hope for continued progress!!
At any rate, PT has been working well for me (thankfully). I can sleep in bed without having to get up because my back hurts too much. No mattress change required! Just got my x-ray on my hip as well, since once I got off the anti-inflammatory, it felt the same way it did before. Boo.
Let's hope for continued progress!!
I'm glad they found some explanation for the pain. Hopefully the heel lift and adjustment will help!
Enjoy the Flea! I considered going, but it isn't something I want to go to alone, and Woody had decided not to go this year because Hair's going, and Woody thought that might be awkward. He said last year, Stella was presenting a workshop and looked out into the crowd to see Hair standing there...now *that* sounds awkward!
Enjoy the Flea! I considered going, but it isn't something I want to go to alone, and Woody had decided not to go this year because Hair's going, and Woody thought that might be awkward. He said last year, Stella was presenting a workshop and looked out into the crowd to see Hair standing there...now *that* sounds awkward!
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Most people do have leg length discrepancy of some sort, and one hip higher, and so on. But when the discrepancy is large, yep, pain. Sorry you've been going through that. I have suffered with scoliosis my whole life, and a pretty deep lordosis (swayback). I also have two herniated discs in my lower spine. Oddly enough, the work I do now -- on my feet all day -- has helped my back become stronger and have more endurance, though my feet are all fucked up now!
When I studied for the type of bodywork I used to do, I learned that most people tend to lean more on their left leg than their right. And people also tend to pivot around the leg they favor when they move. Shortening and tightening one side over the course of a lifetime will create an imbalance but there can be relief and changes made, albeit slowly!
Bone is not solid, of course, and so it responds to stressors like that kind of compression over time, which in turn affects the ligaments, muscles, etc. For example bone spurs at the heel (calcaneus) are the result of the bone there responding to overly tight calf muscles and can be remedied when the calf muscles are stretched and lengthened through massage and stretching. Then the calcifications are re-absorbed into the heel bone because they're not needed anymore. Bone material can change and shift, but extremely slowly.
The lift in your shoe should only be temporary. I would recommend a practitioner of Hellerwork or Structural Integration (Rolfing), as they know how to do deep-tissue work in ways that can help lengthen and elongate muscles, tendons, etc, and restore balance overall. Expensive but worth it. We humans are built like tensegrity structures, just like Bucky Fuller's geodesic dome! Stress is distributed through tension.
When I studied for the type of bodywork I used to do, I learned that most people tend to lean more on their left leg than their right. And people also tend to pivot around the leg they favor when they move. Shortening and tightening one side over the course of a lifetime will create an imbalance but there can be relief and changes made, albeit slowly!
Bone is not solid, of course, and so it responds to stressors like that kind of compression over time, which in turn affects the ligaments, muscles, etc. For example bone spurs at the heel (calcaneus) are the result of the bone there responding to overly tight calf muscles and can be remedied when the calf muscles are stretched and lengthened through massage and stretching. Then the calcifications are re-absorbed into the heel bone because they're not needed anymore. Bone material can change and shift, but extremely slowly.
The lift in your shoe should only be temporary. I would recommend a practitioner of Hellerwork or Structural Integration (Rolfing), as they know how to do deep-tissue work in ways that can help lengthen and elongate muscles, tendons, etc, and restore balance overall. Expensive but worth it. We humans are built like tensegrity structures, just like Bucky Fuller's geodesic dome! Stress is distributed through tension.
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Thanks for the well wishes and information! I walked around the house and went shopping with the heel lift in today and I feel more balanced. Tomorrow walking around the Flea will be a test. In my kinky boots. No, they aren't 4" stilettos, but they aren't sneakers either!
The Flea was fun! The place was packed with "our people," kinksters. The people watching alone was enjoyable. Wonderful outfits! Women in rope harnesses, people in collars and leashes, kinky boots and corseted cleavage galore. Some of the men looked quite dashing. There was one glorious drag queen sashaying around in a pink and black striped creation with a huge picture hat. I was in love.
I wore a burgundy velvet top, black and white leopard leggings and my studded black Steve Madden boots, and garnet jewelry, including a long faux garnet bead necklace with a golden Celtic cross pendant. pixi wore an ensemble that was easy to get in and out of, since she was going to try on clothes. A black and white tie dye tunic, black leggings and tall black high wedge heeled boots.
We got there kind of late (no surprise, since miss pixi had woken me at 3am for sex the night before, which hardly ever happens, and I loved it). By the time we found parking and registered, we only had about 30 mins before I had to locate the young man I had planned to meet there.
So we found each other, but he had the bad news his roommates were sleeping late in his hotel room after a late night. So we wandered around (miss p went off to scout the vendors)... and finally found ourselves a spot in a stairwell, in a nook right next to the door to the roof. Naughtiness ensued. hehe! He was very hot. Super horny for me. Quite cute, endearing and enjoyable. He didn't have much time to hang out since he was volunteering/working for the con. So, short and sweet, and a kinky way to start the day. A little Mama/son roleplay, as that had been a theme in our texting back when we used to chat more. (He had a nice big intact cock, which is my favorite, so, bonus!)
After he went off to shower before heading back to work, I found miss pixi and we spent hours shopping. She had a list from her Master of things to get, that he would pay for, so it was great fun for her to comparison shop! Fun for me too. I love dressing my Barbie doll. She tried on some latex dresses and tops and bought a really pretty, classy dress. We also sought and found some Scene Candles and bought 2 small ones. They are 3 temperatures in one candle, from coolish to hot! Just what we wanted. Looking forward to playing.
Edited to add: After some preliminary shopping, we rested for a while in the Pony Paddock. I always love to watch the dressueses put their human ponies through their paces. We spent about an hour watching them trot around, and giving people rides in carts. Their headdresses are elaborate and the tack is intricate and beautiful... the whole thing is very D/s.
We also went to one workshop on sacred sex. It was... OK. It was about Tao and Tantra, not Middle Eastern sacred union, Asherah, qudeshas and so on, as I would have preferred. The teacher knew nothing about those practices. She did mention Gnosticism and asked if anyone knew anything about it, lol. So I raised my hand and gave a quick explanation. The talk was about chakras, kundalini and all that, and we did one energy exchange practice.
Afterwards, we had dinner in the hotel's atrium, and shared a table with some excited funny younger folks. They were friendly and we all chatted.
We left around 9:30 as it was 3 degrees out, going down to -12. And we were tired. Good day.
miss pixi is going to her Master's tonight, as he took a long weekend. I've considered seeing if Punk is free... I didn't know about her going when he was last here so we didn't make plans, so he's probably made Galentine's plans with his 2 bffs, and I think I'd just rather rest up anyway! I am working tomorrow night so I'll probably see him Tuesday.
I wore a burgundy velvet top, black and white leopard leggings and my studded black Steve Madden boots, and garnet jewelry, including a long faux garnet bead necklace with a golden Celtic cross pendant. pixi wore an ensemble that was easy to get in and out of, since she was going to try on clothes. A black and white tie dye tunic, black leggings and tall black high wedge heeled boots.
We got there kind of late (no surprise, since miss pixi had woken me at 3am for sex the night before, which hardly ever happens, and I loved it). By the time we found parking and registered, we only had about 30 mins before I had to locate the young man I had planned to meet there.
So we found each other, but he had the bad news his roommates were sleeping late in his hotel room after a late night. So we wandered around (miss p went off to scout the vendors)... and finally found ourselves a spot in a stairwell, in a nook right next to the door to the roof. Naughtiness ensued. hehe! He was very hot. Super horny for me. Quite cute, endearing and enjoyable. He didn't have much time to hang out since he was volunteering/working for the con. So, short and sweet, and a kinky way to start the day. A little Mama/son roleplay, as that had been a theme in our texting back when we used to chat more. (He had a nice big intact cock, which is my favorite, so, bonus!)
After he went off to shower before heading back to work, I found miss pixi and we spent hours shopping. She had a list from her Master of things to get, that he would pay for, so it was great fun for her to comparison shop! Fun for me too. I love dressing my Barbie doll. She tried on some latex dresses and tops and bought a really pretty, classy dress. We also sought and found some Scene Candles and bought 2 small ones. They are 3 temperatures in one candle, from coolish to hot! Just what we wanted. Looking forward to playing.
Edited to add: After some preliminary shopping, we rested for a while in the Pony Paddock. I always love to watch the dressueses put their human ponies through their paces. We spent about an hour watching them trot around, and giving people rides in carts. Their headdresses are elaborate and the tack is intricate and beautiful... the whole thing is very D/s.
We also went to one workshop on sacred sex. It was... OK. It was about Tao and Tantra, not Middle Eastern sacred union, Asherah, qudeshas and so on, as I would have preferred. The teacher knew nothing about those practices. She did mention Gnosticism and asked if anyone knew anything about it, lol. So I raised my hand and gave a quick explanation. The talk was about chakras, kundalini and all that, and we did one energy exchange practice.
Afterwards, we had dinner in the hotel's atrium, and shared a table with some excited funny younger folks. They were friendly and we all chatted.
We left around 9:30 as it was 3 degrees out, going down to -12. And we were tired. Good day.
miss pixi is going to her Master's tonight, as he took a long weekend. I've considered seeing if Punk is free... I didn't know about her going when he was last here so we didn't make plans, so he's probably made Galentine's plans with his 2 bffs, and I think I'd just rather rest up anyway! I am working tomorrow night so I'll probably see him Tuesday.
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miss pixi finally went to see her Master yesterday afternoon into evening. Sounds like she had the best time ever. Her Master was so excited (partly from how she looked in the latex dress she got at the kink event), she said he came 4 times. He said he's never cum that many times in one day. Their relationship just keeps getting better. They also chat a lot online in between dates. I am so happy for her. Compersion!
I went to work at 6. The little 3 year old is going through a strong separation anxiety phase and freaked out when his mom was trying to leave. I kept encouraging her to go, he'd be fine after 5 minutes. But she spent 45 minutes trying to reason with him and get him calm before she left... she is so tenderhearted. She just couldn't make herself go. It was so stressful hearing him cry all that time. It was her and her husband's wedding anniversary... he went to the restaurant at some point to claim their reservation. Finally she just paid me for the full 4 hours and let me go, saying she'd just bring both boys to the restaurant.
So I got home much earlier than I thought I would! It was snowing for my drive, 45 minutes each way, so that was kind of stressful too. But miss p was home already, and had ordered a calzone with marinara sauce, and she'd gotten beer too. That was the best calzone I ever had, and best marinara too! I felt so nurtured to come home to yummy food and beer after my stress at work.
We watched the last 2 episodes of last season's Better Call Saul. Turns out we'd never seen the final episode,and it was really good, so that was a bonus. (I recorded the Grammys so we can watch Lady Gaga's Bowie tribute later.) I made it halfway through the first episode of the new season but then got sleepy. Miss p followed me upstairs and she wanted sex... still on a high from her date. So that was lots of fun, good intense loving orgasms for both of us.
Tonight I get to see Punk. Yum yum. Tomorrow miss pixi and I are going to our favorite pub to play Trivia and see our friend K. I invited Punk to that as well. He isn't sure he can go... Wednesdays are hard for his mom since she gets chemo twice a month on that day and feels extra sick. If he does go, he'll take his own car in case he needs to leave early.
Their relationship just keeps getting better. They also chat a lot online in between dates. I am so happy for her. Compersion!I went to work at 6. The little 3 year old is going through a strong separation anxiety phase and freaked out when his mom was trying to leave. I kept encouraging her to go, he'd be fine after 5 minutes. But she spent 45 minutes trying to reason with him and get him calm before she left... she is so tenderhearted. She just couldn't make herself go. It was so stressful hearing him cry all that time. It was her and her husband's wedding anniversary... he went to the restaurant at some point to claim their reservation. Finally she just paid me for the full 4 hours and let me go, saying she'd just bring both boys to the restaurant.
So I got home much earlier than I thought I would! It was snowing for my drive, 45 minutes each way, so that was kind of stressful too. But miss p was home already, and had ordered a calzone with marinara sauce, and she'd gotten beer too. That was the best calzone I ever had, and best marinara too! I felt so nurtured to come home to yummy food and beer after my stress at work.
We watched the last 2 episodes of last season's Better Call Saul. Turns out we'd never seen the final episode,and it was really good, so that was a bonus. (I recorded the Grammys so we can watch Lady Gaga's Bowie tribute later.) I made it halfway through the first episode of the new season but then got sleepy. Miss p followed me upstairs and she wanted sex... still on a high from her date. So that was lots of fun, good intense loving orgasms for both of us.
Tonight I get to see Punk. Yum yum.
Tomorrow miss pixi and I are going to our favorite pub to play Trivia and see our friend K. I invited Punk to that as well. He isn't sure he can go... Wednesdays are hard for his mom since she gets chemo twice a month on that day and feels extra sick. If he does go, he'll take his own car in case he needs to leave early.