wearelookin
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Hello everyone,
To start, my husband asked me to look into polyamory last night. So I did, and this is one of the sites that I found. I am glad I did! We have learned so much more in the last 12 to 18 hours than we ever have before.
This is a very condensed version of our story. We have been married for 16 years. After our first year of marriage, Warren admitted to me that he was bisexual, and had been having an affair with my best friend (a gay male) for almost the whole time we'd dated. He could not handle the stress of knowing he was attracted to men, needed their affection, and not being able to tell me. He was ready for me to leave him, kick him out, something. He had convinced himself it was better than lying to me.
I couldn't do it. I couldn't let him go. I had married him for better or for worse. Right then, it was bad. I accepted him. He could not believe it, a woman wanting to stay with a man who desired men, too.
Needless to say, I thought of someone whom we could both be with. It was an ex-boyfriend of mine. I finally got up the nerve to ask him if it was okay for Warren and me to both be with him sexually. He said yes. He wasn't attracted to guys, but wouldn't mind being with us. This turned into an almost 10-year (on again/off again) relationship. It wasn't just sexual. We were friends. We slept in the same bed. We did almost everything together.
When that relationship finally ended, for a time, Warren and I were happy to be with just each other. But the need for male attention became too much for him again. Not knowing where to turn, we started looking for someone on AdultFriendFinder (AFF). We were on that site for the last three years or so. We have made friends from the site, but we have not found "the one." There have been guys that were close, but not it.
This not finding "him" has became too much for Warren in the last couple weeks. He was ready to either end our marriage, and run away with a gay man he met on another site (adam4adam), or just end his life. It was hard! We talked, we cried, we talked more... but we made it through. We are tired of "empty sex." We both want someone who will care for both of us. That is how I ended up here.
Since we are looking for a serious relationship with another bi male, why not look somewhere where there are other families like we want to be? Get the insight, get the knowledge that we have been lacking, get to know people!
I hope this helps someone else that is going through a tough marriage. I hope others can help us through our marriage. We know there is someone out there for us.
Thanks for reading.
To start, my husband asked me to look into polyamory last night. So I did, and this is one of the sites that I found. I am glad I did! We have learned so much more in the last 12 to 18 hours than we ever have before.
This is a very condensed version of our story. We have been married for 16 years. After our first year of marriage, Warren admitted to me that he was bisexual, and had been having an affair with my best friend (a gay male) for almost the whole time we'd dated. He could not handle the stress of knowing he was attracted to men, needed their affection, and not being able to tell me. He was ready for me to leave him, kick him out, something. He had convinced himself it was better than lying to me.
I couldn't do it. I couldn't let him go. I had married him for better or for worse. Right then, it was bad. I accepted him. He could not believe it, a woman wanting to stay with a man who desired men, too.
Needless to say, I thought of someone whom we could both be with. It was an ex-boyfriend of mine. I finally got up the nerve to ask him if it was okay for Warren and me to both be with him sexually. He said yes. He wasn't attracted to guys, but wouldn't mind being with us. This turned into an almost 10-year (on again/off again) relationship. It wasn't just sexual. We were friends. We slept in the same bed. We did almost everything together.
When that relationship finally ended, for a time, Warren and I were happy to be with just each other. But the need for male attention became too much for him again. Not knowing where to turn, we started looking for someone on AdultFriendFinder (AFF). We were on that site for the last three years or so. We have made friends from the site, but we have not found "the one." There have been guys that were close, but not it.
This not finding "him" has became too much for Warren in the last couple weeks. He was ready to either end our marriage, and run away with a gay man he met on another site (adam4adam), or just end his life. It was hard! We talked, we cried, we talked more... but we made it through. We are tired of "empty sex." We both want someone who will care for both of us. That is how I ended up here.
Since we are looking for a serious relationship with another bi male, why not look somewhere where there are other families like we want to be? Get the insight, get the knowledge that we have been lacking, get to know people!
I hope this helps someone else that is going through a tough marriage. I hope others can help us through our marriage. We know there is someone out there for us.
Thanks for reading.
