Partner going on first date

[Brazen]

Hi everyone

My partner and I are dipping our toes into poly after 6 years of ENM. Plaid is off on a first 'proper' date this weekend with someone he has known for some years. They have been flirting for years, then kissed on a night out recently. Although we have both been meeting people since we met, this is a step change to poly, as previous meetings for both of us had very different expectations.

I am nervous, excited for him and a touch terrified. I really hope it goes well for them both. But who knows in any relationship? And of course I wonder about the implications for me. I am of the view that all relationships physically end. Either breaking up, or death, however emotionally they can continue.

Plaid and I are very different personalities. I am a planner, pushy and headstrong. He is impulsive, far sweeter than me and malleable. (The latter aspect I have to ensure I do not manipulate.)

At the moment, I have no desire to find a relationship for myself. I don't have the head space and have no desire to venture into something just because he is. Also, I have zero interest in creating some kind of intimate triad at all, even though I am bi.

I guess I'm just offloading on here.

 

[kdt26417]

Hello Brazen,

It is normal and natural to feel nervous, excited, even a bit terrified, when your partner goes on a first date. You do not know what to expect. I am hopeful that things will turn out well, but you never know until the date is done. Good luck to all three of you, and feel free to vent whenever you need to.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.

 

[Magdlyn]

I have zero interest in creating some kind of intimate triad at all, even though I am bi.

Thank god.

 

[Brazen]

Hello Brazen,

It is normal and natural to feel nervous, excited, even a bit terrified, when your partner goes on a first date. You do not know what to expect. I am hopeful that things will turn out well, but you never know until the date is done. Good luck to all three of you, and feel free to vent whenever you need to.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.

Thanks Kevin...I will be out with my own friends when Plaid is on his date. So will be too busy laughing and chatting to think about it too much. Let's hope it goes well for both of them.

 

[Brazen]

Thank god.

Lol. Yes I've always made it very clear that I no interest in a triad. Far too complicated in my view. If or when I choose to have another partner I would love to develop that relationship without the complications of being part of a triad

 

[kdt26417]

Good idea ... going out with friends when Plaid goes on his date. It's a first date so hopefully it goes well.