Personal Summaries

About Me/Us in Florida Panhandle

To start with, I am the wife of a couple, we have been married 9 1/2 years together for 12. When he (McGuyver) asks I'll help him get signed up here.

Since we have been together we have always had an open relationship, bringing close friends into our little bubble for intimacy. I fully knew that he was capable of loving more than one person intimately since the beginning, though there were never any instances without me being involved intimately since we became lovers.

Until recently, I never thought about becoming more than just the two of us on a permanent basis. While my preference is to add another woman for the both of us to love, it seems that it doesn't matter to my husband whether we grow our family with a male or female, :confused: as he would enjoy me to have another love, as seeing me happy makes him happy. However, I am not sure that I want to add another husband. But I am open to it and if it happens it happens. (I wasn't looking for the hubby I have, and here we are 10 years later, but wouldn't trade him for the world. :D)

We have recently come to the end of a relationship with someone and hubby is taking it harder than I am. But then again, I don't share feelings or get close to people as quickly as he does. We both know that time will heal the open wounds. It will take time. I guess I saw her pulling away from both of us a lot more quickly than he did, so I guess I was more prepared for the break-up than he was.

While this hurts now, there were some very good things that came out of this relationship. My hubby used to work 7 days a week, never taking the day off. L helped make this change as hubby began to take time off from our everyday grind when L had her days off, so that we could go do things together. Even his younger daughters noticed a difference in both of us, that we were happier, and even gave me (their stepmother) compliments!

I look forward to meeting new friends and wait patiently for our next relationship. I can only imagine living with both my soulmates.
 
Lots of information. Here's the short and sweet. We are a non-monogamous couple that's generally reluctant to join groups or attach labels to ourselves. We've both been in various swinging or poly-type relationships before we met up.

We've been together 3 years and have had relationships with couples and single females. She's bi. He's straight, but tolerant enough of bi men that it doesn't throw him off. He's just not participating.

Somewhere between swinging and poly is where we are. We generally don't go for the "all-time high score of sex partners." but we also don't believe that to have sex with someone involves watching their kids or pets the next weekend. No, we're not paying your bills, either. We don't need to grow our armpit hair out, bang on a drum in the moonlight, or wear Birkenstocks and a Bob Marley T-shirt. While we're at it, we're free of disease, children, religion, and other drugs, as well.

We're on an adventure together-- and that's the key thing to understand here, "together." We are together or it's not happening. Don't ask to date him or her separately and you won't be disappointed. If that doesn't work for you, doesn't fit your idea of how we should live, that's totally ok; we didn't ask. We are 100% honest and transparent with each other at all times and reviewed this together before posting it.

It's unfortunate that an introduction needs to start with such negative signage out front. It's kind of like the "Thank you for not smoking" sign you see in front of a restaurant. (Or used to-- I'm showing my age here.) It's not that it's not a great restaurant, that the food isn't terrific and the service outstanding, it's that if we're ALL going to enjoy this we need some common courtesy to be observed.

So, if you like riding motorcycles (fast) or like riding horses (fast) or like working out (hard) or like music (everything except country and classic rock, seriously - no "Lynrd Skynrd" is allowed) or good food (and we are up for pretty much every form of food that isn't from a chain) then odds are we'll have something to talk about.

He's a lunatic, and pretty unapologetic about it. She's the sane one. We're friendly, outgoing, very passionate about life, always happy to meet like-minded individualists.
 
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Several weeks ago began a most amazing exchange of emails between myself and an extraordinary, beautiful, but geographically distant woman. We "met" here in this forum. To our mutual delight, we discovered that we share almost everything in common with one another. Our compatibility and resonance with one another is simply off the charts.

At this point it is clear that we love one another. It brings us great joy to know that we are here for one another. And there are mutual "romantic" feelings, too. Still, we haven't spent face-to-face time yet, and -- realistically -- it's too soon to say what sort of loving relationship will develop. What we do know is that it will be loving. We're already great, loving, friends. And I look forward to hugs and kisses down the road, as it seems she does as well. Still, I hold this beautiful thing lightly and with joyous ease. We have plans to see one another in September.:)
 
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A little about SunshineAngel

I have not made my way through this entire site as of yet, but working on it. For now, here is a small tidbit of information about us.

I have been married to my husband for 20 years this past January, together for 25 (high school sweethearts). We have two teenage boys, who I'm sure realized long ago that we weren't your typical "mom and dad." :D I'm sure those that know us personally will figure out who this is from that statement alone - and to them I ask the same respect now as I've always given you. :) ty

We have been hobby swingers for about 10 years now. DH has a sex drive that I just couldn't keep up with in the beginning, so a gf he was told to find. :) For us, we prefer relationships rather then a 'wham-bam-thank you ma'am' type of approach. Everyone has their way of doing things... This is ours.

I have been interested in a poly (triad more so) relationship for at least half our hobby years, and we have made a couple attempts, some of which have ended very badly, others not so badly. We are currently in another triad relationship, and it too has its own set of complications (another post to be made in another area), but we feel we have learnt a lot from our other experiences...

More to follow as I think of it. Thanks for reading about me.
 
Been reading through the forum for a while now and regularly reading and semi-regularly posting on other poly/mono groups. Decided it was time to introduce myself.

I'm a straight mono female involved with a straight poly male, D. He has two other straight mono female partners, Ki and Ka.

D is 50, Ki is 52, Ka is 51 and I'm 44. I've been with him 3 years; Ka about 3 1/2 years; he and Ki dated for a few months when they were in their early 20s, then were apart for a number of years and started seeing each other on and off about 12 years ago. During the time apart, both married and divorced. Ka is divorced also and I've never been married. None of us live with D nor have children with him. Ka moved in with Ki in January after her rent increased dramatically. D lives with his brother and I live alone.

We are all committed to the relationship and see it as long-term. D is not looking for and does not want any more relationships. Three is his magic number. The three of us are not looking for other relationships.

My relationship with D has evolved during the time we've been together, as have his relationships with Ka and Ki, along with the relationships between us girls and all four of us. I am working on a much more in-depth post covering this, along with the biggest ongoing issues we face as we build a family together.

And that's it in a nutshell. Hope to get the longer post up in the next couple of days.

Thanks for reading.
 
Hello! We're Anthony and Llanya.

We've been dating for three point five years and have a very happy relationship. To put it in simple, not mushy-gushy terms, we love each other.

We met in freshmen year of high school, and have been dating ever since. It's not long for out of school, which we are for now, but it's really long for a high-school relationship.

We want someone else to share this love with, preferably female, close to our age, which is 18, at the moment. :)

Anyway, she is an artist and loves to draw. He is a technology nerd and loves it. We both love writing, roleplaying online (play by post) and even playing video games every once in a while. We would love to travel here and there from time to time.

Well, that's us... Mostly. :)
 
Keith and Lise

We have an amazing relationship which supports our desires. It's rare to find a match where each other totally has the other's back. As part of our life, we make sure each other over-achieves in our wants and desires.

My husband has an amazing sex drive and which I support and enjoy. In the past we have had another join. We don't bar hop, hit on co-workers or friends. Our back ground is in M/s and light BDSM, not swinging. Ideally I'd like him to have a girlfriend that fits into our life. We are rather busy and spend lots of time with our horses. Not looking for one-night anything, but rather a long-term situation where we enjoy each other's company. That brings us looking into the idea of a poly arrangement, allowing another woman openly into our relationship.

Btw, we are in Portland, Oregon, assuming anyone might be in our area.

Thanks for reading.
 
an introduction

hi, i just joined the forum today although i have read various topics in it beginning in 2008 when my poly relationship started.

currently, i am involved with a married man. we began our involvement in 2008, though we have known each other for over a decade. we have always been good friends and our friendship is the basis of our relationship.

we have been through HILLS AND VALLEYS, i tell you! the main issue being his wife. he grew up in a polygynous household and told his wife as much. he also was maintaining a full-fledged relationship with one woman when he met the woman he would late marry. due to irreconcilable differences, the first partner and he broke up and he married the second.

now there's me. when he decided he wanted me to be his other wife, he informed me. i told him to discuss it with his wife. they did. long story short, she agreed... and then changed her mind shortly thereafter (4 months).

the problem was that he and i had already opened the "love" chamber, which was built on more than a decade of friendship and we could not let go. as a result of this there has been a lot of strife in our relationship, which is only now evening out. but all along the wife has tried to sabotage my relationship with manipulation and dishonesty. i love my partner and i entered into the relationship with the intention of having a three-way partnership, wherein we all had two partners. she, having continually violated my trust and hurt my feelings, no longer qualifies, and my focus is him. maybe later on down the line she and i can work things out. i don't know.

issues i am trying to work through include:
can i ever have legal protection in this relationship and if so, how do i get it?
how do i live openly as a person who is sharing a man?
how do i come out, as it were? what strategies do other people use?
how can she and i have separate lives/relationships with him and still have it "work?"
is there anyone else having this kind of relationship? i worry about future asset division and children and things of that sort and am looking for ways to address these fears as i move forward.

i'm learning a lot from the community and i appreciate the space to discuss issues. it's hard talking to monos and mono-minded folk about this kinda stuff. though i think i'm relatively smart, i'm also inexperienced in this arena and will probably do more asking than informing. in any case, i'm looking forward to the learning. thanks!
 
New here

My husband and I are both bisexual and have an open marriage. I'd been in an open relationship before but it was a disaster. Good thing my husband is awesome!

We've each had a few hookups, and while he was out of the country on business for a while I had a relationship with a lovely man. Thing is, I'd love to date a woman next, but it's proven difficult for me. On top of that, we've had to be very, very discreet about what we do. I'm hoping for an opportunity later on, though!
 
River~~ (posting as trueRiver)

My name is River, posting on these boards as trueRiver.

Please do not confuse me with a a senior member here, who posts as River. For both of us, 'River' is a chosen name, and in my case it is official, as I have done a 'deed poll' under English law.

I prefer to use River with no title and no surname. (I usually spell it as River~~ online as the twiddly bits look like very slightly like a River)

I have been in poly and mono relationships, but have had the polyamorous mindset since 1984, i.e., since before the word was coined. I only discovered the word in May 2011, and have been catching up since with all the material on the net that I fundamentally agree with.

I have two children, one born into an approximately poly relationship in 1987, and one born into a mono relationship in 2005.

I worship with Quakers.

I will post more here at a later date.
 
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I am Critter. My husband (Fish), and I have been married for 7 years. I recently admitted that I have cloistered feelings for a college roommate of mine (Devo) for at least the past 9 years (while Fish and I were dating). I was too afraid to admit these feelings to myself, let alone anyone else.

We have formed a V. It's not perfect, by any means, but it is working. She is gay, has never dated a male. I have never dated a female until her. My husband has not expressed an interest in finding a gf, but if he does, I told him that she HAS to fit into the family dynamic. Devo is family to me. I'd make her my legal wife if it were allowed. We are currently looking into things like power of attorney and other legal crap, in case there is an emergency. I have two children, Z and W, with Fish. They both love Devo.

Devo currently lives out of state, but we try to see each other often. We were very spoiled with time together this summer.

We are very very selective of the people we tell, and that has also been hard on me. I'm proud of my relationship status, and really want to tell the world and have them accept Devo for who and what she is. Unfortunately, society makes that nearly impossible.

Big smiles, my friends. :D
 
Beginning summary

I am female. I guess with a name like Kimberly that isn't too hard to figure out. I am poly. I met my husband when i was 21. I am now 37. He is mono. I never explored poly love at all while we were "together." We have three children. We are married at present moment, but will probably be divorced some day. We live separately, but love each other in the way that couples who have been married for 17 years grow to love each other.

4 years ago I reconnected with my first kiss. He and I are now together. We raise my children and share a life. This is separate from my marriage. We are not married, of course, and depending upon whether my husband and I ever divorce, we may never marry. But he is my primary relationship and I am devastatingly in love with him. He is mono.

I was extremely suppressed in my marriage. I had no voice. I felt like I had no opinions, no choices. It was smothering and stifling. I never had poly love. I just engaged in lots of cheating behind his back. I now know that I was fighting to be myself for years.

Coming into my second relationship, I promised to never lie, to be open and completely honest at all times. We talk, and I mean talk, about everything, constantly. I have since learned that I am prone to poly love. I am comfortable with it. I have learned to hate myself so much less and to explore what this means.

I am currently in an on again off again relationship with someone else who is mono. Most of the time it doesn't work. Jealousy abounds. I know that I want my relationship that I have been in for 4 years to work. I also know that this other relationship has the potential to make me happy. If it doesn't, I'd be fine with dissolving it. My primary is my focus.

I am not looking for anyone else. I don't know that I will ever LOOK for someone. If Prince Charming number two comes along, FANTASTIC. If he doesn't, that is fine too. As long as the options for me to explore are always there, I am content. I want happy children who don't judge anyone for whom they choose to love. I want a happy spouse who is fulfilled and confident and comfortable. And then there is me. I want to be... captivated, consumed. I want to feel with all of my might until I can't feel anything anymore.

I am 37, an attractive brunette with brown eyes. I am intelligent, emotional and honest, almost to a fault. I love strongly. I love deeply. I love great.

That is me in a nutshell. I look forward to getting to know everyone here. Thank you for your time.
 
Dave and Dani

Merry Meet All,
We are David and Danette, we are a handfasted couple living in and around St. Augustine, FL. We are full time rv campers, planning on travelling the country soon. We were in a poly relationship with another woman that didn't work out, but we are hopeful for the future!
 
Hello.

I am Don. I've been married for 10 years, have two kids (ages 8 and 6), and our marriage has been poly for about two years.

My wife has had several relationships in the past two years, whereas I have had a couple of false starts coupled with some major down time from an auto accident a year and a half ago. I am currently fully recovered,and getting back into the swing of things, so to speak.

I am looking to meet people and learn, and hope to make some more like minded friends in the future.

Don
 
I live in NYC and find I am part of a poly relationship

After 20-plus years together, my wife has found a boyfriend. I am 16 years older than my wife and her boyfriend is 16 years younger than her. We have an active sex life which has gotten better since the boyfriend arrived. All parties are in good shape and health. I am retired. My wife is a yoga/bodyworker. The new boyfriend is a bodyworker.

The wife has been open about the relationship. She says she loves us both, and that the boyfriend will find someone younger and have a family.
We have a family all grown up.

She is OK with me finding someone, but since I don't work, I do not normally meet other women who I would get to know.

I am going to a retreat in a couple of weeks in the Catskill Mountains where I may meet like-minded women. I would really like to meet women who would be into this situation, because I really love my wife. I am open to loving more than one person, but it will be a new experience. As you can guess, I am a real senior, but am very active.

I would appreciate all feedback.
 
Hi, I'm Rothko. I go by Rothko all over the internet, so unless you're looking for the painter Mark Rothko, I'm not hard to find. I don't purposely *announce* that I'm poly all over the place, but I'm out to my friends. I think some of them are judgmental, but they're nice enough not to say anything about it.

I'm nearly 40 and married. Polyamory is something that is kinda new to us, but kinda not really at all. The hubster basically had what amounted to a poly thing in college, where he and a friend were dating the same girl, to the knowledge of everyone involved. While Hubster and I were long-distance before we were married, I had a serious relationship with a guy in my own town. Then I dated a woman briefly. At some point after we were married, Hubster dated a guy for a while.

So some of that was open-ish and some of it was poly. I really fell for the guy in my own town and loved him every bit as much as I love Hubster. That was in like 1996, so quite a while ago now. The other guy is happily married, and I am not a part of that, which is fine. Our lives just took very different directions.

This year it's become a much more prominent factor in our relationship. A friend of ours at a sex-positive party asked us if she could make out with us both, and that's turned into fun playtime dates, though not a serious relationship. I just ended a brief (2.5-month) relationship with another woman. She was sooo my physical type, but I ended up projecting emotional stuff onto her, and she really just wasn't as into me as I was into her... so I learned a hard lesson there. I just fell too far, too fast, and hard. Ouch.

I am still looking for a female partner to be with on a serious level, but local people only. I am not doing long distance ever again.
 
Jealous of all your choices

I hope I have a story like yours. Being heterosexual restricts me to females. My wife plays with females, but her current poly partner is a much younger man. I just met him yesterday.
 
I'm complicated, but lovable and full of passion

Hello, my name is Shabba. I'm gonna lay it all on the line. I've kinda tried the poly life. I was once dating a girl and a guy same time. They were dating each other, too. We lived together and shared our kids and stuff.

Now on to why I'm complicated. I have bipolar. I am medicated and it's under control. I'm a single mom. No one can ever seem to get past those two facts. I have lot of passion and love to share. My problem is I can't stay with just one guy. I've tried it and it just doesn't work. I'd love to be where I could have two guys who could love me and accept me, with a sister wife. I love and miss the special bond two women seem to share. some Some friends tell me I'm wrong; others say poly would be perfect for me. I'm wandering if this is even a possibility. Hoping to find people who can get past my bipolar and get to know me. I promise I'm worth getting to know. Let's chat and see where it goes.
 
Where do you live?

I would like to exchange info, including photos.

I took bi-polar meds for 20 years. Now off and no need.

No interest in sharing households at present time, but who knows?

How old are your kids?
 
Anyone in Victoria BC?

Hi. I am in my early thirties and wanting to meet polyamorous couples and women in Victoria.
 
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