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Bisexual/pansexual gender-fluid male in So Cal
My name is Darrin. I'm fully bisexual. Really, I'm pansexual. I adore androgyny and gender bending/blending people. I'm a part-time, passable "crossdresser." (I do go out in public. This is not just for the bedroom, but it's not full time.) I identify as gender fluid. I have been married, and I have experimented with multiple sex partners in the past. I am involved somewhat in the local fetish scene here in Southern California (Orange County), but that is for "spicing things up," not a 24/7 lifestyle.
I'm new to Cali, and I love it here, so there is very little chance that I would ever move away from here (unless it's to another warm locale without winter, that is!) I would consider Northern Cali, Oregon or Washington state.
After much soul searching, experience, and consideration, I know that I'm wired for polyamory. Therefore, I'm seeking a polyamorous situation. That could either mean finding a partner to start a poly situation with, or joining an existing couple. My preference would be to start something new. It might be difficult to be an equal part of a relationship that is already established (but not impossible with the right people). My preference would also be a M/F couple, but I'm open to all possibilities.
I'm trying to figure out how to get a photo on my profile, by the way.
I'm smart, fun, creative, employed, and emotionally stable. If I sound like your cup of tea, please contact me.
My name is Darrin. I'm fully bisexual. Really, I'm pansexual. I adore androgyny and gender bending/blending people. I'm a part-time, passable "crossdresser." (I do go out in public. This is not just for the bedroom, but it's not full time.) I identify as gender fluid. I have been married, and I have experimented with multiple sex partners in the past. I am involved somewhat in the local fetish scene here in Southern California (Orange County), but that is for "spicing things up," not a 24/7 lifestyle.
I'm new to Cali, and I love it here, so there is very little chance that I would ever move away from here (unless it's to another warm locale without winter, that is!) I would consider Northern Cali, Oregon or Washington state.
After much soul searching, experience, and consideration, I know that I'm wired for polyamory. Therefore, I'm seeking a polyamorous situation. That could either mean finding a partner to start a poly situation with, or joining an existing couple. My preference would be to start something new. It might be difficult to be an equal part of a relationship that is already established (but not impossible with the right people). My preference would also be a M/F couple, but I'm open to all possibilities.
I'm trying to figure out how to get a photo on my profile, by the way.
I'm smart, fun, creative, employed, and emotionally stable. If I sound like your cup of tea, please contact me.
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MNfreethinker
New member
Now to attempt a introduction. I am a 42-year old man who has always thought of poly, but the beliefs I was raised with made that not an option. I have recently become a born-again atheist. 
After all, we are all born atheists. Enough of this, now for the polyamory part. I am married. Long story short, I am interested in learning more about poly. Feel free to ask me any questions and I will answer most, if not all of them.
After all, we are all born atheists. Enough of this, now for the polyamory part. I am married. Long story short, I am interested in learning more about poly. Feel free to ask me any questions and I will answer most, if not all of them.
vanille
New member
New Orleans
I am 25 (female, bicurious) and my partner is 26 (heterosexual). We have been in a mono relationship for almost ten years. We have a great relationship. We are each other's best friend. We have great communication. We wonder if there is anything we can't overcome.
We are both sci-fi readers and that's what introduced us to the idea of polyamory. We are poly noobs and are still in the research phase. We have been considering it for a long time, but are almost ready to take the leap. After nearly 10 years together and with a long life ahead of us, we don't want to stagnate. Also, he is a very sexual person, while I am not. We don't want to break up, but we want us both to be satisfied (with me not feeling obligated to having sex all the time, and him still being sexually satisfied).
Our biggest challenge is finding a local poly community. We'd love to meet others in this community, but can't find much in our area. I'm glad we found this forum.
I am 25 (female, bicurious) and my partner is 26 (heterosexual). We have been in a mono relationship for almost ten years. We have a great relationship. We are each other's best friend. We have great communication. We wonder if there is anything we can't overcome.
We are both sci-fi readers and that's what introduced us to the idea of polyamory. We are poly noobs and are still in the research phase. We have been considering it for a long time, but are almost ready to take the leap. After nearly 10 years together and with a long life ahead of us, we don't want to stagnate. Also, he is a very sexual person, while I am not. We don't want to break up, but we want us both to be satisfied (with me not feeling obligated to having sex all the time, and him still being sexually satisfied).
Our biggest challenge is finding a local poly community. We'd love to meet others in this community, but can't find much in our area. I'm glad we found this forum.
hyperskeptic
New member
After nearly 17 years of marriage, my wife and I decided last March to open our relationship. While I'm allergic to labels and generally don't want to join anyone's club, "polyamory" comes closest to how I think about relationships.
My wife and I don't have many presuppositions about what our life and our network of relationships will eventually look like. As a starting point, we regard ourselves as individuals, committed to one another and to our children, who are each, on our own, open to forming intimate relationships of various kinds with other people, with friendship as the foundation of each.
Each of us is just getting started, but early signs are promising.
My wife and I don't have many presuppositions about what our life and our network of relationships will eventually look like. As a starting point, we regard ourselves as individuals, committed to one another and to our children, who are each, on our own, open to forming intimate relationships of various kinds with other people, with friendship as the foundation of each.
Each of us is just getting started, but early signs are promising.
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lianam2002
New member
Hello out there
I am new here and came across this site from a search. I am married but I have always wondered what I was missing in my life. I have 'cheated' on my husbands (plural). I think I just get bored. I have loved them all. I do have affection for anyone I have ever had sex with. When I heard of polyamory, I thought, "Wow, this is what I have been searching for!" LOL
Now that I am here, where do I go from here? I read the guidelines, rules and options, but since I am not experienced in polyamory, but would like to be in a poly relationship, can anyone push me in the right direction? (I hope I am in the right spot.)
I am new here and came across this site from a search. I am married but I have always wondered what I was missing in my life. I have 'cheated' on my husbands (plural). I think I just get bored. I have loved them all. I do have affection for anyone I have ever had sex with. When I heard of polyamory, I thought, "Wow, this is what I have been searching for!" LOL
Now that I am here, where do I go from here? I read the guidelines, rules and options, but since I am not experienced in polyamory, but would like to be in a poly relationship, can anyone push me in the right direction? (I hope I am in the right spot.)
Hello Everyone,
My wife and I have been together for 12 yrs and married for 10. After many struggles and talk of divorce, and the idea of an open relationship, we started to get close with a friend of ours. During online research discovered the term “polyamorous” and learned about the differences between polygamy and polyamory. The idea of this was absolutely perfect for our situation.
For simplicity's sake:
Me: Dera (30)
Wife: Lily (31)
Girlfriend: Yuna (23)
Child (of mine and Lily's): Monster (4)
I will post detailed information about our status where I can on the site, but for right now, we've been together semi-officially for about 3 weeks to a month. The only sexual activity happening at this time between any of us is directly between Lily and me, though the desire is there to go further when possible. (Details necessary; will post in more appropriate post.) A this time we are planning on keeping the relationship closed between the three of us, with the plan of something long-term.
Looking forward to meeting everyone on the boards. Once everyone is here and registered, I hope to drop the nicknames, if for no other reason than a formal introduction.
My wife and I have been together for 12 yrs and married for 10. After many struggles and talk of divorce, and the idea of an open relationship, we started to get close with a friend of ours. During online research discovered the term “polyamorous” and learned about the differences between polygamy and polyamory. The idea of this was absolutely perfect for our situation.
For simplicity's sake:
Me: Dera (30)
Wife: Lily (31)
Girlfriend: Yuna (23)
Child (of mine and Lily's): Monster (4)
I will post detailed information about our status where I can on the site, but for right now, we've been together semi-officially for about 3 weeks to a month. The only sexual activity happening at this time between any of us is directly between Lily and me, though the desire is there to go further when possible. (Details necessary; will post in more appropriate post.) A this time we are planning on keeping the relationship closed between the three of us, with the plan of something long-term.
Looking forward to meeting everyone on the boards. Once everyone is here and registered, I hope to drop the nicknames, if for no other reason than a formal introduction.
Hi, I'm Mari82, a 29-year old chick from California, not married, no kids. I've been in a heterosexual, monogamous relationship with a guy for almost 5 years, which I consider my first "adult" relationship, since it's been the longest, and he was my first sexual partner.
So, I've been very poly-curious (is that a real term?) for quite some time now, but I have zero experience with it. Right now I'm reading "Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships", by Tristan Taormino. It's been incredibly insightful.
I've been friends with a married couple for around 7 years, and it was their open marriage that first introduced me to the concept and sparked my interest. I love them, but I wouldn't say they're the best example. The guy has boundary issues, for one thing. He's a bit bipolar and needy, and (without crossing the line too much), has tried to initiate physical contact that I didn't want, even after I told him I wasn't interested several times. You'd think that would put me off to the idea. But luckily, my bad experiences with him haven't ruined my opinion of polyamory in general, and I think this may even be a lifestyle I'm more suited for than monogamy.
The only hitch (and it's a big one) is that it's most likely not right for my boyfriend. I haven't directly asked for an open relationship (yet), but I've tested the waters by bringing it up in conversation. He doesn't seem warm to the idea. This is pretty big, because it means that if I truly want to explore this lifestyle, I'll probably have to end this relationship. To be honest, we've been growing apart, and have faced some vital incompatibility issues lately. We're hot and cold on a lot of things: common interests, intimacy styles, needs, wants, etc. We love each other, but it seems that whatever we do might not be enough. I want to say that by no means am I trying to use polyamory to skirt the issues in my relationship, or avoid the confrontation of a breakup. If that happens, it will happen for other reasons. But polyamory is something I'd be interested in exploring, no matter what.
So, that's my little intro. I look forward to getting to know you guys.
So, I've been very poly-curious (is that a real term?) for quite some time now, but I have zero experience with it. Right now I'm reading "Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships", by Tristan Taormino. It's been incredibly insightful.
I've been friends with a married couple for around 7 years, and it was their open marriage that first introduced me to the concept and sparked my interest. I love them, but I wouldn't say they're the best example. The guy has boundary issues, for one thing. He's a bit bipolar and needy, and (without crossing the line too much), has tried to initiate physical contact that I didn't want, even after I told him I wasn't interested several times. You'd think that would put me off to the idea. But luckily, my bad experiences with him haven't ruined my opinion of polyamory in general, and I think this may even be a lifestyle I'm more suited for than monogamy.
The only hitch (and it's a big one) is that it's most likely not right for my boyfriend. I haven't directly asked for an open relationship (yet), but I've tested the waters by bringing it up in conversation. He doesn't seem warm to the idea. This is pretty big, because it means that if I truly want to explore this lifestyle, I'll probably have to end this relationship. To be honest, we've been growing apart, and have faced some vital incompatibility issues lately. We're hot and cold on a lot of things: common interests, intimacy styles, needs, wants, etc. We love each other, but it seems that whatever we do might not be enough. I want to say that by no means am I trying to use polyamory to skirt the issues in my relationship, or avoid the confrontation of a breakup. If that happens, it will happen for other reasons. But polyamory is something I'd be interested in exploring, no matter what.
So, that's my little intro. I look forward to getting to know you guys.
InfinitePossibility
New member
I am a 38 year old female from the UK. Never married. No kids. I am having a lovely relationship with one of my oldest friends after a long period of us not seeing each other. For the moment, it seems right for both of us that this be a monogamous relationship. My partner has been in poly relationships for much of his life and it may be that polyamory is something we will explore in time.
Hi, I'm Storm, 30. I live in Australia, though I am originally from the U.S. I came here when I was 18 for a relationship. I've wondered for a long time if something was wrong with me because of my ability to have a 'healthy' relationship. I have only been in monogamous relationships, but I have felt for at least 7 years now that I can love more than one person at a time without this affecting my love for who I'm with currently. Almost a year ago, this was finally tested in reality, quite accidentally. It answered a lot of my questions, even though it ended very badly, concerning the third person involved.
I am currently in a mono relationship and have been with her (I'm a lesbian) for just over 4 years now. I love her completely, yet I know I can and did love another woman at the same time. Even after the bad experience we had 10 months ago, we both still feel we could love another woman (though my partner has doubts). I guess the closest thing we'd describe ourselves as wanting from the definitions here would be a triad.
Anyway, I could go on, but I'll just read posts and start to learn my way around here and read people's stories.
I am currently in a mono relationship and have been with her (I'm a lesbian) for just over 4 years now. I love her completely, yet I know I can and did love another woman at the same time. Even after the bad experience we had 10 months ago, we both still feel we could love another woman (though my partner has doubts). I guess the closest thing we'd describe ourselves as wanting from the definitions here would be a triad.
Anyway, I could go on, but I'll just read posts and start to learn my way around here and read people's stories.
Hey I'm Laluna. I'm 20 years old and live in Queensland, Australia.
I've spent the last 3 years in a monogamous relationship, the first serious relationship I've had. We have a 5-yr old daughter, the sunshine of my life. She is technically my step-daughter, but has no other maternal figure in her life. I've been living with her since she was two, so we have definitely claimed each other as mother and daughter.
I am the oldest of four children and come from a rather unstable/abusive family. I feel an incredible amount of responsibility toward my younger siblings, 11, 15 and 19. I have done everything I can to improve their situation. I've had the 15-yr old spending 2-5 days a week with me for about 2 years. I wish I could save them. This has been a ceaseless battle on my behalf. There seems to be nothing more I can do but pick up the pieces. I loathe having no control. I will always be there for them, but my parents drive me insane!
I have been studying ceramic art for the past two years, focusing on figurative sculpture with porcelain. I am extreamly passionate about what I do and believe I need to take a bit of time to myself to pursue this. I need to prove to myself I can be an independent person. I hunger for my freedom. I want to come to better understand myself and the essence of love.
Whilst being in a monogamous relationship, I have had feelings for other people throughout our relationship. I was open about polyamory before we got together, but my partner couldn't accept this and I caved in to his side of seeing things for a while. This has always left me feeling guilty and confused. As a practicing monogamous partner, it seemed a betrayal to have thoughts of other people.
My partner and I are now in the process of ending/changing our relationship. The parametres of this change are as of yet undefined. Technically we have broken up, but we love each other and are very close, more open with each other than we have been previously, and we're living thoroughly in the moment. We're moving apart in two weeks, so time will tell. I am confident that we will always be in each other's lives, as we do have a child together, and he seems to be more open-minded to the possibility of a poly relationship, but this is as of yet untested.
I'm moving interstate to continue my studies. I haven't received any offers yet, so at the moment I'm looking at NSW or SA. Road trip! This is very exciting for me, as I've lived in the same region all my life and rarely left the state. I can't wait to stretch my wings a little and see what the future brings.
I've spent the last 3 years in a monogamous relationship, the first serious relationship I've had. We have a 5-yr old daughter, the sunshine of my life. She is technically my step-daughter, but has no other maternal figure in her life. I've been living with her since she was two, so we have definitely claimed each other as mother and daughter.
I am the oldest of four children and come from a rather unstable/abusive family. I feel an incredible amount of responsibility toward my younger siblings, 11, 15 and 19. I have done everything I can to improve their situation. I've had the 15-yr old spending 2-5 days a week with me for about 2 years. I wish I could save them. This has been a ceaseless battle on my behalf. There seems to be nothing more I can do but pick up the pieces. I loathe having no control. I will always be there for them, but my parents drive me insane!
I have been studying ceramic art for the past two years, focusing on figurative sculpture with porcelain. I am extreamly passionate about what I do and believe I need to take a bit of time to myself to pursue this. I need to prove to myself I can be an independent person. I hunger for my freedom. I want to come to better understand myself and the essence of love.
Whilst being in a monogamous relationship, I have had feelings for other people throughout our relationship. I was open about polyamory before we got together, but my partner couldn't accept this and I caved in to his side of seeing things for a while. This has always left me feeling guilty and confused. As a practicing monogamous partner, it seemed a betrayal to have thoughts of other people.
My partner and I are now in the process of ending/changing our relationship. The parametres of this change are as of yet undefined. Technically we have broken up, but we love each other and are very close, more open with each other than we have been previously, and we're living thoroughly in the moment. We're moving apart in two weeks, so time will tell. I am confident that we will always be in each other's lives, as we do have a child together, and he seems to be more open-minded to the possibility of a poly relationship, but this is as of yet untested.
I'm moving interstate to continue my studies. I haven't received any offers yet, so at the moment I'm looking at NSW or SA. Road trip! This is very exciting for me, as I've lived in the same region all my life and rarely left the state. I can't wait to stretch my wings a little and see what the future brings.
blitzbaby3
New member
Trying for short!
Hi! My name is Marinia. I am 19. I am female. I am pansexual. I am in my first polyamorous relationship. I was in a monogamous relationship for 4 years. It was closed and committed, or so I thought. I wanted more commitment, but he didn't and there were issues. I broke it off.
I had never considered a poly relationship for myself. But I am very open-minded. I thought I would try one if I had the chance. Alas, I did! I am with a male (T) and female (B). We have had a pretty rocky time. But we love each other. We are good to each other. We all live to make the others happy. I think it's pretty much resolved now, except a few small bumps. We call each other a family. We reassure the others with the cliche, all for one and one for all. It works.
I'm not sure I want to be specific about our beginnings... It was not so good or honest. We're happy now, though. I feel like I could write 6 pages on it ^.^
T and B love me.
T loves me more than he loves B, which is confusing and hurts B at times.
B loves me almost equally to T, but less than him.
T was with B before me, they've been together for 4 years, on/off. They've cheated on each other, treated the other like dirt. I popped into the picture in a similar fashion. Again long story. They are both more honest though now.
B is my first female anything, emotionally (I've had crushes, but nothing like this) and sexually.
B gets jealous often, which sucks. I encourage them to be intimate. I like sex. They do too. They don't have to censor themselves in fear of me being upset. I am easygoing.
B and I differ greatly. I have more interests that T holds and I look more like what T likes. B gets self conscious and has low self esteem. I love being with them, but feel bad for coming into the picture and kind of, in a sense, stealing T. We're all together, but there are complications.
Our relationship equation:
B+T+M
B<M and T>M
What I wished it was T=M=B
But I do think I have more of an attachment to T.
Sorry it's not too short or revealing. Maybe I'll post more about it elsewhere. <3 this idea of a website!!!
Hi! My name is Marinia. I am 19. I am female. I am pansexual. I am in my first polyamorous relationship. I was in a monogamous relationship for 4 years. It was closed and committed, or so I thought. I wanted more commitment, but he didn't and there were issues. I broke it off.
I had never considered a poly relationship for myself. But I am very open-minded. I thought I would try one if I had the chance. Alas, I did! I am with a male (T) and female (B). We have had a pretty rocky time. But we love each other. We are good to each other. We all live to make the others happy. I think it's pretty much resolved now, except a few small bumps. We call each other a family. We reassure the others with the cliche, all for one and one for all. It works.
I'm not sure I want to be specific about our beginnings... It was not so good or honest. We're happy now, though. I feel like I could write 6 pages on it ^.^
T and B love me.
T loves me more than he loves B, which is confusing and hurts B at times.
B loves me almost equally to T, but less than him.
T was with B before me, they've been together for 4 years, on/off. They've cheated on each other, treated the other like dirt. I popped into the picture in a similar fashion. Again long story. They are both more honest though now.
B is my first female anything, emotionally (I've had crushes, but nothing like this) and sexually.
B gets jealous often, which sucks. I encourage them to be intimate. I like sex. They do too. They don't have to censor themselves in fear of me being upset. I am easygoing.
B and I differ greatly. I have more interests that T holds and I look more like what T likes. B gets self conscious and has low self esteem. I love being with them, but feel bad for coming into the picture and kind of, in a sense, stealing T. We're all together, but there are complications.
Our relationship equation:
B+T+M
B<M and T>M
What I wished it was T=M=B
But I do think I have more of an attachment to T.
Sorry it's not too short or revealing. Maybe I'll post more about it elsewhere. <3 this idea of a website!!!
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Hi all,
I am new here, and somewhat new to the poly lifestyle. However my husband (of 3 years) and I were both in open marriages before. Wasn't much into that type of relationship this time around. After a lot of talking and soul searching, we have decided to start seeking a 2nd Brother/Husband.
This, we think, is what we both were looking before in our previous marriages, but neither of us had spouses that were interested.
I live on a small hobby farm of 5 acres in SW Missouri. I love animals, outdoors, fishing, camping, swimming, spending time on our farm with our many many animals, and peace and quiet, out of the rat race.
Both of us love children. Ours have grown up moved on with our grandbabies, so it's just him and me and our new babies (animals).
Hoping to meet new friends and such on here. Any and all information we can get that anyone has to offer...
We both love to make new friends, and that isn't really easy where we live with not knowing many people (new to Missouri, as well). We know no one personally who is into any type of alternative relationships. It seems like that sort of thing is either taboo here or kept in the closet.
Oh well. So glad I found this site. Can't wait to jump right in.
Thanks so much for the opportunity to be able to share our new lives here.
I am new here, and somewhat new to the poly lifestyle. However my husband (of 3 years) and I were both in open marriages before. Wasn't much into that type of relationship this time around. After a lot of talking and soul searching, we have decided to start seeking a 2nd Brother/Husband.
This, we think, is what we both were looking before in our previous marriages, but neither of us had spouses that were interested.
I live on a small hobby farm of 5 acres in SW Missouri. I love animals, outdoors, fishing, camping, swimming, spending time on our farm with our many many animals, and peace and quiet, out of the rat race.
Both of us love children. Ours have grown up moved on with our grandbabies, so it's just him and me and our new babies (animals).
Hoping to meet new friends and such on here. Any and all information we can get that anyone has to offer...
We both love to make new friends, and that isn't really easy where we live with not knowing many people (new to Missouri, as well). We know no one personally who is into any type of alternative relationships. It seems like that sort of thing is either taboo here or kept in the closet.
Oh well. So glad I found this site. Can't wait to jump right in.
Thanks so much for the opportunity to be able to share our new lives here.
crazylove
New member
A Husband of 16 years and a new boyfriend
Hi, very new to Polyamory, never heard the term before until my husband told me about this forum after our newest development.
We have been swinging for 6 years, mostly one sided. We just found it easier for me to have male friends and I have had many. Always searching for a “repeat offender” as I would call it. My theory was, “it’s like wine, gets better with time.” There were a few who went beyond the one time encounter, some quite a few and I always shared all the details with my husband...
A few months ago I met a man 19 years younger than me and it was instant connection. Incredible passion. We are beautiful together!!! ( I have always had a thing for younger men ) He knew I was married and open and it was no big deal. We dated for over a month, with very intimate sexual encounters. One day he decided he couldn’t do it. He was extremely confused about his future and what he wanted. We texted for a week, saying how miserable we both were without each other’s passion. Once night early in December he asked me to go have a drink, and we have been inseparable ever since. He spends 3-4 nights at my house, in my bed and leaves in the morning, before I need to start my day with my family. Jokingly I told him he just needs to move in…
Not sure where this will go or how long it will last, but I will take it for as long as we can. My husband is very supportive and he knows that he is my soul, and that our family will always be our family.
Thanks for letting me get this out there.
Crazy Love…
Hi, very new to Polyamory, never heard the term before until my husband told me about this forum after our newest development.
We have been swinging for 6 years, mostly one sided. We just found it easier for me to have male friends and I have had many. Always searching for a “repeat offender” as I would call it. My theory was, “it’s like wine, gets better with time.” There were a few who went beyond the one time encounter, some quite a few and I always shared all the details with my husband...
A few months ago I met a man 19 years younger than me and it was instant connection. Incredible passion. We are beautiful together!!! ( I have always had a thing for younger men ) He knew I was married and open and it was no big deal. We dated for over a month, with very intimate sexual encounters. One day he decided he couldn’t do it. He was extremely confused about his future and what he wanted. We texted for a week, saying how miserable we both were without each other’s passion. Once night early in December he asked me to go have a drink, and we have been inseparable ever since. He spends 3-4 nights at my house, in my bed and leaves in the morning, before I need to start my day with my family. Jokingly I told him he just needs to move in…
Not sure where this will go or how long it will last, but I will take it for as long as we can. My husband is very supportive and he knows that he is my soul, and that our family will always be our family.
Thanks for letting me get this out there.
Crazy Love…
ComputerNerd
New member
My Profile
I am blessed with the capacity to be several things at once, combined with the capacity to challenge the ease with which people slot individuals into neat categories, adding a stereotyped label.
I work a lot. For almost no pay. I like making fantasies come true. I am not afraid of my own body. I look at the world and see the beauty in it.
I'm enjoying the ride at the moment. I have some awesome people in my life that I am very grateful for. Looking to add to that number.
I try to keep my life simple because life in general has become very complex. I'm easy-going, laid-back and do not welcome scandal into my life.
I'm a very private person and keep to myself and my close friends. I prefer not to answer personal questions than to lie or mislead. I'm not ashamed of what I am, but I don't broadcast.
I'm a free-spirit that doesn't stay in one place too long, but cultivates strong relationships with people all over the world.
I'm very open minded sexually, and very little shocks or appals me. Though not everything is my cup of tea, I am open to exploring.
I'm fairly hairy. Most of the time unshaven. I'm not that tall, not very muscular and I'm not blonde. So I'm probably not what you are looking for.
Hobbies:
Travel, dining and food in general, reading, music, photography, watching films and theatre, kayaking, comic books, swimming, baseball, the beach, biking, public nudity, video games, board games, words with friends, museums, art, cuddling, hiking, camping, enjoying life, computers, being a nerd, bbqing, having fun with friends.
I don't watch tv, but have several computers. I have netflix.
I'm looking for:
Fun, friendships and perhaps love.
Looking for friends who are open-minded and/or educated.
I prefer kissing non-smokers. I try to stay away from people who abuse substances.
I'm open to long term triad relationships. But only if I'm joining an existing strong relationship based on mutual respect.
I am a meat eater (get your mind out of the gutter) and that is not likely to change. But I respect those who are vegetarian or vegan. Just know, if you shack up with me, the smell of bovine murder will permeate the household.
Life is too short to compile a long list of "preferences" that might exclude someone amazing from your life.
I appreciate wit.
I am blessed with the capacity to be several things at once, combined with the capacity to challenge the ease with which people slot individuals into neat categories, adding a stereotyped label.
I work a lot. For almost no pay. I like making fantasies come true. I am not afraid of my own body. I look at the world and see the beauty in it.
I'm enjoying the ride at the moment. I have some awesome people in my life that I am very grateful for. Looking to add to that number.
I try to keep my life simple because life in general has become very complex. I'm easy-going, laid-back and do not welcome scandal into my life.
I'm a very private person and keep to myself and my close friends. I prefer not to answer personal questions than to lie or mislead. I'm not ashamed of what I am, but I don't broadcast.
I'm a free-spirit that doesn't stay in one place too long, but cultivates strong relationships with people all over the world.
I'm very open minded sexually, and very little shocks or appals me. Though not everything is my cup of tea, I am open to exploring.
I'm fairly hairy. Most of the time unshaven. I'm not that tall, not very muscular and I'm not blonde. So I'm probably not what you are looking for.
Hobbies:
Travel, dining and food in general, reading, music, photography, watching films and theatre, kayaking, comic books, swimming, baseball, the beach, biking, public nudity, video games, board games, words with friends, museums, art, cuddling, hiking, camping, enjoying life, computers, being a nerd, bbqing, having fun with friends.
I don't watch tv, but have several computers. I have netflix.
I'm looking for:
Fun, friendships and perhaps love.
Looking for friends who are open-minded and/or educated.
I prefer kissing non-smokers. I try to stay away from people who abuse substances.
I'm open to long term triad relationships. But only if I'm joining an existing strong relationship based on mutual respect.
I am a meat eater (get your mind out of the gutter) and that is not likely to change. But I respect those who are vegetarian or vegan. Just know, if you shack up with me, the smell of bovine murder will permeate the household.
Life is too short to compile a long list of "preferences" that might exclude someone amazing from your life.
I appreciate wit.
saphirepassion
New member
HI ! I in open marriage for last 8 years. I have been in poly since I was in high school and I came out bisexual when I was 21. I am currently involved in six different types of poly relationships. I am in considered monopoly but my husband is still looking for a gf but is very straight and has no desire to have a 3some either. He wants a gf with a relationship with her only & that is not a issue for me either. I think that every relationship has a important part in your life no matter it works for each person involved.
I am currently involved in six different types of poly relationships. I am in considered monopoly but my husband is still looking for a gf but is very straight and has no desire to have a 3some either. He wants a gf with a relationship with her only & that is not a issue for me either. I think that every relationship has a important part in your life no matter it works for each person involved. siddhartha
New member
Hi there. One half of a very happily-married poly couple here, living in Washington State. Poly "in theory" for some time, but still relatively new "in practice."
About me: I'm late twenties, ex-military. Grad student pursuing a humanities degree. I'm currently in the early stages of a new poly involvement -- not our first, certainly, but full of many firsts for me. My partners are both good friends, as I am good friends with the husband of my new partner. This has been a new thing, very scary and confusing, but I feel like I'm learning a lot -- not least of which about trust and self-discipline. It's funny, people think of the poly lifestyle as this very hedonistic thing, and it's not. I've learned more about restraint and decorum and self-denial in the last two months that at any other time in my life.
At the same time, however, there's the challenges of living poly in a mono world. Our lifestyle is a very closely-guarded secret, and as such it's hard to talk frankly with friends about the struggles and doubts that come with it. Which is why I'm here. I'm looking to sort out my own feelings in all this right now; I'm wrestling with a lot of questions of how to grow and better myself as a partner. I'm not really interested in new attachments, but I'm certainly not above new friendships, and even a bit of casual flirting is okay. But for right now? Just trying to learn the ropes.
About me: I'm late twenties, ex-military. Grad student pursuing a humanities degree. I'm currently in the early stages of a new poly involvement -- not our first, certainly, but full of many firsts for me. My partners are both good friends, as I am good friends with the husband of my new partner. This has been a new thing, very scary and confusing, but I feel like I'm learning a lot -- not least of which about trust and self-discipline. It's funny, people think of the poly lifestyle as this very hedonistic thing, and it's not. I've learned more about restraint and decorum and self-denial in the last two months that at any other time in my life.
At the same time, however, there's the challenges of living poly in a mono world. Our lifestyle is a very closely-guarded secret, and as such it's hard to talk frankly with friends about the struggles and doubts that come with it. Which is why I'm here. I'm looking to sort out my own feelings in all this right now; I'm wrestling with a lot of questions of how to grow and better myself as a partner. I'm not really interested in new attachments, but I'm certainly not above new friendships, and even a bit of casual flirting is okay. But for right now? Just trying to learn the ropes.
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saphirepassion
New member
Welcome to the polyworld !
HI Seth,
I understand about living a very closed guarded lifestyle. I know that Washington state can some very conservative areas to live because I used to live in wenatchee,wa for a while. Have you found that there a support groups on Facebook that can help us poly people. I belong to a closed community on Facebook but I can invite people though so maybe that might a social outlet ya.
saphirepassion
HI Seth,
I understand about living a very closed guarded lifestyle. I know that Washington state can some very conservative areas to live because I used to live in wenatchee,wa for a while. Have you found that there a support groups on Facebook that can help us poly people. I belong to a closed community on Facebook but I can invite people though so maybe that might a social outlet ya.
saphirepassion
my dilemma
I am a South Indian married woman, 42, husband is 45. We have a son, 20, doing his graduate course in another town. I am a homemaker and not working outside, basically shy and introverted, but once I get to know a person over a time, I can be free. He is quite opposite.
Ours is a monogamous marriage and until now, neither of us had an affair. Now I am in a peculiar situation and afraid of the future. Recently my cousin (40) got a job in our town and we invited him and his wife (38) to stay with us until they got settled in their new jobs and found a decent place to stay. (They don’t have any children.) Both of them are extroverts like my husband. All of us were getting on well and we had almost accepted them to stay with us until he was working here.
Suddenly, my husband sprang a surprise, telling me that he was attracted to my cousin and wanted the 4 of us to be a family, all the time assuring me that he loves me very much and can't think of living without me, also that he will be miserable if I don't accept, in which case they have to move out. I don't doubt his love and I am sure he wont start an affair if I don't accept it. Ours is a very conservative traditional society. I was shocked. He told me to think about it. I have not given him an answer.
Meanwhile, I took this up with my cousin, and he confessed that his wife had also expressed the same sentiments. He is sure she won't proceed further without our consent. Another shocking thing he said was, after his wife revealed her sentiment, she told him that she would be happy if he could develop a relationship with me. After that, he confessed that he had started seeing me differently and found that it was not a bad idea at all.
He doesn't want to leave us, at the same time assuring me that everything depends on me, and nothing will be done behind my back and he explained that it is not like just wife swapping, like what we have read about, it is all of us genuinely loving each other. He said it is not a very strange idea and there is even a word for this type of living– “POLYMORY.” He gave me some links to explore and learn more about this. This is the first place I have started exploring.
I am still confused more than worried and getting anxious about our future. I have told both my husband and cousin that I need more time to consider this. I honestly don’t know how to deal with the situation. I hope as I explore more I will come to a conclusion with some guidance from people who have adopted this life.
Urmila
I am a South Indian married woman, 42, husband is 45. We have a son, 20, doing his graduate course in another town. I am a homemaker and not working outside, basically shy and introverted, but once I get to know a person over a time, I can be free. He is quite opposite.
Ours is a monogamous marriage and until now, neither of us had an affair. Now I am in a peculiar situation and afraid of the future. Recently my cousin (40) got a job in our town and we invited him and his wife (38) to stay with us until they got settled in their new jobs and found a decent place to stay. (They don’t have any children.) Both of them are extroverts like my husband. All of us were getting on well and we had almost accepted them to stay with us until he was working here.
Suddenly, my husband sprang a surprise, telling me that he was attracted to my cousin and wanted the 4 of us to be a family, all the time assuring me that he loves me very much and can't think of living without me, also that he will be miserable if I don't accept, in which case they have to move out. I don't doubt his love and I am sure he wont start an affair if I don't accept it. Ours is a very conservative traditional society. I was shocked. He told me to think about it. I have not given him an answer.
Meanwhile, I took this up with my cousin, and he confessed that his wife had also expressed the same sentiments. He is sure she won't proceed further without our consent. Another shocking thing he said was, after his wife revealed her sentiment, she told him that she would be happy if he could develop a relationship with me. After that, he confessed that he had started seeing me differently and found that it was not a bad idea at all.
He doesn't want to leave us, at the same time assuring me that everything depends on me, and nothing will be done behind my back and he explained that it is not like just wife swapping, like what we have read about, it is all of us genuinely loving each other. He said it is not a very strange idea and there is even a word for this type of living– “POLYMORY.” He gave me some links to explore and learn more about this. This is the first place I have started exploring.
I am still confused more than worried and getting anxious about our future. I have told both my husband and cousin that I need more time to consider this. I honestly don’t know how to deal with the situation. I hope as I explore more I will come to a conclusion with some guidance from people who have adopted this life.
Urmila