We are relatively new to poly and so far it is going pretty good. I have been dating a man since May. He is also newly poly and is married. I have met his family and was just introduced as a friend. His kids did question it much at all and seemed fine with that explanation.
My husband has been seeing a woman since June and things are going very well for them as well. She has been poly for about 4 years and also happens to be my best friend. Our families intermix a lot. So far the kids don't know about any of it.
So my problem (or thing that is stressing me out the most) is what to tell the kids when we're going out on dates. My kids are very curious about our lives (not just this area of it) and up until now have known pretty much everything that we do and everyone we do it with. I don't lie so coming up with lies is hard and stressful and I'm just not any good at it. It also gets tricky when my husbands girlfriend is more truthful with her kids but we have to worry that our kids see each other and could possibly tell my kids a different story.
For normal dates we just say we're going out with friends and that seems to be working for now. We also talked to our kids and told them that we want to be more social and that we would be expanding our friend base and that will include friends of that opposite sex.
This week we both will be doing our first overnight and it will happen on the same day. We have a sitter for our kids for the whole night. We're having a very hard time coming up with a story for my husband. We're leaving at slightly different times and coming home at different times in the morning. My story is that it's my friends first night without her kids since her divorce so she's having a ladies night. We were going to tell our kids that my husband is going to his friends out of town and will be drinking and doesn't want to drive home so he'll be staying there. The issue is he's really staying at his girlfriends house and there is the potential that her kids could see him in the morning. It is a very low possibility but we want to be prepared.
So if you can follow all of that craziness do you have any advice on how to keep all of this from your kids while it is so interconnected?
My husband has been seeing a woman since June and things are going very well for them as well. She has been poly for about 4 years and also happens to be my best friend. Our families intermix a lot. So far the kids don't know about any of it.
So my problem (or thing that is stressing me out the most) is what to tell the kids when we're going out on dates. My kids are very curious about our lives (not just this area of it) and up until now have known pretty much everything that we do and everyone we do it with. I don't lie so coming up with lies is hard and stressful and I'm just not any good at it. It also gets tricky when my husbands girlfriend is more truthful with her kids but we have to worry that our kids see each other and could possibly tell my kids a different story.
For normal dates we just say we're going out with friends and that seems to be working for now. We also talked to our kids and told them that we want to be more social and that we would be expanding our friend base and that will include friends of that opposite sex.
This week we both will be doing our first overnight and it will happen on the same day. We have a sitter for our kids for the whole night. We're having a very hard time coming up with a story for my husband. We're leaving at slightly different times and coming home at different times in the morning. My story is that it's my friends first night without her kids since her divorce so she's having a ladies night. We were going to tell our kids that my husband is going to his friends out of town and will be drinking and doesn't want to drive home so he'll be staying there. The issue is he's really staying at his girlfriends house and there is the potential that her kids could see him in the morning. It is a very low possibility but we want to be prepared.
So if you can follow all of that craziness do you have any advice on how to keep all of this from your kids while it is so interconnected?