Poly laws in Tennesee

[Hellchells]

quick question maybe… so I’ve recently become curious about poly relationships. I’m married and have been curious about adding a partner with us, however we have my husbands family who tend to be very naive and stalk. They have threatened or plotted to take our kids from us and some people are worried if we proceed with this it may cause us to lose our kids as ammo for them to use in their advantage. So I read it’s illegal to marry more than one, but what about having relations with another together?

 

[kdt26417]

Hello Hellchells,

I think most states probably have antiquated adultery laws on their books. Such laws are not generally paid any mind, but you are talking about your husband's family plotting to take your children. I wouldn't take any chances if I were you. I would contact a family law lawyer, and set up a one-hour consultation. During this consultation, you can explain your situation, ask your questions, and get legal advice. You really want to do this with someone with a lot of expertise in Tennessee law. Find out what you can and can't do.

Regards,
Kevin T.

 

[Bobbi]

I agree with Kevin. If you are happily married and it’s consensual, in-laws will have a difficult time BUT if you ever split up or become a single mom for any horrible reason, in-laws have been known to do that. Definitely ask an attorney how to protect yourself and your kids.

 

[Hellchells]

Thank you guys so much!

 

[Magdlyn]

I’ve recently become curious about poly relationships. I’m married and have been curious about adding a partner with us.

What do you mean by "add a partner with us"? Do you mean you want to date others, or your husband wants to date others, or both? You don't have to share one partner to be polyamorous. You might be imagining ultimately moving one woman into your household, to live with you, along with your kids. Please realize that, contrary to mainstream understanding, doing a "triad" like this is uncommon in polyamory and unlikely to work well, or last. You might go through years of trying to find a woman to "share," only to strike out over and over. And if you introduce prospective dating partners to your young children, your in-laws will have that ammo to use.

Or maybe you and husband already have a woman in mind. Do you? How do you imagine incorporating her into your household to cause the least upset, confusion and danger?

You two could practice polyamory by dating separately outside the home, and thereby not expose your children to your dating practices at all.

Before hiring a lawyer, I recommend reading the book Opening Up for a lot of good and useful background info about how to do open relationships or polyamory successfully.

 

[Hellchells]

What do you mean by "add a partner with us"? Do you mean you want to date others, or your husband wants to date others, or both? You don't have to share one partner to be polyamorous. You might be imagining ultimately moving one woman into your household, to live with you, along with your kids. Please realize that, contrary to mainstream understanding, doing a "triad" like this is uncommon in polyamory and unlikely to work well, or last. You might go through years of trying to find a woman to "share," only to strike out over and over. And if you introduce prospective dating partners to your young children, your in-laws will have that ammo to use.

Or maybe you and husband already have a woman in mind. Do you? How do you imagine incorporating her into your household to cause the least upset, confusion and danger?

You two could practice polyamory by dating separately outside the home, and thereby not expose your children to your dating practices at all.

Before hiring a lawyer, I recommend reading the book Opening Up for a lot of good and useful background info about how to do open relationships or polyamory successfully.

We most certainly won’t be introducing them to anyone unless as a friend. Even more so I don’t plan on them knowing until down the line a good bit. We aren’t in a rush to find anyone tbh. But our concerns are mostly for them. Thank you so much for that!