So my wife and I are proud parents of a 5 and 7 year old. At the moment I am mono and she is open and dates other women. Regardless of our relationship status we both recognize the need to create space and time for both of us to pursue our own interests and to create space and time for us as a couple. Our options for child care are pretty limited at the moment so when we can get it we like to use it on us. We have been talking recently about trying to be better about creating a schedule or finding a way to plan for each of us to have our own time and for us to have time as a couple. I have found so much help and information here I would love to hear from any other folks here about what they have found successful and what they have learned to avoid. I can imagine that time management in polyamory is a real thing, even without kids. So please don't feel you have to be a parent to respond.