LoveForMusic
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I'm having a hard time coming up with a good way to start this thread so it may be all over the place.
First, an introduction. I'm a married male individual who has a very personal viewpoint on everything. I'm someone who takes in multiple opinions and decides to form my own based on all the logical information I've received. I'm very analytical and think I define the very definition of logic.
That being said, as with almost all subjects, I have a viewpoint/idea of relationships, couples, marriage, etc.
Viewing all logic and variables, I find that it is possible to find another individual who fits into our relationship and our way of life. I think variable wise, there should be another like me whether it be a male, woman, transsexual, etc. Based on that logic alone, and my strong understanding of myself, it simply -would- work. But I do think the likelihood of this happening is almost 0. I find it fun to talk about though.
I don't follow social protocol for the most part. Because all of my viewpoints are mostly objective, I come up with my own opinion of things.
To make it more simple gender wise, I think if it were possible to find another woman that could accept herself into our relationship, the benefits are numerous. I believe the joy I find in a relationship could be multiplied with another partner. I feel the same for my wife but I mostly won't talk about her for the sake of making the conversation more simple.
I'll start a new paragraph to define this even though it fits in the above. Sex is -not- ranked very high in the list of benefits. I'm male, and it's simply true. Period. I enjoy many more things about a relationship than sex. It shows in my sex life as well.
More about my relationship... I've never cheated, nor want to cheat. If the perfect scenario came along, I think it would go something like this:
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I meet another woman and find that she has the same type of personality that I do. Honest, analytical, opinionated.
For some reason, we happen into a discussion about all of the above content and I get the feeling that she may be along the same lines of thinking.
I learn about her more (probably at work or online... no dating) and find that she also shares a lot of common interests that me and my wife do. The trust I start to feel from this woman makes me share with my wife (I share just about everything anyways).
She is intrigued and scared (would really happen), more things happen that are not as clear, then we all agree to meet.
Everyone is happy, everyone likes each other, and things grow into a committed marriage between the 3 of us.
Now I think it's on to the questions:
I decided to ask a polyamory board, which should have more open minded people inherently, do they believe this scenario is about as impossible to find as I do?
I took tonight to read more personnels for the fun of researching.. And as expected, the agendas of postings are mostly the same. I'm not interested in only finding a sex partner. I'm not committed to polyamory. I would never go to rallies, be a long time poster on this board, talk about it all the time, or generally think about it often... Does anyone here really think a lot of this makes sense? Logically, I'm asking a forum who if anyone posts here, then they are probably some what committed to polyamory. You like talking about it, sharing, and being a part of the community. I like thinking about it, but only because I like thinking about everything... My guess is I would have to find someone with a similar value.
So the other question to the block of text above, is do you know ANYONE with this line of thinking (gender aside)? I would love to find that the chance of this happening is greater than I actually believe. Plus of course, I would love to find anyone on this board that just likes to discuss these kinds of things. Finding an online buddy that chats with me about these things would be a perfect outcome of my effort of posting.
Thanks for reading my post... It's always fun to write my thoughts down even if no one responds.
First, an introduction. I'm a married male individual who has a very personal viewpoint on everything. I'm someone who takes in multiple opinions and decides to form my own based on all the logical information I've received. I'm very analytical and think I define the very definition of logic.
That being said, as with almost all subjects, I have a viewpoint/idea of relationships, couples, marriage, etc.
Viewing all logic and variables, I find that it is possible to find another individual who fits into our relationship and our way of life. I think variable wise, there should be another like me whether it be a male, woman, transsexual, etc. Based on that logic alone, and my strong understanding of myself, it simply -would- work. But I do think the likelihood of this happening is almost 0. I find it fun to talk about though.
I don't follow social protocol for the most part. Because all of my viewpoints are mostly objective, I come up with my own opinion of things.
To make it more simple gender wise, I think if it were possible to find another woman that could accept herself into our relationship, the benefits are numerous. I believe the joy I find in a relationship could be multiplied with another partner. I feel the same for my wife but I mostly won't talk about her for the sake of making the conversation more simple.
I'll start a new paragraph to define this even though it fits in the above. Sex is -not- ranked very high in the list of benefits. I'm male, and it's simply true. Period. I enjoy many more things about a relationship than sex. It shows in my sex life as well.
More about my relationship... I've never cheated, nor want to cheat. If the perfect scenario came along, I think it would go something like this:
----
I meet another woman and find that she has the same type of personality that I do. Honest, analytical, opinionated.
For some reason, we happen into a discussion about all of the above content and I get the feeling that she may be along the same lines of thinking.
I learn about her more (probably at work or online... no dating) and find that she also shares a lot of common interests that me and my wife do. The trust I start to feel from this woman makes me share with my wife (I share just about everything anyways).
She is intrigued and scared (would really happen), more things happen that are not as clear, then we all agree to meet.
Everyone is happy, everyone likes each other, and things grow into a committed marriage between the 3 of us.
Now I think it's on to the questions:
I decided to ask a polyamory board, which should have more open minded people inherently, do they believe this scenario is about as impossible to find as I do?
I took tonight to read more personnels for the fun of researching.. And as expected, the agendas of postings are mostly the same. I'm not interested in only finding a sex partner. I'm not committed to polyamory. I would never go to rallies, be a long time poster on this board, talk about it all the time, or generally think about it often... Does anyone here really think a lot of this makes sense? Logically, I'm asking a forum who if anyone posts here, then they are probably some what committed to polyamory. You like talking about it, sharing, and being a part of the community. I like thinking about it, but only because I like thinking about everything... My guess is I would have to find someone with a similar value.
So the other question to the block of text above, is do you know ANYONE with this line of thinking (gender aside)? I would love to find that the chance of this happening is greater than I actually believe. Plus of course, I would love to find anyone on this board that just likes to discuss these kinds of things. Finding an online buddy that chats with me about these things would be a perfect outcome of my effort of posting.
Thanks for reading my post... It's always fun to write my thoughts down even if no one responds.