Protected/Unprotected

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Derobb

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Greetings all,

I was wondering if any of you in Vee relationships have unprotected sex with one or both partners and how you negotiate this situation. In my Vee all three of us are STD free but still have protected sex and I'm hoping to change that with full consent obviously.

Thanks!

Robb
 
I have condom free sex with both my husbands. I had a tribal ligation years ago and both men are mono.

I just bluntly told both men my preference. Even though we are all STI free I was OK if either one wanted to still use protection. Their body their choice.
 
I also go barrier free with both my partners. Neither are in or looking for other relationships at the moment so I feel safe with it. When they are, we get tested more often so I still feel comfortable.
 
I am condom free with Both. Nate had a vasectomy and has barrier free sex with one lover at a time providing they are only barrier free with him or in a closed relationship like I am and they have to plan on being long term lovers, I will not have barrier free sex with someone with a new barrier free lover every month. I used barriers until I got on birth control, now I have a sponge with withdrawal until I can get an IUD
 
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We are barrier-free within our core group. I have an IUD and Lotus has had a tubal to prevent pregnancy (and the boys would get vasectomies if circumstances warranted). We have safer sex agreements with regards to new partners until testing is completed and everyone is comfortable - otherwise barriers would be re-instituted.
 
The 3 of us are barrier free with each other. When I was dating a couple of months ago, I used condoms with the new guy and they were ok with that. He and I only hooked up once though. Now we are back to being polyfi and are likely to stay that way for a while.
 
I'm barrier free with both of my partners. We have an agreement that any new sexual partners we have, we are to practice safer sex protocols with until any and all relevant testing has come back clear. I have an IUD for birth control.
We all get tested every 6-12 months.
 
Blue & I are barrier free and he's barrier free with Silver. Our agreement is like others: safer sex practices until testing comes back clean if the new person is not going unprotected with anyone else. Otherwise, continue safer sex practices with that person.
 
I'm barrier free with both Hubby and S2. It took a bit of negotiation with Hubby to make unprotected sex with S2 okay, since it necessitated a change in the agreements Hubby and I had made, but Hubby accepted the change.

Right now, both men are only seeing me, and I'm not seeing anyone other than the two of them. We have made agreements (especially after the one time S2 went out with another woman, had unprotected sex with her, and we went through a subsequent STD scare that fortunately turned out to be nothing) that if any of us sees anyone else, condoms will be used until testing is done.
 
I am barrier-free with Julian (who is my only partner), but he uses barriers with his wife, Maya, because she has several partners and the occasional casual hookup. Maya always uses barriers for intercourse and oral sex with all of her partners. The three of us are also tested frequently for STIs.
 
Rider and I are barrier free with each other (we negotiated this after being together for over a year and after his other serious relationship ended), and we use barriers with outside partners for vaginal/anal/toy sex, but not for oral.

We recently had a BV-or-trich issue pop up that we are pretty sure was passed from female to female in a threesome, so we now try to be more careful with the use of fingers/mouths in multiple-female situations as well.
 
My Vee is closed (no sex outside the Vee) and barrier free. Both men have had vasectomies. If any of us wanted to introduce a new partner to the Vee, we'd revisit the topic of safer sex. Right now none of us are looking for any new partners, and frankly probably never will be.
 
I am barrier free with my husband and always have been(we knew each other a long time before we had sex due to distance). I don't currently have any other partners but if/when I do we would be using condoms for the foreseeable future because we are and have been trying to get pregnant for awhile and I also have a medical condition that makes most forms of hormonal birth control a bad idea.
 
I have unprotected sex with both men, all of us have taken STD tests and there are no other partners. I am on an IUD, so little risk of pregancy.
 
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I use protection with everyone I have sex with. Also with people I've been with for a long time. But then again my relationships aren't closed in any way, so anyone of us could hook up with someone new at any point, so it's just easier and more carefree this way.
 
My standards on protected / unprotected vary by partner.

TheKnight and I are officially fluid bonded as far as STIs are concerned, but use condoms anyway most of the time as the simplest answer to not having any more children. This will probably change if/when I get around to getting an IUD, which I'm heavily considering.

He and Sunshine and DinoActivist and I (and other partners of theirs) all have agreements as far as condoms for PIV/PIA and unprotected oral only with people who have been recently tested (and whose partners have as well, though there's no requirement for written proof or anything like that - really it's a requirement to have the conversation and feel like your partner is trustworthy, and frankly if they aren't, why are you in bed with them?).

AnotherArtist, on the other hand, has an agreement with his primary for latex for everything including oral. Which is... a bit frustrating, but there's enough we can do that's still fun that I'll deal. Maybe if this lasts long-term that may be renegotiated. We'll see. It is sort of nice not really having to worry about his other partners and I suppose that's true in the other direction, on the other hand there's no particular point in oral with latex and I *do* somewhat like that occasionally. ::shrug::
 
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