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Vicki82

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This isn't poly related specifically, but definitely relationship related.

I want to plan something a little special for my husband and I've been toying with the idea of one of those silly scavenger hunts. I have some great ideas for clues, but I am sadly lacking in inspiration for the denouement.

It's got to be something special... but I have no idea what. I had been planning to keep the hunt in our house/yard since I don't like the idea of leaving clues all around the city, but then I don't really know what to make the special thing.

Some ideas I googled included having me wait at a restaurant for date night, but if I do that then not only do I need a babysitter but I'm limited in where to go because I don't drive (he does). And I don't really know how to make something at home be special and unique enough for the end of a hunt.

Any ideas or suggestions?
 
My friend did something like this.

Every room was a different dungeon, beat the boss (a riddle or play fight fake bats or something), get key and a small gift. repeat until you get to final boss, get big/most meaningful gift. Maake sure that gift is wrapped to death.
 
ElMango said:
My friend did something like this.

Every room was a different dungeon, beat the boss (a riddle or play fight fake bats or something), get key and a small gift. repeat until you get to final boss, get big/most meaningful gift. Maake sure that gift is wrapped to death.
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That sounds pretty cool.

I'm stuck on the thing at the end though! I don't really know what to give him or what to plan. I think I have neat ideas for the rest of it.
 
It's hard to imagine things for someone we don't know. I mean, Adam would love a power tool at the end of it, but he loves making stuff. Adam set me up a "follow the string" thing with a piece of art Mike made. But I collect art. But we don't know Henry's jam.

So what is something core to Henry? Could it be that meal out but he has to solve the puzzle to then be able to chauffeur you to the restaurant? Could it be tickets to something? A new kink toy? A puppy? Something you've been discussing for a while but never quite been able to make happen?
 
Vicki82 said:
That sounds pretty cool.

I'm stuck on the thing at the end though! I don't really know what to give him or what to plan. I think I have neat ideas for the rest of it.
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For the end gift, something around his love language? I have trouble with gift giving, I'm not the best at it for people when it comes to very emotional gift. PRactical gifts I'm ballin' at.
 
Evie said:
It's hard to imagine things for someone we don't know. I mean, Adam would love a power tool at the end of it, but he loves making stuff. Adam set me up a "follow the string" thing with a piece of art Mike made. But I collect art. But we don't know Henry's jam.

So what is something core to Henry? Could it be that meal out but he has to solve the puzzle to then be able to chauffeur you to the restaurant? Could it be tickets to something? A new kink toy? A puppy? Something you've been discussing for a while but never quite been able to make happen?
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Yeah, I know. I don't really want to spend money on "stuff" since we're trying to declutter and I was hoping to do some kind of experience, but then experiences get tough when we're at home.

I need to put more thought into this. Ideas are still welcome though.
 
Vicki82 said:
I was hoping to do some kind of experience, but then experiences get tough when we're at home.
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Especially if you have kids around, that rather rules out noisy sex, drugs and rock 'n' roll.

So,

A brand new never before attempted recipe that you two try to cook together?

A long, quiet, intimate massage that actually works the muscles a bit?

Tantra for beginners? (assuming you don't already practice this, and if it doesn't offend your belief system/religion)

Magic for beginners? (ditto)

Revisit your personal relationship rituals and protocols and modify anything that could do with a shake up?
 
Hi Vicki,

I like the idea of you waiting at a restaurant for a date night, perhaps you could use public transportation such as a taxi or bus. Or have a friend drive you to the restaurant. If you really wanted to go all out, you could arrange special overnight babysitting for the kids so that you and your husband could spend a night alone in a hotel together (after your date night). Just a thought.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
It's going to be tonight. I wound up writing love notes about past memories we've shared at each clue location, and then at the end I'll be waiting in our bedroom with cold appetizers and champagne.

Nothing too exciting after all but I couldn't think of anything that didn't cost too much money or involve leaving the house (which would cost too much money).

So... hopefully he has fun?
 
It was awesome. I know it was just small stuff but he had a wonderful time and told me it was very romantic.

10 clues total (man, writing limericks is hard!), and a very small gift with each one. I hadn't planned to do that but I saw small things at the grocery store when I picked up the stuff for the appetizers so it wound up working out. I bought 3 cans of cold brew coffee, 3 cans of hard cider, 1 lottery ticket, 1 bag of individually wrapped chocolates, and a Tim Horton's gift card. I already had the bottle of champagne for one clue.

I also wrote a love note with each one, about a special memory from our past. That was my original plan instead of the small gift so I did both.

Then he found me in the bedroom and I had a movie all queued up on Netflix (he always does the tech stuff so I know this sounds silly but I know it made him happy he could just walk in and everything was done). I had three kinds of healthy apps made up. He brought his collar with him and asked me to put it on him (one of the love notes included a line about how proud I was to have him wearing my collar), and we ate yummy food, drank champagne, and watched a hilarious movie.

It was a super awesome date night.
 
Sounds like a wonderful night! Congratulations on making it all happen.
 
That's awesome that it worked out so well.
 
It sounds like a perfect night! Thanks for sharing :) I'm glad you both had fun!
 
Vicki82 said:
Yeah, I know. I don't really want to spend money on "stuff" since we're trying to declutter and I was hoping to do some kind of experience, but then experiences get tough when we're at home.

I need to put more thought into this. Ideas are still welcome though.
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We have been in "declutter mode" for several years, so our rule on gifts is that they must be "consumable." For me that generally means concert tickets or single malt scotch :)
 
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