Questions about sex

[Bobbi]

I appreciate this statement. I got some real "There must be something wrong with you, what could it be?" vibes from the "Are you on the spectrum?" remark, even if that's not what was intended.

Just let us not try to diagnose each other over the internet, yeah?

That is not what was intended and I apologize for questioning OP on this.

 

[River]

That is not what was intended and I apologize for questioning OP on this.

Apology accepted. You can call me River.

 

[Magdlyn]

This absolutely can happen with certain open individuals! Most poly people as well, but it's one case. To say all of the US is accepting in this way was the point I was arguing.

It's not how society and the culture in the US works, sadly.

I agree. And not just the US. The entire world. It depends on how progressive your area or friend group is, but most couples put some kind of limit on intimacy between platonic friends, especially opposite sex friends, if you're straight. My ex was very watchful of me around male friends. He monitored the conversations, the touch (hugs, sitting side by side, etc.).

The joke was on him, because he knew I was bi, but never seemed to give a thought to me getting crushes on my female friends lol

It's a fact that if two friends, say MF, spend a lot of time together, the likelihood of a getting a crush or acting on it will be higher. It's just biology. And if you're constantly touching, hugging, having dinners alone, etc., well, it's likely to slip into romance. If you're single, that's actually fine. But if you're in a mono relationship, your spouse is going to have a certain degree of feeling like they "own" that intimate part of you.

Because you asked and looked it up on chat GPT.

It's been a while since someone resorted to posting a definition of a term here haha

 

[River]

It's been a while since someone resorted to posting a definition of a term here haha

I write both philosophy and poetry, so it goes with the territory. You might be surprised to learn, as I have, that half of the words we use are not words which are held in common framing, and so we mostly talk not so much with but past one another. I was shocked at the extent of this in my recent research on terms like "culture" and "civilization" -- two terms which surprisingly do not have a consensus of meaning even among the processionals who use these terms the most!

The word "love" means about ten thousand different things!

 

[Bobbi]

The word "love" means about ten thousand different things!

Absolutely!

I feel very different kinds of love too! I can love inanimate objects that cannot return the feeling. I love the human race and animals and food (but animals not enough to not eat them). I love my co workers and the people on this forum. I love my family (some very differently than others) as well as friends, confidants and partners and lovers. All of them are different yet quantifying what makes that love different, stronger, or lessor is sometimes easy and others very difficult.

We try by saying romantic partner or sexual partner but that's not always the case either. I think it's based on the level of intimacy and vulnerability that is had with each individual.

For many people, (more notably, penetration receptive partners) getting naked and being penetrated is the most vulnerability you can have with a partner so it bonds you in a very deep way. Some feel this with BDSM, and others feel it through shared traumatic experience. Sex does not have to be present but true vulnerability must be present to have those deepest connections.