Innerpeace4me
New member
Below is the post I posted in intros:
I said boundaries, but I think I should have said rules. There should be rules, right? To help ensure comfort for all of us involved.
Magdlyn replied: Great question. Please start a thread in the Relationships section with this question. The differences between boundaries, rules, guidelines, preferences, negotiations and agreements take some work to explain!
I would like to hear what the more experienced polys (is that the right term?) have to say about the different things Magdlyn posted, the importance of them in this lifestyle specifically. The best way to make sure that we all feel comfortable and fair to each other's needs, wants.
Hello All,
So happy to have found this group and have learned a lot so far, and looking forward to learning more.
I am a 45 y/o male. I am new to this lifestyle and trying to learn the right way to manage and deal with feelings. I am separated from my wife (she is not a part of this lifestyle), basically divorced without it being legal. We coparent and are now amazing friends.
I am currently involved in a poly relationship (over a year) with an amazing woman who is with another man. He and I are friends (we all were before the relationship started). He and I do not share a sexual connection. We are straight. If I have the terms right, I think that makes me a metamour? He is her primary partner.
The bond between her and me is very strong, physically and emotionally. I am very much enjoying life and this situation, but sometimes feel myself a bit confused on how to feel about the "big picture." My life goals are very different from theirs, as there is a significant age gap between her and me, slightly shorter for him and me. Sometimes, trying to process those feelings, I struggle. We have had the "boundaries" chat (although some parts weren't crystal clear to me).
I have been married. I have a teenage son and we are at a happy place in life. Anyway, I am not sure how much I'm supposed to write here before the thread gets moved to the personal summaries portion, but wanted to dump this for you all to read. I look forward to learning more, feeling more and becoming more.
I said boundaries, but I think I should have said rules. There should be rules, right? To help ensure comfort for all of us involved.
Magdlyn replied: Great question. Please start a thread in the Relationships section with this question. The differences between boundaries, rules, guidelines, preferences, negotiations and agreements take some work to explain!
I would like to hear what the more experienced polys (is that the right term?) have to say about the different things Magdlyn posted, the importance of them in this lifestyle specifically. The best way to make sure that we all feel comfortable and fair to each other's needs, wants.
Hello All,
So happy to have found this group and have learned a lot so far, and looking forward to learning more.
I am a 45 y/o male. I am new to this lifestyle and trying to learn the right way to manage and deal with feelings. I am separated from my wife (she is not a part of this lifestyle), basically divorced without it being legal. We coparent and are now amazing friends.
I am currently involved in a poly relationship (over a year) with an amazing woman who is with another man. He and I are friends (we all were before the relationship started). He and I do not share a sexual connection. We are straight. If I have the terms right, I think that makes me a metamour? He is her primary partner.
The bond between her and me is very strong, physically and emotionally. I am very much enjoying life and this situation, but sometimes feel myself a bit confused on how to feel about the "big picture." My life goals are very different from theirs, as there is a significant age gap between her and me, slightly shorter for him and me. Sometimes, trying to process those feelings, I struggle. We have had the "boundaries" chat (although some parts weren't crystal clear to me).
I have been married. I have a teenage son and we are at a happy place in life. Anyway, I am not sure how much I'm supposed to write here before the thread gets moved to the personal summaries portion, but wanted to dump this for you all to read. I look forward to learning more, feeling more and becoming more.