Sailing Solo

I do appreciate these thought provoking responses.
Breathemusic: Yes, I am pretty ashamed that I am seeing him again and yes, it has been 5 years and not really gotten any better and it really is not likely too.

I have really been thinking hard on the situation. Despite my imagining that things are significantly different, they are mostly not and by that Imena his behavior. I think I have made a lot of growth over the past year. The one main difference is that I am putting not much stock into anything and am enjoying things on a surface level. He seems pretty keen to travel with me for 4 days over spring break. I don't have anyone else lined up and he and I have always traveled well together. Apart from that...I am not waiting around to see if any of his talk manifests itself as action.


Mr Tile: He asked to see me at the weekend. I sent him two options and he said yes to both! I just reread the texts. Maybe he wasn't asking for both. It could be my fault I put "and" and not "or". Which I meant as "choose a window".
Oh well. But I have not sent 50 texts in the last minute trying to correct it. Small steps :eek:
 
I wrote Mr Chef an apology. A colleague at work asked the man who made the cake and my response was, " I messed that up badly." So I apologized for being intense and overwhelming, poor man.

Prof: Didn't answer my messages for 5 days. I eventually sent him a message saying "Have you ghosted on me?" with a line of ghost emojis. He actually responded instantly.
We talked about it that night. He said he was super busy. I said he takes his phone into the toilet and he could just have a sent a smily emoji. He said they were chit chat messages and not asking a question.( so he did read them ) I said the first was was an invite to a Superbowl event and asked if he was free. Then he said he thought he has sent a text. Then he said he it was only 4 days. I said it is five and you really hurt my feelings. I was worried you were sick. And you never bothered to check in with me?
I told him is a pretty pointed behavior. I explained he asked me why I never invite him to events and social things a couple of weeks ago ( I rarely do it because I dont enjoy it ) and then I got invite and asked him straight away and got no response till I texted to see if we were still meeting that night. I straight up said he hurt my feelings. The response was a bit ,"You know it was only 96 hours, (he had counted? ) but I hear what you are saying.

I let it drop for a while and brought it up again because I am not doing the bullshit gaslighting and fudging answers when I know what he is doing. He then said he we agreed to take it slow and that was him taking it slow. So it was purposeful :rolleyes: I explained slow is fine but ignoring me is not. I expect a certain level of communication and timely response. I said it used to be 48 hours was fine or I would get a warning that he was going off line, or just an emoji and I get he is too busy or not interested in text chat. But no response after 5 days???? Nope. Not doing that.Honestly, if he can't communicate then I am not bothering. I like the interaction and want a partner who likes it too.

Mr Dom and I chat a ton most days. I was slammed today and couldn't chat much.
I just send Mr Tile a message, he said he is not big on texting but he usually manages a few.


BDM type session with Eeyore tomorrow. I am looking forward to it. I haven't slept with him in ages, haven't seen him since maybe early December, but we both initiate chat at around every sort of week to two weeksdays type of thing.

Prof gave up drinking for a month. The sex has been getting better and better.
Not much was in the way of BD play but he is introducing toys ( I asked ) and can fuck hard for certainly much longer than in December. It's pretty hot right now.

So the advantages of having different partners... Prof is off on a Caribbean Cruise in a week or so. That is my idea of a hellish waste of time. I hate tall building and boats, I have a fear of tipping over. I always ask for low floors in hotels or keep away from the windows. Prof hates buffets which is hilarious. I have no wish to be stuck on a boat more than 24 hours, I want to go explore. 10 days! I would go nuts. All those people.

I said to Prof that this is the advantage. I am planning us a trip to basically the end of the line for us. No fancy restaurants, no nice hotels, but the experience of a life time. So different.

I am also chatting to a young thing a bit of a way away. I am wondering if i want a booty call, FB type of thing. Not sure. I miss having more than one regular partner. For today at least, I am not interested in monogamy.
 
Today is good foe sex. Prof was actually down for a booty call last night if I drove to him as he had a few drinks, I couldn't as I had kids. So no booty call.

I foresaw me leaving work a little early and sent him another booty call message. I wasn't sure if he was even in town but he replied yes. I said no tea, no chat it's a booty call. It was great! He asked me to stay for dinner but I said no, and he could call me at 555 1212 and I would text him next him I was in town ;):cool:

I know that I do different sex positions and are up for different things depending on the time of day. I am rarely up for cowgirl at 6 am or very late at night. Cowgirl is for after a Saturday lay-in or afternoon sex. Any of the ones that require a lot of effort are best early in the early evening, like squats. Thats need to happen when I have been active. I like standing up and bending over at night too. I mostly only like spoons at 6am. After yoga sex tends to be really mad. I feel strong and flexible. Prof has a strong preference for variations on missionary so yoga is great to help with various leg positions.

On my way out the door Prof gave me a dozen red roses and a flag patch for my scooter jacket. ( he bought that jacket too ).That man likes to buy me stuff but he has also become an Amazon addict. I think he took up shopping as a hobby when he quit drinking. He said the max number of things you can put in an Amazon cart is 64.:eek:

On Wednesday he gave me 2 t-shirts for the boys, kinder eggs ( which apparently now are not illegal ) and something little Valentines cards. I said they really enjoyed them and he said I was supposed to keep them for Valentine's day. I put on one of the t-shirts with some heels and sent him a few flirty pics. He replied straight away.

Eeyore is heading round tonight after dinner with his brother. Straight up drinks and some sex, possibly a little kinky with light BD. Pure booty call. I haven't had sex with him since the great Uber disaster of the summer. I am not sure if I was blogging at that point. Best to tell people they are not welcome to stay the night before they get drunk. I was pretty offended and had to Uber home super drunk. I had borrowed a car which I dropped off near his house so I didn't have to Uber back the next morning, which was a one good thing.

Anyway, we sorted it out. We even had one night of just chatting and hanging out at his house while he was cooking in December maybe. I think we are FWB.

Then Mr Cade from OKC: I fancy having some kind of fuck buddy or regular booty call. He flaked on a meeting tonight but to be honest I texted the idea at 4 and said I only had an hour from 7 to 8. If my sick family member cancels tomorrow night then he can have more time.

I don't know if I will see Mr Tile post-superbowl on Sunday. Depends on how long Prof and I hang at my friend's superbowl party. I am not sure why Prof doesn't get that I don't have friends who have wild late night parties. My friends have mostly have kids or jobs that involve getting up early every day of the week. This kin

I have had some insight into Prof's friends this time around. Remember I used ti think they were all fabulously glamorous city people? Well, maybe some of them are but the few I have met recently are not. His lemoncello making party consisted of mother and daughter from one of the dive bars he frequents.

Just got a text from superbowl party friend. Her best friend died this afternoon. wow. I know her too. Lovely, caring person.
 
Awesome Superbowl!
I haven't watched it in years. I took Prof to my friends house, lots of generations shouting at the TV.

I met Mr Tile last night. We had a super fun evening. It did nearly crash and burn when he said he was in an open relationship. I asked him why he didn't tell me last time we met and he said he did. Um no. I think I would have remembered that pit in the stomach feeling. He lives so close by though that having a local booty call currently hold some appeal. The girlfriend/partner ( he doesn't like labels ) travels a lot for work, and they are very relaxed about the whole, her exes and current partners often hang around with them as a group. All very chill. I said I am not very chill on the issue I have no desire to meet the girlfriend, I will not be hanging out as a group and chatting, I don't want her to know where I live or where I work. He said that is fine.
 
I haven't seen Mr Tile since last weekend. It's almost entirely my schedule is the issue. He has family in town this weekend and I have kids. We chat and text. He is very enthusiastic. I am a little reserved because I have no idea how it will work out when the gf returns. Actually, I do have an idea but I am trying not to.

Mr Dom and I waved at each other on the highway. It's the closest I have been to him in 4 months. I told him today that I am over the lack of effort. I am not going to offer any more windows, I have offered to drive to him. Speaking of which, Roomie has been awesome at setting up things for us and the kids to hang out. He used to be terrible for flaking. It's an mazing change.

One of my friends, Friend #1, called out another friend, Friend #2, who keeps canceling. Friend #2 was complaining to #1 that we never get together anymore. Friend#2 says we do but you cancel at the last moment. Friend #2 apparently admitted to it.

I am messing around with the OLD from time to time, no new dates set up.
 
Mr Tile came over very late. I really like him but I am not sure I can take the smoking. He said he had showered and hadn't had a cigarette for a while but I suppose it starts to come out of your skin. I couldn't kiss him. I am also concerned that I will start again. I have had a few puffs from one of his and it would be so easy to pick it up again.
 
Mr Tile came over very late. I really like him but I am not sure I can take the smoking. He said he had showered and hadn't had a cigarette for a while but I suppose it starts to come out of your skin. I couldn't kiss him. I am also concerned that I will start again. I have had a few puffs from one of his and it would be so easy to pick it up again.
 
I was all determined to stop seeing Mr Tile and either text or call today to let him know. Then, my period started. Fabulous. So now I am second guessing and should probably wait a couple of days.
He is driving me nuts with the accent thing. How many times do I have to tell him not to do it? I get that people think think its cute or whatever but ugh. I had to tell a work friend to stop doing it recently. I told her that I have asked you a few times already not to do it and to be honest it hurts my feelings that you continue. Mr Tile is the same. I have asked him numerous times to stop and yet he still does it and what's worse, its not even close to my accent.
grumpy period woman.
 
Mr Tile gave a couple of super short responses to my "good morning :) " text.
He did not ask about the plans for the day or anything, so I let it drop. Looks like things will work out then, he is doing a fade/ghost drop thing and that entirely works out for me. I am really quite relieved. I spent the day doing house and car stuff, went to the gym, and will get the kids early from school. It all worked out just fine.
 
I feel bad :( I went from easily moving on from bad fits to wanting to make everything work out.

Mr Tile sent me a "hi" text just as I was getting the kids from school. I replied with a "?" . Turns out he was waiting ALL DAY for me to call him.

I must admit I think that is ridiculous. He calls at random points in the day "just to see if you will answer," but on this occasion he chooses not to. He said he thought something was wrong but didn't bother to call to find out what. Then he says the problem would have been easily solved with a phone call. Well, d'uh. I invited him over, the plan was very decided. I have no idea why I suddenly needed to chase him. It felt like a test and I failed. He later apologized and said I am very important to him.

Why do I feel bad? He mostly feels like he was trying and really liked me.
I feeeeeel like I should like him more and could iron out the wrinkles. He is local. He is keen. He doesn't have ED. I can MAKE IT WORK!!!!!!!!But the smoking, and the beard, and the lack of work, and the GF, and complaining about condoms ( which he did seem to get over ) and the accent thing and the thing about "calling just to see if you would pick up", and the not wanting to go home thing, and wanting to meet the kids to soon thing.

I really have a thing for unavailable men. It's not just simply the chase, as I have no urge to catch anyone, and anyone who does show too many signs of being caught pretty really makes me want to head for the hills. I remember when Mr Dom moved to town, it freaked me out. And Joe discussed moving closer.

I could also foresee Mr Tile's GF taking the opportunity to get him to move out or something. Their rent is high even for round here and he barely seems to work, in fact he was talking about picking up some bar or barista shifts. I am mathematically challenged but cannot see how he would cover his share of the rent... I played with the numbers. A full-time bar job wouldn't cover his share of the rent, never mind food, car etc. So the GF is heavily subsidizing.

I think I need to be happy with liking who I like and accepting that I can't have it both ways.

I am seeing Eeyore next week. He was the one who suggested meeting, surprise. He usually says he doesn't want to schedule and prefers to leave it to me. I need to find a better name than Eeyore. It does seem to suit him though.
 
I am not going to use quote marks because I can't be bothered.

Valentine's Day, well late afternoon and evening with Prof.
We agreed no presents. He got me presents. There was chocolate, champagne and the hot tub. In the hot tub he said he had something romantic to say. Oh yes, very interesting. Out of all the people with whom he has had BD play with, I am the one who started the journey with him, and I am the only the one left, almost 5 years later. I told him that is not romantic it is a timeline statement but I appreciate the attempt. He did explain a little more but it honestly, I felt more like the idiot that put with his crap than someone worthy of an award for longevity.

So we chat a little more and he asks me, do you not know how much I love you? I said, no not really, I feel like I mostly annoy you. He rattled of a list of things that apparently are important and obvious signs of love. He answers my phone calls. ( I get that is a big one for him ). He is there for me when I really need him. He is there for the kids when I need him. There were a few more that I don't remember but my response was, that he can't seem to fit me in to weekend time. His reply was that he is planning spring break time with me, planning summer time with me, working to get the camper van up and running again so we can do weekend trips and he has worked out the mortgage insurance for my house. He said he has no mental slots for weekend time. It was light bulb moment for me. In his head he is doing these 4 things a for him and me and that's all he can do. He expressed that he was really trying to get these things done and they are important. Ah. To me, those things take up little mental space and seem pretty small. But I could see they were big and involved a lot of mental effort for him. And yes, they do. I just don't know what is going behind the scenes enough to appreciate the time and effort.

Accepting people as they are is not easy. And how much accepting of them as they are can we do before they drive us nuts is not an easy question to answer.

There is more, but I have motorcycle class at 7 am. :eek:
 
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I passed the theory part of the motorcycle test. The final took me under 10 minutes as I have taken the test for my permit so many times. The instructor thought I had got all nervous and was quitting early! I have another skills day tomorrow with the riding test. I am nervous about that as last week was my first time ever doing the foot gear change. The clutch part was easy as I can drive stick and hand shift the classic scooters but finding the gear peg was an on going challenge. Fingers crossed!

I made up with Mr Tile. His girlfriend ( Ms Shell ) came back to town and the rules have started. So much for his idea that there would never any issues. The biggest rule so far is no overnights. I told him I won't push it for now but it is not something I will agree to in the long term. I explained a little about the primary and secondary structures and he eventually got it. He is not very happy about the idea of rules being imposed, he sees himself as a very easy going person who wouldn't give anyone any rules to follow. He also won't answer the phone now if Ms Shell is around, which is annoying as I am paying him to do my floors and I was in Home Depot this afternoon looking at options.

I saw Mr Dom briefly last weekend, drove 1.5 hours each way with the kids to get the dog. His Gf won't give us 1 second alone. The dog jumped into the car, I got the food and left in under 2 minutes. I have started road jogging again and having the dog is the best motivator to put my shoes on!
He is heading down this weekend so the kids and I will meet him for lunch and hang out for a bit.. No GF. I said I wouldn't drive to meet him again so soon if we couldn't hang out for a bit. He agreed that some in person catch up time would be good. We still talk, facetime and text all week long but I haven't spent more than 2 minutes in person with him since last October. He is doing the 100% thing with GF.
We have both returned to our previous unhealthy relationship styles. Oh well. I know what I am doing, I guess he is aware he is repeating behavior as well. I love him dearly, he loves me too. We accept each other for the fucked up people that we are. I can ask nothing more.

Prof has been is fairly constant contact while on his cruise. He has made sure I know he is with a male friend. Like I care. He seems somewhat bored and said he is working a lot while on the ship to pay for his next vacation, which is with me. The man has enough money to make your eyes water, so that is bullshit. He offered me an obscene amount of money to pay down my house to the 80/20 level and so I can drop the mortgage insurance payments. I asked about the repayment plan and he said put it into college funds for the kids :eek::eek::eek::eek: Money and gifts is how he shows he cares/manipulates. He is fucked up and I am fucked up enough to take the $.

I saw Eeyore this week too. Drinks, small plates and sex, lots of talk. We have settled into a pattern of communication and meeting that we are both comfortable with.

I am pretty much back to where I was 2 years ago relationship wise. Same relationships with similar people. I am currently very accepting of this. Next week I might feel differently.I am definitely sailing solo again.
 
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I passed the skills test! Have to do one more written test when I go to get my license updated but I am not worried about that. Very happy.
 
I lasted a few days before coming up with my next list of things to keep me busy.:p

I have started applying for new jobs. I will probably have to take a pay cut, work on my budget, cook a lot more, and commit to doing the commute from hell, but not spend my nights working on all the stuff I couldn't do during the day.

I bought an Instant Pot so now I can walk/jog after work and the kids can scoot along with me while dinner is cooking. I throw stuff in jars of sauce, pre-chopped veggies, rice or pasta, some kind of veggie protein, and press cook. I might read the instructions one of these days. Plus I am sick of salads for lunch and now I have days worth of leftovers.

I plan to get fit enough to walk/jog to a local landmark and back. It's almost exactly 5 miles round trip. I hope to be doing it a couple of times a week by july 4th.

Poly/open things are fine. Mr Tile is quite the character. I am paying him to do a few extra things that I could do, but I wouldn't do well. He is happy to get the cash so win win.

Prof came back from the cruise and immediately picked up a work trip out of state. I probably won't see him till he gets back from that. He offered to fly me out for the weekend but I am dog sitting and have a busy weekend planned already and simply can't rearrange everything at this short notice.

I havent contacted Eeyore since last week.

The visit with Mr Dom was great. I helped him do some things, we took the kids for dinner and talked up a storm. He has been researching electric bicycles and picked me one up today. I won't buy the Vespa as I am planning for a pay cut, but an electric bike will work for most of the same stuff I planned to do by scooter. I asked him to be alone when I go pick it up, pay him etc. I don't want to be doing that kind of stuff with the hovering GF around. He gets it. I was out with a friend at the weekend and she bumped into an old neighbor, I couldn't bring myself to chat to him, so its not about Mr Dom's GF personally, as much as I am socially awkward and just cannot do the chit chat. This is nothing new.
Brings to mind the time Prof and I bumped into one of his friends in the street and I froze so much he thought I was having a seizure of some sort. :eek:
 
Mr Dom and Mr Tile met today. Mr Tile knew about Mr Dom but Mr Dom only knew Mr Tile as the guy doing my floors. Interesting.
Mr Tile helped Mr Dom and me load the scooter on to the back of a pick up via a small ramp. I was pretty sure it would fall but with three of us pushing it went fine. I am sad to see the scooter go but the purchase won't fit in with my slash and burn budget plan. I have bought an electric bike instead. It goes 20 mph and has throttle as well as pedal assist. It goes like a rocket. The hills around here a long and steep so this will be the way to bring bikes back into my regular routine.

It was funny seeing the pair of them interact. I didn't say too much at all. They are both very chatty and social and got on well. Mr Dom thinks Mr Tile is not my type at all. He knows that I met Mr Tile on Tinder. Mr Tile is not my type, true. He is excited to see me and is currently offering to pop over at the drop of a hat. No "see you in 3 weeks." I like it.

Apparently I am getting all this tile work done for virtually cost as Mr Tile likes me a lot. MR Tile's work partner was aprently shocked when he told him what i am paying. In exchange for what is probably a steep discount on labor part, I am paying him for extra work, loaned him car to take the GF to a medical thing, I have given him a number of business plan ideas, and offered to set some of it up for him, and will refer him for a reasonable size contract when it comes up for bid. Plus I give "mad blow jobs." :eek: I will make sure he is not doing too cheaply though, I have no desire to feel like I took advantage of him, I will have years looking at the floors.

Prof sent me some hotel pics, torture. I am somewhat regretting not going, but it would have been a mad trip.
 
Mr Tile is driving me nuts. The cursing, the smoking, the all round loudness, the interrupting. I thought MR Dom could talk, oh my god, this man is 100 times worse. Not much I can do as my toilet and sink are currently sitting in back yard. I had to send him home on Friday as he was so recounting a bar fight in detail, with the live re-enactment. I asked him to stop a couple of times and he just kept going! I ducked out of last night as I had to drive an hour each way to pick up my phone which got a new battery. Ugh. The work he is doing is outstanding so I can't complain on that score.

While I was getting my phone i texted Mr Chef as my phone popped up with a location alert. He messaged right back and said he wasn't home but could we do a raincheck? I replied," Sure."

Prof is due back sometime today. I have invited him to a couple of events and he said yes to both, depending on if he is in town.


I had a great Tinder chat last night with a guy. A couple of hours we recommended music videos and watched them on youtube. He totally vanished when I said I would meet for him for a drink but nothing naked.

Today I plan to put a tow-hitch on my car. Youtube has videos on everything. I might try "appendectomies at home," next.
 
I had to break up or whatever you want to call it with Mr Tile. I simply can't accept him as the person he is, or as a lover, and I can't change who I am either.
Did I mention the urinating in my back yard about 5ft from where I sit. Disgusting.
He was catching feelings badly and I can't pretend to like him just to get my floors finished. He sent me a feelings text this morning and I ended up calling him and saying I can't continue as it's just not working for me. He said he was going to tell me he loved me today. Even in that conversation he wouldn't let me talk, not that I had a huge amount to say but it was the same as he usually does and I can't take it.

I said I would prefer it if he finished up the work he is was doing but I am also fine if he didn't feel it was something he wanted to do anymore. He said "No" and that he wanted to keep going. I said I don't want to feel like I am taking advantage of him and he said he would stop if he felt that, but he was enjoying having the free reign on the projects and I was motivating him to get his life back in order. I have put a lot of work into helping with a business plan and did a few hours of research and summarizing for some community projects he is working on. I feel that I have given and not just taken, but I don't want to give any more and just be talked over and interrupted and the endless swearing.

It's not even that the emotions were too much, it is basically his non-stop boorish behavior and I cannot see me letting him spend any time with the kids on any kind of regular basis. His life advice tip to them the other day was to never have children and he is serious, not joking. They were shocked, they are too young for that kind of talk.

He desperately wants to be friends. I said I am willing to try that but I don't think so. It's hard be friends with someone who you think doesn't listen, every conversation is an opportunity for him to give his strong and not well supported opinion on whatever happens to be on his mind.
 
I was approached by 2 men in car last night while I was walking the dog. They were following me and pulled a u-turn in front of me. The passenger rolled down his window and the driver tried to engage me in conversation about the dog. I crossed the street behind the car so they facing the other way. They pulled a another u-turn and continued to follow me. I pulled out my phone and called Prof who I knew was on his way. They followed me down to the main road, turned around again and drove off once I hit the traffic.
I should have called the police last night but I didn't, I called them today.
I wouldn't have reported it or been shaken up if it was just one person in the car. I have certainly had multiple experience of one man in a car pull up and offer a ride or cruise past in a weird way. But there were two of them and that means they had discussed what they were going to do. I had a very good description of the driver, the passenger kept in the dark. The police office helped me identify the type of vehicle, he was very good and at no point did I feel he wasn't taking me seriously.
Prof asked me why I didn't take a pic on my phone while I was walking and said there was no way I was going to trigger the passenger getting out. I can out run one but not much I can do if there is a driver keeping pace in a car.
It was deeply upsetting. It really impacted my sense of self.
I have been around the world by myself, work with the population that I work with, lived in some really bad places, and never felt as in danger as I did last night. Prof is going to order me some pepper spray and I will get a gun for the house.
Even as I went out last night with flashlight, it was only 6:30pm, I purposefully choose the best lit road and avoided the dark ones. I had running shoes on and was well covered up. It was about 10 minutes walk from my front door.
I have been mentally working through it today and am ok now. I have run through the "coulda shoulda" scenarios but at the end of it all, I did get away safely.
I think I am one of the most personal safety oriented people out there. I have written here about how I have annoyed dates by being overly paranoid. But my gut told me this was bad and I listened.

Prof was great. Listened to me process it again and again and stayed the night despite us both agreeing that sleepover wasn't going to happen.

I spoke to Mr Dom and he was very supportive too.

I plan to post the description on the neighborhood website and I think I will have done all I can do.
 
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MR Tile has got it bad. He came over for a bit last night to look at trim and lowered the cost on his work again. I will just keep mailing checks as I said I would to the value of what originally agreed on and on the time frame. His work is great. I was looking at stick on squares and I have custom tile work.
He keeps trying to hug me and tell me I am awesome and making all sorts of comments about sex stuff. I keep telling him that I am not going there with him anymore, he is a great guy but don't there is no chance of anything more. I being very forthright. Not leading him on, not trying to avoid the topic to keep him happy. It's getting really uncomfortable but mostly he leaves before I get home so I can avoid him.

Prof is fine. He might have a work trip coming up for the days we planned together of spring break. I will probably go with him. I haven't been to that city since I was a back packing college student so it will be fun to go and explore on the days he is working.

I have probably got a meet n' greet at the weekend. We are trying to line up a phone talk before we actually meet. The man has hardly asked me a single question but responds to anything I ask with detailed answers. He sent me a picture of a small beach in Sydney where he went diving with his kids last year. I identified it and he was amazed. I used to live 15 minutes or so walk from it so I know it well. It hasn't changed much over the years.

I have got about 3 job applications out right now and working on my fitness. I am not really bothered about online dating.

Mr Chef has been in off and on contact. I left him a voice message today as I was driving around.

I have enough to keep with me busy with the dog and house projects. I put a bi-fold door at the weekend add that to the tow hitch project and I am feeling that I am quite well with getting stuff done.
 
The trip with Prof was simply amazing, lots of silly fun, swanky restaurants and we discussed getting my younger child baptized and he would be one of the godparents. Fast forward one week later and I am blocked and he is refusing to speak to me. That all happened about a month ago.

What could be the heinous crime that I committed? Not understanding that having your phone upload to Drive is the same as "posting" on the internet in his eyes. I asked my tech friends if what I did is really counted as "posting" and they all said no. I am probably not alone in thinking posting is actually making pictures public or tagging or Facebook somesuch. I get that with all the account hacking these days he is concerned but what a huge over-reaction. I sent him one email saying if I hadn't heard from him by a particular date then I take it he is not going to the fundraiser I purchased us tickets for. No reply.

In the past ( and written about here ) I would be very concerned and bending over backwards to make things right. Not this time though. And if he does pop up again which I think he will, there will be a change in how I view him and whatever type of relationship we have.

Prof loves some drama. I never realized that until recently. There is a repeat pattern of pitting people against each other, silent treatment, and then graciously allowing people to crawl back up his ass. I might not bother with him at all apart from the fact that we travel very well together and do have wonderful trips.

I had to block Mr Tile. 10 weeks and the floors work still wasn't finished and I had taken up parking down the street to avoid him after I finished work. Then there was the unsolicited bathroom selfies. There is some trim and transition work to finish which I can do myself. He never did any of the additional projects he agreed to do. I did them all myself.

I saw Eeyore again this week. Seems to be every 6 weeks or so. We go have drinks and snacks and then have really good sex.

I am messaging a potential Dom. We might be meeting tomorrow but based on recent online dating experiences, arranging to meet rarely seems to result in actual meeting.

I did meet this guy I had been chatting too since before Xmas. He dropped off then got in contact again. It was a weird meeting, said if we didnt have sex then he would never see me again. I drove an hour to get there and the meeting lasted 15 minutes. Mostly it was him saying we had to go back to his place and have sex and that was what I had said we would do ??????? I reviewed the messages and no, nothing even hinting at sex.

Lots of contact with Mr Dom. He asked me if I would be open to hanging out with him and his "person" so we could spend more time together. :eek: :rolleyes:Cause I am renowned for my small talk and chit chat. He knows I am crap at it. He has recently taking up saying he misses me and the kids a lot. The distance is a huge factor, he is moving even further away in June, about 2.5-3 hours drive. I have stopped offering to drive up and told him to put something on the shared calendar if he wants. I also got 2 sets of concert tickets and asked him to go. Its up to him to actually ask for a set time.
 
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