My partner had sex with a woman, whom he´s been friends with for a very long time, a couple of weeks ago.
She doesn´t live in the same city as we do, but she had plans to move to town (not because of him) - but she doesn´t anymore -, and she is visiting often, staying at his place.
I´m anxious about it (probably because of the past bad experience we had - I`ll update that post one day). She seems like a really nice woman and mostly just want to have sex with him and not date / be together with him.
Still, when dealing with the schedule or her coming to town, I would like that he asks me. Not in a "you have to ask for permission" way, but to see if I´m okay with that, if I had plans or anything I would like to do together (we don´t do much planing, but spend most of the weekends together) and if there is, that he´d be open to meet me while she´s here. I hope it won´t come to that, that I never have to say anything and just be cool with it. But still, right now I feel anxious. I want to let go, but I feel that doing it like that give me some reassurance that he cares...
He sees it as if I am trying to control what and how he does it - which is not what I´m trying to do. I´m just trying to feel confortable about it and let go slowly...
Can you see the difference? Am I really trying to control too much? Asking for that is too much?
She doesn´t live in the same city as we do, but she had plans to move to town (not because of him) - but she doesn´t anymore -, and she is visiting often, staying at his place.
I´m anxious about it (probably because of the past bad experience we had - I`ll update that post one day). She seems like a really nice woman and mostly just want to have sex with him and not date / be together with him.
Still, when dealing with the schedule or her coming to town, I would like that he asks me. Not in a "you have to ask for permission" way, but to see if I´m okay with that, if I had plans or anything I would like to do together (we don´t do much planing, but spend most of the weekends together) and if there is, that he´d be open to meet me while she´s here. I hope it won´t come to that, that I never have to say anything and just be cool with it. But still, right now I feel anxious. I want to let go, but I feel that doing it like that give me some reassurance that he cares...
He sees it as if I am trying to control what and how he does it - which is not what I´m trying to do. I´m just trying to feel confortable about it and let go slowly...
Can you see the difference? Am I really trying to control too much? Asking for that is too much?