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EnamoredOne

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Thought I would introduce myself, and stop lurking all over.
I'm married, 34, one kiddo, and not sure exactly what I'm looking for. Information, support, polyaffectionate relationship, like minded people. The list can go on and on.
Glad I found this site.
 
Hi

I know what you mean about being glad you found this site.

What does your poly life look like right now? Action, thought? Buddys, Friends, lovers, multiple long term relationships? What is your ideal?

I just ask these things because the answers will probably help draw the like minded people on here to you :)

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As of now my marriage is closed. We have been talking about opening up. I'm bi so the ideal would be to find a female polyaffectionate relationship. Although everything is new, and up for discussion.
Im also a pretty private personal in my daily life. A few friends and the hubby know about me being bi. All kind of new here.

Thanks for replying.
 
Ok. Going to add a tad more info. Been married for 14 years. All of it monogamous. I've always felt like I have more to give, and need more in return than what one person (hubby) can give. We have talked about threesomes and such, but I'm not interested in flings or friends with benefits. Which brings me to how I learned about polyamory. A friend was looking for fwb, and propositioned me. There where so many rules involved, and really wouldn't be friends at all. Just fb's. All the rules centered around anything to be perceived as a relationship. Or spoke of the gf's insecurities. Not something I was interested in. He mentioned he was more polyamourous, but the gf wasn't into it. So i got Google out and researched. That was months ago and I've found this forum.
Also have had more talks with hubby about being open. He seems ok if I was with another woman, but no men. I'm still in the finding out all I can type of mode.
I'm hoping to find people in my shoes or been there already and wiser :)
 
Research for yourself is good, but if you can, try to encourage your husband to do some research too. Or if he doesn't have time, share the stuff you have found with him regularly. Often we see situations where one person is into the idea, so throws themselves into it wholeheartedly seeking more, only to discover a few months later that their partner is a) overwhelmed by everything, and b) reads the first 'definition' of polyamory and already knows it's not for them. Better to include him from the off, and be having discussions with him while things are all speculative, rather than you getting your heart set on the idea, and him feeling like you are pushing a particular way of thinking/doing upon him.

Good luck with it all! :)
 
Greetings EnamoredOne,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Read all you can here, and don't hesitate to post any questions. In addition, there's a couple of great books you could look at:

  • "More than Two: a practical guide to ethical polyamory," by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert.
  • "Opening Up: a guide to creating and sustaining open relationships," by Tristan Taormino.
Possibly you and your husband could read them together and/or exchange thoughts about different parts that you read.

I hope Polyamory.com can help you find the things you're looking for.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

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If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 
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