So Happy!

[ShinySharpThing]

I am married to "Melon" who has been in a relationship with "Mango" for about 8 months. Due to the COVID-19 situation, we decided it was best for Mango to live with us instead of traveling back and forth to her place since her housemate is immunocomprimised.

I really like Mango. I was worried that she might not feel comfortable talking to me about her needs.

(When I was younger, I was once in a relationship with a married couple, and I remember not feeling like I was as important as their relationship.)

I don't want that to happen to Mango, so I try to check in every now and then. She always says she's fine.

We've been doing an "every other night" thing with who gets to sleep with Melon and who sleeps in the guest room.

Wednesday night, Mango asked if she could sleep with Melon for a second night in a row because she had an early (online)meeting on Friday. She thought it might be better to sleep in the guest room Thursday night so she could sign on to her meeting first thing without waking Melon.

You guys... I was so happy! She's never asked for anything before. I feel like she trusts me more.

Has anyone else had a moment like this?

 

[kdt26417]

Hello ShinySharpThing,

Thanks for sharing your encouraging story. It is always a good feeling when your metamour opens up with you about their needs, it makes you feel valued, and like your poly relationship is going in the right direction.

You can find more sharing success stories at http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?p=729

Regards,
Kevin T.

 

[Magdlyn]

It was considerate and generous of you to consent to your metamour moving in after your spouse only dating them 8 months. This lockdown is going to last a long time! I'm glad you're getting along.

I don't quite get how amazing it is that she asked to change the sleep schedule, but I'm glad it made you happy.