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Meh. Feel sad for me if you want. I feel just fine - not at all isolated. Isolated? Seriously? lol It's not at all exhausting being me. I notice, move on. I don't spend a whole lot of time focusing on that people are wearing their pajamas; I just move on. Actually, I am sure that there are a few people that take a look at what I'm wearing on a daily basis and shake their heads. (My outfits can sometimes be a bit bright.)

Wearing your pajamas in public is sending a signal to everyone around you. If you don't care, that's fine. But yeah, I do notice what people are wearing. I'd do the same if I were at the grocery store and someone walked in wearing a prom dress. Or a cool 50s style dress. Or daisy dukes. I notice, and move on. Positive-negative-it doesn't really matter unless I am planing on more interaction later. I have a mental snapshot of what that person must be like and then it is gone. It's not exhausting at all.

Thinking about this actually makes me laugh, because that is how I met my boyfriend. I walked into the game store to hang out with a completely different guy, and PunkRock was standing near the entrance, wearing a full suit. This was not normal for the setting, so I noticed him right off. So he saw me looking at him, and he saw I was wearing a Firefly T-shirt, and he made a comment about how cool it was. We had a brief conversation about it, and then he found me on Facebook later that evening.

If he had been wearing pajama pants and a tank top, I would have walked right on by. If I had been wearing pajamas, he probably wouldn't have said anything either. *shrugs*
 
Fashion is subjective and how one dresses does send a message. What that message is, will be different depending upon the person wearing it and the person viewing it. I might leave my apartment feeling like I look amazing and someone sees me and thinks, "Oh, how could she?" Or visa-versa. We all judge, all the time. It doesn't mean we are wasting our lives judging, all it means is that an impression of someone has been made and immediately associated with whatever thoughts and beliefs we have or have been taught about what we see. Big whoop.

Personally, I think wearing pajamas in public is one of the most ridiculous trends that ever got started. There is a reason why, on makeover shows like What Not to Wear, and the like, pajamas and track suits are considered fashion disasters. Every woman who is interviewed on camera and asked why she wears pajamas in public says she does it because it's just easier, a no-brainer. Wearing a coat on over pj's isn't as bad, because at least they're covered up.

I would hate to see people walking around in pajamas. To me, it looks sloppy and makes me think that they don't give a shit enough to get dressed. I imagine they rolled out of bed without even brushing their teeth before going out. That's the impression it makes on me. Fortunately, we rarely see people in pajamas in NYC. Yoga pants, yes, pajamas, no. In NYC, everybody here has to wear clothing with designer logos and initials or they feel they can't be seen in public. That bothers me, too. The other thing I hate is women sunbathing in Central Park wearing bathing suits. It doesn't make sense to me - there is no place around here for you to go swimming, so why are you wearing a bikini in the middle of the park? So stupid. But who cares what I think? The planet keeps spinning, even when people wear pajamas outside, even when I judge them for it. Feel sorry for me, too, if you want.
 
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It is one thing to notice what somebody is wearing and not like it - most people do that sort of thing all the time. It is another thing entirely - at least in my mind - to notice what somebody is wearing, not like it and construct a story that makes the other person either lazy and disrespectful or in the middle of a personal crisis that makes them an unsafe driver.

The first is a fairly harmless judgement of personal taste.

The second makes somebody who would dress differently have questionable morals and be possibly behaving in a dangerous manner.

The second sort of judgements are something to be sad about in my opinion.

IP

P.S. I have always rather enjoyed Bertrand Russell's essay "In Praise of Idleness" which gives an interesting perspective on the commonly held view that being lazy is bad. :D
 
An unkempt appearance is a symptom of poor mental health. That doesn't mean that everyone who walks around looking unkempt does have poor mental health but it isn't a huge leap to assume that the woman in her pyjamas in public isn't having the greatest day, at the very least.
 
MightyMax said:
An unkempt appearance is a symptom of poor mental health.
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Do you have a reference to back that up? I'd be astonished if unkempt appearance on its own was a good indicator of poor mental health.

In the UK at least I've heard a few anecdotes that suggest that male academics are viewed as smarter if they look a mess. Too busy thinking deep thoughts to worry about dress. (Of course, it doesn't apply to women but we all know that sexism is alive and well right?)

it isn't a huge leap to assume that the woman in her pyjamas in public isn't having the greatest day, at the very least.
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Really? That depends on the perspective and world view of the person doing the viewing.

When I see men and women out doing food shopping in pyjamas I assume they are having a great day. I imagine them having a day of sex, telly, sleep and chatting about an amazing night the night before. Nipping out to get supplies and not bothering to get dressed because it breaks the spell. Reminds me of being a student which was when I would most often go to the shops with a coat on over my pyjamas and my hair unbrushed.

In my world it is something to smile about - something that brings back happy memories.
 
I agree with Bluebird. This is me and my gf on a typical groceries run. Respect!

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Personally I think she overdid it on the eye glitter that day, but hey, it's her face!
 
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Lmao
 
Well, I live in southern california and I find it to be such a breath of fresh air when I run into a woman who doesn't seem to spend all of her energy on putting herself together. I (quite intentionally) live in the one neighborhood in town where people tend to go make-up-less and wear pajamas and such. It's also the neighborhood that was practically wall papered with "no on 8" signs back when the haters were trying to get same sex marriage constitutionally banned. I think the fact that people here are more casual about their appearance and more accepting of others' various personal styles is strongly related to their greater acceptance of others' lifestyle choices. And I feel much more comfortable myself in a place where I don't feel like I'm required to conform to someone else's idea of what's proper to wear to the grocery store. I felt that kind of pressure strongly when I lived in Alabama and it was very oppressive.
 
I lounge around the house in my shorts and could never bring myself to go shopping without first donning some pants. At the same time, I don't hold it against others if they show up at the store in their shorts. Maybe if someone dresses "WalMart bad" it might elicit a giggle/chuckle from me, but I still ultimately consider it a matter of "live and let live."
 
What a pic ... fab ... Mags, that's really you there? Garsh. :)
 
SchrodingersCat said:
And there we have it, ladies and gentlemen. Vancouver vs New York. :)
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Hahahah, you might be right about that!

InfinitePossibility said:
When I see men and women out doing food shopping in pyjamas I assume they are having a great day. I imagine them having a day of sex, telly, sleep and chatting about an amazing night the night before. Nipping out to get supplies and not bothering to get dressed because it breaks the spell. Reminds me of being a student which was when I would most often go to the shops with a coat on over my pyjamas and my hair unbrushed.
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Yep. Also evidence that it must be summertime.
 
Bluebird said:
Lmao
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HappilyFallenAngel said:
Ditto!

"Magdlyn and her GF" just turned this into a 5 star thread for me. :D
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kdt26417 said:
What a pic ... fab ... Mags, that's really you there? Garsh. :)
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InfinitePossibility said:
lol Mags. That made me smile loads.

You'd certainly get plenty of attention at my local shops. :D
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LOL, you guys! You're so easy. Miss Pixi and I are cute, and she dresses very fab downtown style. I am a tshirt and jeans soft butch to her femme. This pic is a fairly famous drag queen named Pearl and a friend of hers.

In case that is not clear enough, they are male performers, female impersonators. Makes you stop and think about the standards of beauty some of us hold women to, eh?
 
[shakes head] Will wonders never cease.
 
:D Yes - very obvious that the photo is of dressed up men. I thought everybody was joking along with you, Mags. :D

I thought that was the point? That being harshly judged for appearance is all around. There are certainly plenty of people who would consider men who dress as women to be disrespectful and possibly mentally ill.
 
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