About me- for you TeJoKo 
I live in Wasilla, Alaska. I've lived in Alaska since I was 3 (32 years).
Until the last couple years when Maca and I started traveling I never realized how much more open-minded and generally accepting people here were compared with people in other parts of the country.
Also-people here tend to "fail" to fit the "stereotypes" for male/female. I presume it's because of the environment. Many people here hunt for their PRIMARY food source, it takes the WHOLE family to make that function-so the men and women are side by side.
Also-being "high maintenance" gets a bit problematic when the weather is stuck at -30F or less for months at a time. It's simply ridiculous to try to dress "sexy" or whatever in that type of weather. Dresses and skirts become something out of movies-because no one wants frostbite.
Hell-most of the women I know have known how to pee standing up, outside in the woods since they were "potty trained" because how the hell else can you pee if you are camping?
Maca and I were STUNNED when we went stateside to see the "campgrounds" that had showers, rv hookups etc. We have rv sites here, but they are generally not in "campgrounds". Our campgrounds are generally dirt roads through the woods that have fire pits every 30 feet or so in the trees and if you are lucky-a wooden picnic table.
But-even those are considered a bit "high maintenance" for camping and generally you find families with children using them.
I never camped in a "campground" until I was married. We always just went out to the woods, hiked or skiid in for a day, set camp whereever we ended up and either hiked/skii'd further the next day and made camp again or hiked/skii'd out.
Can't say much about advertising... as I said, I don't watch or even HAVE tv and I avoid the radio like the plague. I don't even "browse the net" and run across adds. I find advertising WAY to annoying. Hell-even in my moment of "treating myself to an extra" and ordering the magazine "runners" I skip the pages with advertisements. Seriously have NO USE for seeing much less reading or hearing them.
OMG Penis's can be SO disgusting. First of all there is the whole wet dreams thing. I've got teenage boys around and I can assure you that I get REALLY tired of washing their NASTY sheets, blankets, pajamas, underwear and pants! SO GROSS-and I'm not talking "wiping" issues-I'm talking penis dripping issues! Some men that settles down once they get out of puberty and they have good control over their "getting off". Some men, do not.
Furthermore, the pre-cum. OH LORD! There are men I've been sexually active with who drip precum when they see something that they find attractive. So you are walking in the store-and they are dripping in their pants! NICE (not).
Then of course there is the pee dribble. (that grosses me out way more than precum for sure).
Men who precum easily like that-often do get the crusty underwear.
Ironically-last week Maca was commenting about how womens cum doesn't cause that problem, but men's does. I don't remember exactly why he was talking about it-but it just popped in my mind reading your post.
Also-not all women have the issue of getting crusty. (sorry if I sound crude-not sure how else to term it)
I am generally always damp at least and often get wet easily through out the day, but I almost never have that issue with my panties (I don't usually wear panties if I wear pants, but I do if I'm wearing a skirt or dress and when I'm on my period and I used to wear them all of the time).
I wasn't suggesting that you were telling women these feelings you were expressing here. Not at all. BUT-women tend (tend, not always) to be more intuitive than men. They sense something is "off" even when they can't define it. So if you are FEELING those emotions when they meet you-they may be picking up on that. I was being sincere in my suggestion about not judging them. It's NOT always easy to do. I have a HARD TIME with women who are REALLY HIGH MAINTENANCE. Drive me nuts. I've found that no matter how nice I try to be, they can tell somehow that I'm having negative feelings regarding them and they react differently because of it.
The point behind going other places in this case is that you could meet other women more like you and there's no saying it has to be superficial. When I went to Seattle and met RP and Mono-it could have been "just nothing" but in fact it's turned into a friendship between us that is meaningful on all sides (I think)
If you meet people who live in different places, have different experiences and lives, you may find that you meet people that you LIKE BETTER than the people who are near you. You may find that you can make some deep meaningful friendships that weren't available to you where you are from.
Meeting people is very limited if you arent willing/able to talk to strangers. Because of course until you meet them, they are all strangers. The easiest way I've found is simply to go out and particpate in activities that I really like, with other people who really like doing them.
The other thing you might consider is going to someplace like REI and finding out what types of SMALL group activities that they have going on.
Sometimes you'll find that they have a 3-5 person limit to go on a rafting/kayaking/skijoring/mt climbing/biking/etc trip... That would be something where you and your guys could go-and then there would be 1-2 other (potentially new) people as well. Much easier than a group of 10-15 people.
It really depends upon what it is you are interested in doing.
Oh hell-we've got a HUGELY controversial home.
I completely understand that issue!
I don't just jump in both feet to becoming friends with someone new. I take it slow. Some people I meet-and within seconds I know it won't be a good fit, so out of my life they go.
Other people I may consider for longer and still decide that they aren't a good fit.
Then there are those few that I keep for life.
