By a very wild stretch of the imagination, this might be considered an allusion to sex with minors. OMG! Nothing further from the truth! It might have been less ambiguous if I'd written "You've spent the night with Gia sometimes without Eric, no?" but I gather that this [just the 2 of them spending the whole night together] is not the case.Thought 1: You have sex with Gia sometimes without Eric, no? Is it not conceivable that on the odd occasion you, she, and the child will be cramping each other's style in this camping thingie (I'm curious: I assume it isn't a tent?) without Eric?
Too right! How can you know that you'll safely weather the storms if all your days so far are sunny?It's a weird thing to say, but it actually feels kind of good, now that it's over anyway, to go through an emotional crisis with my partner and come out the other side. In working it out, we show that we both have the power to affect one another deeply, and that we wield that power responsibly and compassionately. I DON'T want to go through anything like that again anytime soon, but in a strange way a crisis makes the relationship become real in a way that is different from when everything is smooth and quiet, or when the only conflicts are ones I'm dealing with internally. And when everything slides back into place afterwards and we can be relaxed and happy together, we see how resilient our relationship really is.
That's lovely! I've just been spending 1/4 hour searching Internet for a quote of Antoine de Saint-Exupery's. It's not one of his most famous quotes nor is it in "The Little Prince", but I can't remember which book it is from, and because my memory's not exact, I'm not finding it. But the gist is this:She told me that she would always reach out if she thought she could use my help.
I've worked hard to bank the fire of my passion for her and just deal with the fact that we haven't been sexual since October. I know that it's because of the pregnancy... she felt both love and lust for me once and she feels love for me now... I have to trust and hope that the lust part will come back at some point. But in the meanwhile it gets hard to want and not have, to feel set aside when it comes to this aspect of our connection.
Have you talked to her about this? It's not uncommon for the sex drive to shift gears and even dissapear during pregnancy. We also go through completely irrational stages where we don't want anyone to see our bodies, because we are afraid they will think we're ugly. If you haven't discussed this with her you should. She may need just as much reassurance and doesn't know how to ask for it.
I kicked GG out of the house-like he got his own apartment, when I was pregnant with SourPea.....
There’s this crazy little word called "love" that means different things to different people and different things to the same person depending on its context. There’s sexual love and maternal love and brotherly love and the love you feel for friends and and and.You're right about almost all of this. But, for the record, Eric and I have shared "sexual love" plenty of times before (see above). My guess is that he certainly feels affection for me, maybe even loves me as a friend, *maybe* even as something more than that... but I highly doubt that his feelings are at the level as mine. But hey, who can claim to know the secret workings of the mind of another? Not I, certainly.
Hey, come on, Annabel! It was you who started this love / not love business on here. You love Eric but he said (earlier) that he's not interested in a "love" relationship with you. OK, OK, so maybe I mean romantic love - or maybe you mean romantic love. (But, FYI, for me "sexual love" is a love (not = lust) that wants to express itself sexually [as well as in other ways]. I can imagine myself loving someone romantically and not wanting to have sex with them. [But - as I've explained somewhere on this board - I'm a pervert.])@Mr. FFR -- When you say "sexual love" do you mean "romantic love"? What *is* sexual love, exactly, as different from sex?
I was so emotionally overwhelmed during my pregnancy that I literally could not handle him being close. I felt like if he was near then I needed to take care of him (my thought-not his) and I couldn't handle it.