Hello all. From MS and new to this site. My wife and I have been fantasizing through the idea of bringing another guy into our bedroom. It’s a huge turn on in the bedroom and I believe we are ready to give my a go.
What advice would you give as we strive to move forward completely unsure of how to approach it?
Hello!
The advice is: Read up on the difference between ethical non-monogamy in general and polyamory specifically. Discuss what you'll do if someone falls in love.
Greetings Rockabybaby79,
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Communicate with your wife, do it a lot, and always try to do it better. Stay away from assumptions. Give/get confirmation instead. Finally, I earnestly encourage you to invest time on this forum, there is so much to learn. Explore our various threads and boards, and let us know whenever you have any questions. Such is my advice for starters. Good luck!
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Hi. Just so you know, this is a board for "polyamory," which means "multiple loves." It does not mean "threeway sex." You just want to have some MFM sex because you find the idea erotic. That's fine. But it's not polyamory. You don't mention love.
That said, you and/or your wife could seek a male partner for casual threesome sex on a dating app like Feeld or Tinder. (I'm not sure if you're in the US and have those apps.) Or you could go to bars as a couple and chat up other drinkers and see who'd be interested. Or just your wife could go to bars and pick up interested men. You could look into the "hotwife" concept on a kink site such as Fetlife.
You might find men who don't like the idea because they're afraid to have sex with a married woman whose husband wants to be in on it. It takes a certain kind of guy to be open to that. Most men think a married woman is good to cheat with, behind her husband's back, but they get weirded out if the husband approves, whether he wants to actually be in on the act, or not.
