Al99
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Hi Everyone - I hope that everyone is surviving the Apocalypse. I haven't had many opportunities to post here recently. The Covid situation has resulted in my wife, Becky, and I both working at home (I actually have been working at home for some time, but now we both are), all while now having to home school our kiddo. And up until a couple of weeks ago, Becky's former partner, Ben, was still living with us and also working at home. I finally had a few minutes today to post an update - while Becky was spending the day with her new partner, Sam, at an adult lifestyle-nudist resort in the area.
I believe that I briefly mentioned once before that Becky and Ben's relationship had gradually become less and less romantic over the second half of last year, and completely nonsexual by the end of the year - even though he was living with us and very much "part of the family". The reasons are still unclear to all of us, but most likely were a result of a depression that seemed to cast a cloud over Ben's demeanor. By the end of the year, they had made the decision to "officially" end their romantic relationship, although Ben continued to live with us for a few more months as part of the family - and will still be coming over for dinner once a week or so. It really is interesting how relationships can be so fluid and easily morph to different forms in polyamorus settings.
Quite unexpectedly, this left me with two other poly partners, and Becky with none, even though we began this poly adventure at her request (so she could ethically explore her resurgent feelings for her old college boyfriend, Ben). Even after Becky and Ben had begun to have issues, I had really expected that they would work things out - given their long history. This was hardly a situation that I ever imagined that I would be in, but fortunately, it did not remain that way for long.
While Becky was not interested in "looking for" new poly partners on dating apps and such, she was very much interested in exploring an MFM threesome experience from more of a swinger approach. Knowing that this was one of her long held fantasies (that Ben had never been interested in), I agreed to explore the possibility with her, and signed us up on a swinger site - also hoping that it would ease the pain of her breakup. After initial screening and vetting of a few different guys, we ended up having some extensive three-way chats with Sam, and eventually we all met for coffee, then drinks - and finally the main event. That went well enough, with the end result being that both Becky and Sam wanted to get to know each other on a more personal level. I obviously had no objections, and after a lot of texting and phone chatting, they went out a few dates for coffee and drinks, and began an intimate relationship that has now evolved into a full poly relationship. Complete with all the really annoying NRE.
Of course I also met Sam in the very beginning of the entire process, and we have continued to have a amicable relationship as well, occasionally texting each other and such. And the three of us have all met for coffee a few times as well.
Adding to the fun, Sam was already an enthusiastic member of an adult lifestyle/nudist resort about an hour away (not the family friendly kind of place, this resort is adult only and geared toward the swinger lifestyle). So, all three of us went - three weekends straight - and met some really interesting people. But, I sat this one out today to take care of another obligation - and let Becky and Sam enjoy the day without me (although I had given them some private time on the other visits - while I enjoyed meeting new folks - fascinating experience).
We've certainly traveled down the road a bit since that first discussion almost four years ago - probably safe to say we're poly to stay.
Hope everyone is well!
Al
I believe that I briefly mentioned once before that Becky and Ben's relationship had gradually become less and less romantic over the second half of last year, and completely nonsexual by the end of the year - even though he was living with us and very much "part of the family". The reasons are still unclear to all of us, but most likely were a result of a depression that seemed to cast a cloud over Ben's demeanor. By the end of the year, they had made the decision to "officially" end their romantic relationship, although Ben continued to live with us for a few more months as part of the family - and will still be coming over for dinner once a week or so. It really is interesting how relationships can be so fluid and easily morph to different forms in polyamorus settings.
Quite unexpectedly, this left me with two other poly partners, and Becky with none, even though we began this poly adventure at her request (so she could ethically explore her resurgent feelings for her old college boyfriend, Ben). Even after Becky and Ben had begun to have issues, I had really expected that they would work things out - given their long history. This was hardly a situation that I ever imagined that I would be in, but fortunately, it did not remain that way for long.
While Becky was not interested in "looking for" new poly partners on dating apps and such, she was very much interested in exploring an MFM threesome experience from more of a swinger approach. Knowing that this was one of her long held fantasies (that Ben had never been interested in), I agreed to explore the possibility with her, and signed us up on a swinger site - also hoping that it would ease the pain of her breakup. After initial screening and vetting of a few different guys, we ended up having some extensive three-way chats with Sam, and eventually we all met for coffee, then drinks - and finally the main event. That went well enough, with the end result being that both Becky and Sam wanted to get to know each other on a more personal level. I obviously had no objections, and after a lot of texting and phone chatting, they went out a few dates for coffee and drinks, and began an intimate relationship that has now evolved into a full poly relationship. Complete with all the really annoying NRE.
Of course I also met Sam in the very beginning of the entire process, and we have continued to have a amicable relationship as well, occasionally texting each other and such. And the three of us have all met for coffee a few times as well.
Adding to the fun, Sam was already an enthusiastic member of an adult lifestyle/nudist resort about an hour away (not the family friendly kind of place, this resort is adult only and geared toward the swinger lifestyle). So, all three of us went - three weekends straight - and met some really interesting people.
But, I sat this one out today to take care of another obligation - and let Becky and Sam enjoy the day without me (although I had given them some private time on the other visits - while I enjoyed meeting new folks - fascinating experience). We've certainly traveled down the road a bit since that first discussion almost four years ago - probably safe to say we're poly to stay.
Hope everyone is well!
Al
