ShareNisCareN
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In the swinger world a bi female that is shared with a couple is referred to as a unicorn. Is it different in the poly world? Is a bi male referred to someway? Forgive my ignorance but we are trying to learn.
Unicorn hunting?
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JaneQSmythe
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The HBB (Hot-Bi-Babe) is, I believe, a Unicorn in either circle. (Hot-Bi-Guys are not as in-demand - I call them MANticores - but that has never caught on...)
The main point being, at least in poly, that she is a mythical beast - that does not actually exist, in the sense that no ONE person can be what the Unicorn Hunting couple desires with NO desires of her own. People do not come in a "made-to-order" mold! In Swinger-Land, it seems, that because the focus is on sex/threesomes they are more available (on the surface) - because the encounter can be one-and-done. But in poly - where the relationship/feelings may trump the sex - it is more problematic. The chances of a HBB fulfilling the couples' requirements while having none of her own (for an LTR) are practically nil.
The main point being, at least in poly, that she is a mythical beast - that does not actually exist, in the sense that no ONE person can be what the Unicorn Hunting couple desires with NO desires of her own. People do not come in a "made-to-order" mold! In Swinger-Land, it seems, that because the focus is on sex/threesomes they are more available (on the surface) - because the encounter can be one-and-done. But in poly - where the relationship/feelings may trump the sex - it is more problematic. The chances of a HBB fulfilling the couples' requirements while having none of her own (for an LTR) are practically nil.
ShareNisCareN
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I appreciate your comments. Thank you for responding. Also your blogs are quite well written and interesting and relatable. Thank you. We live in an area where poly relationships are kept on the down low it seems, so anyone adventurous enough to participate is in swinger circles. Maybe just my perception but poly people are not just hanging around having conversations.swingers can be found and enjoyed but the just one and done aspect is not that great always. Not complaining but thinking about exploring more of a connection LTR type scenarios led us here. Totally understand a HBB has her own needs and she is a person not an object. All people are different that's the spice of life. Even if we never find anyone to explore it's been fun talking about it.
Jeansandsneakers
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At least you seem to get it. I personally find it concerning the number of people that seem to think there’s a supply of women out there seeking a couple to faithfully adore that will place them in a second tier position with no autonomy of their own.
ShareNisCareN
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Where we live the only thing in supply is narrow mindedness. Grateful for the opportunity to meet some of you even if it's just online it's nice to talk openly with like-minded humans.
Hello ShareNisCareN,
Technically, "unicorn" means the same thing in both poly and swing. The difference is, that in poly -- for sure in this forum -- unicorn hunting is generally proscribed. As JaneQSmythe indicated, relationships (where feelings are involved and people can fall in love) tend to be more complex than casual sex by itself. People have emotional needs that sometimes supersede the simple MF+F model. Doesn't mean "bi female that is shared with a couple" can never happen in poly, it just means that it is a lot less common than often believed.
Regards,
Kevin T.
Technically, "unicorn" means the same thing in both poly and swing. The difference is, that in poly -- for sure in this forum -- unicorn hunting is generally proscribed. As JaneQSmythe indicated, relationships (where feelings are involved and people can fall in love) tend to be more complex than casual sex by itself. People have emotional needs that sometimes supersede the simple MF+F model. Doesn't mean "bi female that is shared with a couple" can never happen in poly, it just means that it is a lot less common than often believed.
Regards,
Kevin T.