The wife and I began a relationship with a wonderful person. It was amazing but it fell apart abruptly. It is very difficult for me I truly care about this other person. I’m struggling with the loss of her. It has changed my view of the whole polyamory dynamic and my relationship with my wife. I’m confused and scared about things. Not really sure how to move forward anymore. Anyone have any advice?
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- Thread starter Rbachman
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Before answering or offering advice, I have a few questions:
How long have you been with your wife?
How long has your marriage been polyamorous?
How much research did you do before beginning this triad? Did you read a few books, many articles, listened to podcasts, go to poly workshops, talk to poly friends?
Why did it fall apart?
Do you have kids?
Do you think triads are the only way to do polyamory?
I am sure that opening your marriage changed your dynamic with your wife. It would have even if you three had had a longer more successful run.
It sound like you and wife are not on the same page, at the same stage, in grieving the end of your old marriage, and in grieving the end of this triad. Is that right?
We have a list of resources here that should help you a lot:
How long have you been with your wife?
How long has your marriage been polyamorous?
How much research did you do before beginning this triad? Did you read a few books, many articles, listened to podcasts, go to poly workshops, talk to poly friends?
Why did it fall apart?
Do you have kids?
Do you think triads are the only way to do polyamory?
I am sure that opening your marriage changed your dynamic with your wife. It would have even if you three had had a longer more successful run.
It sound like you and wife are not on the same page, at the same stage, in grieving the end of your old marriage, and in grieving the end of this triad. Is that right?
We have a list of resources here that should help you a lot:
