Wait. We’re Poly?!

[Aly_cat]

Hi! I’m Alysha, and my super sexy hubby is Mike! We have recently stumbled upon the fact that we are poly. We have a great relationship and sex life, we love each other desperately, we just always needed…more. It’s taken us almost 20 years to figure out what that more was. It has led us here! We both need to share the immense sea of love we have with someone special. We have talked and been more open and honest with each other than ever before. It’s the most intimate feeling. Becoming completely vulnerable and open with each other. We are completely new to poly but have our basic ground rules, understanding that those may and probably will evolve as we evolve. We know we want to start as a triad, or two couples. We want a nice solid foundation to build off of. And above all, we want to be able to unlock that next level with each other and our lovers. Emotionally and physically we are ready for our next chapter. May love and light be with you, we look forward to meeting you!

 

[Magdlyn]

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[kdt26417]

Greetings Alysha and Mike,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like you are ready to form a triad or a quad. That is great news! Now you just need to know where to find your third/fourth. You could start with a poly dating site, there are quite a few out there, if you want me to list some let me know. Another route to go is to join a local poly group. To find that, you google "polyamory" with the name of your state, or nearest major city. And you can make friends with people you meet at platonic events, especially fringe events such as kink, Ren faires, or indie concerts. And we have a Dating & Friendships section on this forum, you can post there but then you really have to keep up on it, it's not really made to do the work for you.

I'm really glad to have you with us, and I hope you will keep posting with your thoughts, questions, and anything you want to share!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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