Orlandobif
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My wife has had a girlfriend for 3.5 years (formerly a triad for 2 years). They are well suited for each others. In some ways I think she meets needs better than I do but the slice of life they share is small and it’s always “date night”. No worries, no problems. Let’s stroll around the lake.
I am house/dog sitting and the girlfriend slept over the house and they are at the beach together today enjoying the last weekend before chaos strikes again. I’m glad she gets to go today but sometimes it really bothers me when they “play house” or “play life”. When they go to the beach with the girlfriend’s kids it’s like “playing family”. When she stays at the house and I am not there (I usually am) it’s like “playing married”. It feels like an encroachment on my life. As if dating and having a good time is one thing. Playing life is unacceptable and threatening. No, I never say no. It’s just me feeling insecure that she looks more attractive for “life” than I do. That she is a single lesbian with the kids my wife wanted makes me breathe deeply. That she loses track of time and I don’t hear from her for 6-8 hours on a day like today leaves me to dream up the idea they are looking for an apartment together and planning their next step.
Do I believe this? No. Do I fear this? Yes.
Do your partners/spouses “play life” and does that bother you?
I am house/dog sitting and the girlfriend slept over the house and they are at the beach together today enjoying the last weekend before chaos strikes again. I’m glad she gets to go today but sometimes it really bothers me when they “play house” or “play life”. When they go to the beach with the girlfriend’s kids it’s like “playing family”. When she stays at the house and I am not there (I usually am) it’s like “playing married”. It feels like an encroachment on my life. As if dating and having a good time is one thing. Playing life is unacceptable and threatening. No, I never say no. It’s just me feeling insecure that she looks more attractive for “life” than I do. That she is a single lesbian with the kids my wife wanted makes me breathe deeply. That she loses track of time and I don’t hear from her for 6-8 hours on a day like today leaves me to dream up the idea they are looking for an apartment together and planning their next step.
Do I believe this? No. Do I fear this? Yes.
Do your partners/spouses “play life” and does that bother you?
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