When your nesting partner brings someone home

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Noyse

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So me and my nesting partner (Connie) moved in together a few months ago. Mostly the generic growing pains, but turns out we gave remarkably little thought to bringing dates over. We have our own rooms, but turns out we have totally different expectations about how dates would go down.

How do ya'll do it? How do you deal with mismatched expectations?

My instincts are to give Connie and her date space, while Conn doesn't like me hanging in my room most of the evening.
 
Um, communication?

There have probably been times where I have put aside my instincts because they aren't actually necessary. And there are times when Adam has learned my coffee cup is sacred and not to be used to make coffee for his girlfriend...

Any idea why she wants you in the lounge? Is it so she can take her date to the bedroom end of the house and make noise with fewer worries you'll overhear them?

Some conversations may be harder than others but the only way you'll find a workable middle ground is to talk about it with each other.
 
Regardless of whether you have a date- it's your room! Why shouldn't you be in there if you feel like it?

It's one thing if she was trying to kick you out of the common area, but to ask you to leave your own room sounds awfully controlling.
 
Hi Noyse,

Based on what you wrote in your post, I guess my vote is to come out and hang with Connie and her date, unless that would overly bother you. Could be this is just Connie's way of being extra KTP, does that make sense? Regardless, I hope you can work stuff out. Talk to Connie. Find out how she feels about it.

Regards,
Kevin T.
 
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