Livingmybestlife
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MO have you considered calling Karma and telling him how you feel about this?
My sentiments exactly. Totally agreed.And it doesn't matter if he's my husband, my boyfriend, my fuck buddy, whatever. I expect common courtesy. I'd expect him to do the same for Cricket. It has nothing to do with what I expect because he's my husband, I expect that out of all people I'm close with. I do it for them.
Now, I have a question for you in reference to your statement about him not expressing what is on his mind to you and this is really general and moreso for reflection on my own relationship. I understand that we want our partners to be open with us about where they are mentally and emotionally, etc, but where is the line as far as discussing the things that are bothering one person regarding one relationship (i.e. Karma & Cricket's) with a partner that cannot remedy the situation versus the partner who is directly linked to the turmoil? I asked because I'm still trying to sort through my feelings about similar circumstances and discoverying the root of the emotions I feel. For instance, I'm sure that P (my male partner) talks to H (his wife), in detail, about me when he is bothered about something in our relationship; however, I know that he does not talk to me, in detail, about H when he is disturbed in their relationship. He will turn to me and let me know he is upset but that is pretty much the extent. So...it doesn't bother me that he doesn't share with me when they are having issues but it does bother me that he does share with her prior to discussing the situation with me when we are having issues. I'm all about addressing the relevant person when there are issues to be addressed and working through your thoughts and what not with the person who can make a difference, first and foremost, before disclosing the issues in details to the other partner (polyamory.com not included). Do you think I have in footing in that mindset or am I delusional?
Yes, I can see where this would freak you out. Heck, it has ME freaked out! Sending good vibes your way. Remember "The Secret"...Believe it...and make it so.trying not to let my imagination get the best of me. Karma and I were talking online last night. Then he vanished. He still hasn't messaged me back or returned my calls.
It's hard enough being away, but being in the middle of a conversation and not knowing what happened, and not getting a goodnight phonecall, kinda has me freaking out.
I dunno. I'm trying hard to take it as it is, but it rings so close to how things used to be. It sounds like an exscuse.
But we made a promise that if that happens again, he'll call and tell me why he disapeared and we'll have a goodnight call everynight.
Maybe it's not about not getting her, as much as it is not being that young anymore.
It seems to me that there is a need to prove something here, and I find that juvinile and just plain out stupid.
I only bring it up, in as much as it applies to me, I have worked so hard to allow for him to feel comfortable being there for her, he has worked so hard to juggle both of our needs, and it seems like it was all in vain because she needs to prove something.
That way he doesn't get weighed down worrying about problems that I fail to fix - which is something I feel like I've gotten a fair bit of criticism from you for doing.