why I'm loving being Poly

[BrianneGoddess]

Yes, I'm totally new to this, just starting out into my first poly connection.

what an incredible way to start a relationship! Discussion, friendship, communication and knowing that both our other partners know (and accept) that we are together made/makes it so much better! Even seeing her with her partner was comfortable, pleasant and I felt thrilled to get to witness how close and loving they are!

A fabulous weekend and I get to start this week feeling so much love and contentment and happiness bubbling inside me.

I'm feeling blessed to have the privilege of knowing about and having the courage to live my new poly life.

I'd love to hear your reasons why you love being poly on this fabulous Monday

 

[kdt26417]

Hi BrianneGoddess,

I like being a part of a new and exciting movement in our modern society. It's cool to be able to say I'm one of the guys in an MFM arrangement.

Sounds like you are reveling in your own poly experience.

Regards,
Kevin T.

 

[Spork]

I've never really liked jealous or possessive behavior. I've never understood why you have to leave one person to love another. I find compersion easy and natural, so long as the relationship itself is on good terms.

I had a wonderful boyfriend as a teenager, the one I remember loving the most and wanting so much to keep in my life, and he left me for another girl, and I remember being so frustrated because I didn't understand why she needed him all to herself, why she and I could not be friends, and why he had to leave my life. "That's just how it is" never seemed like a good answer to me. My husband's insecurities over the years were damaging to me. I have too much respect for my loves to treat them like my property and I am hurt when they don't behave in the same way. I used to tell my ex that no one could take me away from him. But he could certainly drive me to walk away with his behavior. I wanted him to stop paying so much attention to other men in the world that he feared were competition, and pay more attention to me and him and what we had.

So I just find that so many of my own core beliefs and natural behaviors seem conducive to polyamory, or at least facilitate an ease to doing it that some people don't seem to share.

I also really like that if I take an interest in someone new, and it's exciting and I want to think about it and maybe explore possibilities in that direction...I know I can talk to my loves about it, and it won't be automatically taken as a betrayal. There won't be a fight. If they don't like the idea, they can tell me why and I may still choose NOT to go there or do that, but it will be a rational conversation, not a hissy fit.

 

[2muchlove]

I like this thread

I'm not a practising poly, but similar to kevin I like being a part of breaking down the dumb boundaries (patriarchal??) society has set down for us. Why the hell is it anyone's business if you love more than one person at a time? The number seems completely arbitrary, I can't believe we have LAWS against it (in the UK), like the law saying we can't walk around naked if we want....we were born naked?

Whilst I know poly can lead to negativity too, the rules around only having one partner at any one time seem to cause a lot of trouble as people try to stifle their natural urges and it all makes me feel remarkably like property rather than a partner.

I'd really like to offer people the love and affection they might need at a particular point in their lives. I like and can do non-escalator relationships.

 

[Norwegianpoly]

I don't know if I am proud to be poly; poly is for me just normal, it is my normal life. I have two boyfriends and have lived this way for years, it is a blessing and a tough job like most relationships. I hope one day we will have kids and I know I will be very proud of my family.

I am however proud to be a part of formally starting up a poly NGO in my country next month. We have gotten offers to cooporate with the gay community, and it will be interesting to see what may come from it. I will be proud if I can change people's minds and make people less ashamed of their preferances and their lives. I know there are some people living poly that are not much in contact with others, and I believe there is something to be said for exchanging experience, even if you don't neccesarily like everyone else just because they are poly! I am proud of the 2 year discussion group we had in my town, even if now some of the relationships broke up. I am proud for the public speaches and discussions I have had on poly. I am proud of the constructive discussion group we have going on Facebook, with everyone using their full names, which is quite new coming the last year or two. I am proud to know so many interesting people in and out of the poly community.

Poly is not something to be proud of, but people living their lives the way they choose to is I will celebrate any relationship that is built on love and respect, and I belive polyamory is an important part of the loving ways of the world

 

[Magdlyn]

I am happy to be poly for many reasons. Having practiced it for 7+ years full time, with some previous dabbling in it since 1999, I've experienced its benefits time and time again.

Right now I am happy because it allows me a certain kind of social connection I would not be able to get if I were monogamous.

I was feeling blue this week because of a chronic health problem. My full time live in gf has helped and supported me as she can, and it's great. But last night I had my bf over, and it was great to get the kind of diversions only he can bring. I could have been diverted by a platonic friend, for sure, in a similar way, but not to the same full degree. Having a romantic sexual relationship with him makes me feel so good!

And I am really glad he and my gf get along so well, and can hang out and enjoy each others' company as we sit and chat, cook and eat together, play a game, watch a movie, go out and do an activity, all together.