I can't believe a Catholic man would ever vow to obey his wife, and for that to be written into the common vows at any point in Catholic or Christian history.Well they do in the Catholic ceremonies I've attended. The priests always read the list of vows separately for each partner and it always included "obey" in both of them. I haven't attended one of these since I was in my 20s, but I'm hard pressed to believe that NO ONE does this anymore. There are plenty of religious people who still do this.
Few modern brides opt to keep the traditional word "obey" in their wedding vows. How come? What do they say instead?
Even a woman's promise to obey was removed from vows in the reformed Catholic Church 1970s. A letter of Paul in the Biblical canon (technically one of the pseudoPaulines, from the "school of Paul") told women to "submit" to their husbands in all things. She was to love, cherish and obey him, according to the vows added in the 16th century, and the man was to love, cherish and worship her.