YouAreHere is... where? (Or, "This Road Map Still Sucks...") - Blog, Part II

YouAreHere

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Wow, that's wonderful and beautiful. I'm so glad he wants to know you and is telling you his stories.

I found and met mine when I was quite young but it was still fascinating searching for resemblances. Turns out there was a rose mark on my forehead that comes from his side!
When I was little, my grandmother made me promise never to ask about him, so naive little me didn't. At least until I was planning to have kids and asked my mom about him so I could ask about medical history. She gave me his name but said he was adopted and may not know, so I didn't bother pursuing it.

A couple DNA tests (and a couple decades) later, and I found him anyway! I guess he grew up in an orphanage, but not because he was an orphan - his mother suffered from epilepsy, and they drifted to different homes (even relatives' homes) from time to time, as well as leaving him and his sister at orphanages while his mom was checked in to the asylum.

With all the crap surrounding medicine and insurance nowadays, I'm still glad we now have other options.

Anyway, he grew up not really giving a rat's ass about his family because they let them go off to the orphanage, while his sister went the other way and pretty much idolized them. They sound like polar opposites. It's funny how the same upbringing impacts people differently...
 

icesong

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When I was little, my grandmother made me promise never to ask about him, so naive little me didn't. At least until I was planning to have kids and asked my mom about him so I could ask about medical history. She gave me his name but said he was adopted and may not know, so I didn't bother pursuing it.
I have a weird backstory where I was raised by my paternal grandmother and her husband, who was NOT my paternal grandfather... she refused to explain to me or even her son what the actual story was before she died, so my sisters and I have been poking at it a bit but I'm not sure we'll ever find out.
 

YouAreHere

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I have a weird backstory where I was raised by my paternal grandmother and her husband, who was NOT my paternal grandfather... she refused to explain to me or even her son what the actual story was before she died, so my sisters and I have been poking at it a bit but I'm not sure we'll ever find out.
If you're ok with the privacy concerns, then a DNA test may help - you'll definitely find some cousins (usually many times removed, lol), but it may help figure out the family tree. I did both Ancestry and 23andMe.
 

icesong

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My sister did Ancestry, we found another half sister that way, but no one has popped up as a potential grandfather or cousin from that side. (Truthfully I’d have rather she hadn’t done that, privacy wise, but...)
 

YouAreHere

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Ancestry gave me nothing, but 23andMe did, since they have different databases. Still, the privacy concerns are important ones - I get it.
The Ancestry stuff does offer a subscription service (I think you get a month free) where you can get tips through old immigration / military / birth and death records, which can help fill some holes.

Good luck with your digging!
 
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