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NightElfDruid

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Hello there! I'm a 32 year old female. Currently separated and going through a divorce. I had wanted to try polyamory with my soon to be ex and he wanted nothing to do with it, but now that I am free I am enjoying a new non monogamous lifestyle with my boyfriend. I live with him and his wife and two kids. I'm looking forward to getting to know you all and learn more about this lifestyle.
 
EEK! Are you a Wower? #addicted myself (Probably could add DRAENAI FIRE MAGE! + human pally and Night Elf DH!)

Welcome to the forum! I'm glad you're able to explore your poly nature and hope we can get to know you here!
 
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I admit I have a love of the blood elves, but I'm pretty well entrenched into alliance now! Our server was primarily Alliance and then they merge it with a horde one and good luck getting to Kara without getting camped. Ugh!
 
Greetings NightElfDruid,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Glad to hear you are getting a taste of poly living. If you run into any snags, let us know, we will try to help with advice and support. Good to have you with us!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
Welcome NightElfDruid,

I've only been here a couple of months myself - but have found lots of great folks with sound advice and good information.

And I see you have already found a kindred spirit in Lea. :)

Best,

Al
 
Welcome,

I admit to be taken aback that you are brand new to poly, still in the process of divorce, yet already living with your married bf, his wife and kids! How is that working for you?

When I separated from my ex h, I had my own place for 3 years, even though I met my dear gf just 3 months after I had separated. We didn't move in together until 3 years had passed. So I am wondering how you can enmesh yourself so soon in one man's life after just leaving another man.
 
Thank you everyone for the warm greetings!!

Magdlyn,

My BF and I have been close friends for 15 years. We have seen each other through thick and thin, so prior to pursuing a romantic relationship after my separation we already had a pretty strong pre existing bond.

As for my marriage, I don't really want to go into detail here, but let's just say it was a very toxic relationship for me. It took a long time for me to work up the courage to leave.

When I did leave I moved in with my bf (we weren't dating at the time) and his family. Eventually he and I decided to pursue a romantic relationship. They have been super accepting and have welcomed me as part of their family. For the first time in a long time I feel safe and I feel like I belong.

Everyone has a different story and this one is mine. 😊
 
Sounds like you had an excellent support network as you transitioned out of your bad situation, which is really important.

They only advice I would gently offer, for you to consider and share perhaps with the ones you live with and love with now, is to acknowledge that you should have a "free to change my mind" clause. Like acknowledge that the situation you land in immediately after leaving a longterm relationship gone bad, might not be the one you want to make Very Serious Commitment to. Do what you are doing and enjoy it as long as it's good...but keep an open mind.

I only say this because I had a toxic marriage, too, and when it ended, I thought I had some idea what I wanted maybe, but really I didn't. I had to figure it out, and it took me a minute. I thought I had kept things to a minimum of expectations and commitments, but I still think I hurt some feelings when my needs finally became clear and did not include some of the partners I'd formed relationships with up to that point. I care about those people and wish I had not hurt them.

Also, it's known that there can be difficulty in the triad model sometimes. But mainly I'm not looking at that, I'm just suggesting you leave yourself space to grow...because this kind of situation tends to cause some personal growth in the years that come next, y'know?

Oh, and I am a former WoW junkie. I quit back in about 2011 or so...but used to be primarily a Night Elf Hunter. I liked the Night Elves best, and I think the conclusion I reached about that is that at least for the female character models, their movement feels natural to me. Their run, their jumps, don't feel weird to watch. The Blood Elves are cute and all, and I liked their beginning quests quite a lot, but what is up with that bizarre sideways spin when they jump?? And they have that "stick in the butt" stiffness to how they look, just...prissy looking. Humans, dwarves, gnomes, all have a sort of awkwardness. Though I did like Draenei and the Worgen alright. Actually, Worgen were a lot of fun.

Oh oh!! You know what I loved?? Silly as it will seem, the little pared down version of the Plants VS Zombies minigame in Hillsbrad...I leveled a number of toons to 20 just to run over there and play that game!! Is that lame and awful of me? I don't even like the full Plants vs Zombies game, but I adored that minigame...

Can you tell I kinda miss World of Warcraft...? But I bet a lot of things have changed, though.

But I quit because it felt like a job, not a game, after a while. People kept telling me to do things. And there was never enough time for me to do ALL the things. And it eventually got less fun for me. *shrug*
 
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