ConfusedMonoCouple
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My wife and I are fairly sexually conservative people in practice. In ideology, not as much, but we've never really felt a void in our sex life; with the exception of an occasional, "We really should be having sex more for people our age."
Anyways, the other night went out with a couple we have been friends with a short while (only hung out a few times but we really liked them). Long story short.. we ended up all sleeping together. Its been hell on our marriage. We weren't ready. The guy fucked my wife right in front of me without asking her or me. She wasn't fighting him but... we never really understood what was happening. We were black out drunk so we're only piecing together what happened. It was so strange. He asked me if my wife and I were interested at the bar and I said yeah, maybe, but we'll definitely have to talk about it sober. When the bar closed his wife wanted all of us to take off with two other guys that were poly and I said no way, my wife and I aren't poly (and definitely not ready for whatever would go on there). Her husband told her no, he had to get up early the next day, they should just come stay at our house like they'd planned.
It was so strange how it happened. We got home and made drinks and popcorn, and we were just hanging out the in the kitchen. His wife was crazy but seemed really drunk so my wife and I were just kind of like "Whoa, a wild woman." Shrugged it off. I suggested we go into the TV room to do karaoke. Just eat popcorn and do karaoke. Thats the plan. His wife starts getting wild, and somehow she and my wife start kissing (kissing another woman is the "craziest" thing I've ever seen my wife do as far as getting wild at a party goes). Next they're really starting to go at it and as far as I'm concerned its hot... well a lot of things happened from there on out but at the end of the night her husband fucked my wife. In front of me. I was devastated but it was all so confusing, I thought it was what she wanted.
Its a couple days later and we're both really fucking devastated and confused. We thought we'd made all these decisions but when we think back its like they'd set it up to make it seem that way. In reality we resisted just about every step of the way but things kept moving forward. The whole night my wife and I thought the other wanted what was happening to happen but that was never true. We're normally really good communicators and we just don't understand how it could've happened.
I posted my story of heartbreak to another website, solo. My wife and I took a while to sort through the fog and come back together, but we are. I'm writing this from my point of view but its from both of us. She is sitting next to me. Anyways someone from the other website said they think this couple were predators. That it wasn't a true poly experience, and these people weren't our friends and knew what they were doing. That they methodically manipulated us and exploited us.
I guess our question is, what is your experience with predator couples? What are they like? And do you think that may be what happened to us? If you want more details we can give them to you.
P.S. We are going to a counselor tomorrow by the way. In case you were worried about our marriage, we are too and we're addressing it.
Anyways, the other night went out with a couple we have been friends with a short while (only hung out a few times but we really liked them). Long story short.. we ended up all sleeping together. Its been hell on our marriage. We weren't ready. The guy fucked my wife right in front of me without asking her or me. She wasn't fighting him but... we never really understood what was happening. We were black out drunk so we're only piecing together what happened. It was so strange. He asked me if my wife and I were interested at the bar and I said yeah, maybe, but we'll definitely have to talk about it sober. When the bar closed his wife wanted all of us to take off with two other guys that were poly and I said no way, my wife and I aren't poly (and definitely not ready for whatever would go on there). Her husband told her no, he had to get up early the next day, they should just come stay at our house like they'd planned.
It was so strange how it happened. We got home and made drinks and popcorn, and we were just hanging out the in the kitchen. His wife was crazy but seemed really drunk so my wife and I were just kind of like "Whoa, a wild woman." Shrugged it off. I suggested we go into the TV room to do karaoke. Just eat popcorn and do karaoke. Thats the plan. His wife starts getting wild, and somehow she and my wife start kissing (kissing another woman is the "craziest" thing I've ever seen my wife do as far as getting wild at a party goes). Next they're really starting to go at it and as far as I'm concerned its hot... well a lot of things happened from there on out but at the end of the night her husband fucked my wife. In front of me. I was devastated but it was all so confusing, I thought it was what she wanted.
Its a couple days later and we're both really fucking devastated and confused. We thought we'd made all these decisions but when we think back its like they'd set it up to make it seem that way. In reality we resisted just about every step of the way but things kept moving forward. The whole night my wife and I thought the other wanted what was happening to happen but that was never true. We're normally really good communicators and we just don't understand how it could've happened.
I posted my story of heartbreak to another website, solo. My wife and I took a while to sort through the fog and come back together, but we are. I'm writing this from my point of view but its from both of us. She is sitting next to me. Anyways someone from the other website said they think this couple were predators. That it wasn't a true poly experience, and these people weren't our friends and knew what they were doing. That they methodically manipulated us and exploited us.
I guess our question is, what is your experience with predator couples? What are they like? And do you think that may be what happened to us? If you want more details we can give them to you.
P.S. We are going to a counselor tomorrow by the way. In case you were worried about our marriage, we are too and we're addressing it.