Glossary and Definitions

Co-partner, other significant other (OSO), significant other, partner, lover...

I often refer to my boyfriend as my boyfriend when talking to others, because if they don't know he's a guy, a lot will assume he's a girl, since they know I'm married and bisexual. But within our group, he's my OSO, other significant other.

To one another, we refer back to pet names (all of us) because the other words are only needed for communicating to someone else about our dynamic, if we so choose.
 
We're a MF couple new to the site and starting our search for either a HBB or unicorn. I almost died laughing, not just because the cues were hilariously relevant, but because I use similar flow charts at work.
 
I think I am showing my age by how many of these I already knew! I surprised myself and am feeling very hip and young right now. haha :cool:
 
Looking for a couple of definitions

Sorry if I missed these. Looking for the meanings of ETA and NSA.

Thanks!

FAL

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M - Me female, 59 - _trying_ to figure out if I'm poly
B - 56 - my husband for over 34 years
JP - 58 - my high school boyfriend, newly appeared in the picture after 38 years; very long distance; haven't actually seen him
A - 65? - JP's wife of over 30 years
 
FarAwayLover said:
Sorry if I missed these. Looking for the meanings of ETA and NSA.
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NSA = no strings attached

ETA... the only meanings of that I know are "edit(ed) to add", and "estimated time of arrival". No idea if there's any poly-specific third meaning of it. :confused:
 
InsaneMystic said:


ETA... the only meanings of that I know are "edit(ed) to add", and "estimated time of arrival". No idea if there's any poly-specific third meaning of it. :confused:
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Thanks! It was probably edit(ed) to add. I think it was typically near the bottom of a post. I couldn't make any sense out of the context. I'll have to keep an eye out for when I see it again.

The NSA makes sense.

FAL

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M - Me female, 59 - _trying_ to figure out if I'm poly
B - 56 - my husband for over 34 years
JP - 58 - my high school boyfriend, newly appeared in the picture after 38 years; very long distance; haven't actually seen him
A - 65? - JP's wife of over 30 years
 
Thanks, everyone, for this marvelous glossary! Very insightful.
 
Hi all. I'm new to the forum and this is my first post. I'd like some advice on terms used by you all to describe your relationship to others.

My situation is this. I'm male and living with a female (call her Sarah) who is married to another male (call him Rick). Sarah and Rick have been married for 6 years and until last year lived with each other as husband and wife (and were comfortable referring to each other in those terms). Sarah still has a loving intimate relationship with Rick, but last year moved out to live with me. We are now a Vee, with Rick and me as the arms and Sarah as the pivot/hinge.

Referring to Sarah as my "partner" doesn't quite seem right, as this doesn't quite capture the relationship. And Sarah doesn't feel right referring to Rick simply as her "husband," given that she lives with someone else. Sarah could refer to both Rick and me as her co-primaries, but this is rather prosaic. Is anyone else in a similar situation? Have you found words that communicate the nature of your relationships in a way you're happy with?

Many thanks!
 
Hi em1dw,

Sorry about the lateness of this response, I don't keep up on the glossary thread very well.

I guess I am logic-driven and don't mind prosaic descriptors, plus I more often refer to my poly companions by their names (or nicknames) rather than by their "titles."

Snowbunny often refers to herself as my wife even though she and I aren't legally married. I usually refer to her legal husband as my Brother-Husband.

It's okay to be creative when inventing terms that are suitable to you. Perhaps if Rick is your metamour, then Sarah is your amour. How's that?
 
Long distance relationship :)

Whoops - didn't see that you got it!
 
Polykink: seeing multiple play partners for BDSM sessions, which may or may not involve intercourse
 
ERP: erotic role play, used to describe romantic interactions in an online setting
 
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Am I poly or mono or what?

I allow my husband to sleep with other women. It's actually a turn-on for me when he's with another woman.

I have no interest in sleeping with other men, for two reasons: I love my man more than anything, and he more than satisfies me in bed. He is amazing, to be honest.

I'm straight. I'm not sexually attracted to women, most women anyway. I've never sexually touched or French kissed a woman and have no desire to. However! I absolutely love it when he comes back home late and straight away hops into bed and I can smell he has been with his girlfriend. They don't use condoms and I love it knowing her fluids were on his penis. When we make love, it really gets me going.

I believe when it's reversed, a man is a cuckold, or his wife is a "hotwife" if the husband has no sexual involvement with her boyfriends... bulls or whatever they call it. In both types, the husbands don't have sex with women other than his wife.

So I'm the female version of a man who likes "hotwifing"?
 
Depending on how the words are defined, I would say you're poly or poly-friendly, because you're in favor of poly even if you don't practice it yourself. Other than that you could use such words as cuckquean (counterpart to cuckold) or hothusband.
 
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