PolyinPractice
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I hear a lot of people saying you have to protect kids from new partners. You don't want them connecting, and then losing them from their lives. I get that with, say, a divorced parent whose specifically seeking a romantic partner.
But what's so wrong with the kids being used to seeing friends of their parents come in and out? What's so wrong with kids seeing their dad bring over a female friend? I get that in a monogamous household, the wife would get super jealous. But the KIDS don't get jealous.
Wouldn't it be healthier if the kids were used to seeing one or both parents with another person of the same or opposite sex? That way, if and when one of those relationships deepens, that person has a natural "in" with the family. The kids think nothing of it, don't have to suspect a romantic issue...and when they get old enough to understand, they'll be comfortable. Otherwise, if you only introduce the person when they are a committed partner (or whatever the rules might be), the kids take notice, because there's something new going on. And what better way for a married person with kids to find someone who can fit into the family? (I know for a fact it can be very difficult for married with kids to find time to date.)
Am I wrong in this?
But what's so wrong with the kids being used to seeing friends of their parents come in and out? What's so wrong with kids seeing their dad bring over a female friend? I get that in a monogamous household, the wife would get super jealous. But the KIDS don't get jealous.
Wouldn't it be healthier if the kids were used to seeing one or both parents with another person of the same or opposite sex? That way, if and when one of those relationships deepens, that person has a natural "in" with the family. The kids think nothing of it, don't have to suspect a romantic issue...and when they get old enough to understand, they'll be comfortable. Otherwise, if you only introduce the person when they are a committed partner (or whatever the rules might be), the kids take notice, because there's something new going on. And what better way for a married person with kids to find someone who can fit into the family? (I know for a fact it can be very difficult for married with kids to find time to date.)
Am I wrong in this?