Greetings KeenSprinter,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
SchrodingersCat basically nailed it when she described what you could call your situation. I've also heard "group marriage" and think it would fit, if that label suits you. The point is, you're not under any obligation to wear any label unless there's one you want to wear. You can make one up if you want. Quite a few polyamorists have made up their own words to describe themselves. Considering the endless array of possibilities polyamory provides, there's probably never going to be a perfect word for every possible configuration.
My observation (starting from 2008 when I first started frequenting poly forums) is that "the fewer, the more common" is the rule for poly demographics. So, the most common type of poly unit you'll usually see is a three-person unit -- a V or a triad. Four-person units are seen somewhat less often but they're still pretty common. There's all kinds of connection layouts between the four people as far as romance and orientation is concerned. Your layout is certainly common enough.
Which begs the question, common enough for what? Actually, I don't know. Poly doesn't have requisites like "correct labels" or "minimum commonness." If anything, poly is a world of uniqueness and as such, customized labels and conspicuous uncommonness will abound. Since poly is relatively new for you, you may tend to feel self-conscious and uncertain of your place in the poly world. This awkwardness will be displaced by comfortable confidence in due time. Trust me, you'll fit in with the rest of us polyamorists just fine. And I definitely think you can refer to yourselves as polyamorists.
Hope these thoughts help. I'll be following this thread, in case you need to ping me for more info. But of course you can also ping any number of fellow site members on any board or thread. Just let us know if you have some more questions.
Sounds like you have a great poly relationship going; I wish you the best and hope Polyamory.com will serve you well.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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