PinkPig
Well-known member
I'm PinkPig (40s F), in a relationship with Blue (40s M.) We met when my monogamous marriage of 25 years was falling apart. We've been dating a year (divorced the same.) Blue is poly. During our relationship, he dated a couple other women. I have always practiced monogamy... until he introduced me to his girlfriend, Snow. That relationship evolved into a beautiful, functional, closed triad. That was my first such relationship with another woman (fooled around with my roommates a bit in college before marrying my ex, but it was just about boredom and sex.) I loved the relationship with Snow...both our individual relationship and our relationship as a three. That said, my feelings for her were very different from my feelings for Blue or my ex. As much as I love her, I could never imagine being only with her... unlike with Blue. I have no doubt I can be happy with just him.
Our relationship ended very recently when Snow suddenly moved across country. Due to a contentious custody battle and the distance, she chose to end the romantic relationship (we do still communicate.) Blue has been on a few dates since. I have not. Honestly, I have no desire to date anyone else. I would love to have another relationship like the one Blue, Snow, & I shared but I really have no desire for a relationship apart from Blue. Does this mean I'm mono in relationship style? Does it even matter?
Because my dating experience is quite limited... married at 21, only dated a few men before my ex... Blue is encouraging me to try dating. His rationale is that I'm on a journey of self awareness and dating could help me in this journey. Honestly, I have no desire to date...but I am open to trying it... I just don't want to be dishonest? Anyone been in a similar situation? If so, what did you do? Thoughts and suggestions from all are appreciated.
Our relationship ended very recently when Snow suddenly moved across country. Due to a contentious custody battle and the distance, she chose to end the romantic relationship (we do still communicate.) Blue has been on a few dates since. I have not. Honestly, I have no desire to date anyone else. I would love to have another relationship like the one Blue, Snow, & I shared but I really have no desire for a relationship apart from Blue. Does this mean I'm mono in relationship style? Does it even matter?
Because my dating experience is quite limited... married at 21, only dated a few men before my ex... Blue is encouraging me to try dating. His rationale is that I'm on a journey of self awareness and dating could help me in this journey. Honestly, I have no desire to date...but I am open to trying it... I just don't want to be dishonest? Anyone been in a similar situation? If so, what did you do? Thoughts and suggestions from all are appreciated.
Last edited: