You broke up with the triad. They are free to keep on dating. If he has beef, because Y will not date him without you it is beef with Y choices. Not yours.
He can insist you meet all he wants. But your willingness to participate in such a thing belongs to you, not him. It is ok to decline. You could choose not to go. (Best for your physical safety and emotional/mental safety)
If you feel like it, could give his family that heads up now -- that he is behaving strangely so you are distancing yourself. But you are not obligated to do that either. You already left.
Or choose to meet via skype or similar if you are going to meet. That is at least better for your physical safety. You can record it in your log for the cops and make him aware at the start that you are doing so.
If it is Y asking you to go for moral support? You could suggest skype, be his one touch dial and give him a ride and wait across the street at the bookstore. Whatever you feel ok with that is SAFE. You do NOT have have to be present. There are other ways to show support that do not compromise your well being.
X being a nutter with a gun is not something you need.
If Y is sucking you into deeper into this because he has trouble letting X go? Tread with caution and maintain your boundaries so you stay safe.
Maybe you set it at (Y can come to your place to unload for an hour once a week) til it is over. That is being there and providing comfort in a size that is reasonable and safe for you. If he needs more encourage him toward counseling.
But you do not go with Y to anything X related or let Y go on and on and on about X stuff every day of the week at you.
You do not make (x problems)or (y's problems with x) the center of your world.
Hang in there!
Galagirl
He can insist you meet all he wants. But your willingness to participate in such a thing belongs to you, not him. It is ok to decline. You could choose not to go. (Best for your physical safety and emotional/mental safety)
If you feel like it, could give his family that heads up now -- that he is behaving strangely so you are distancing yourself. But you are not obligated to do that either. You already left.
Or choose to meet via skype or similar if you are going to meet. That is at least better for your physical safety. You can record it in your log for the cops and make him aware at the start that you are doing so.
If it is Y asking you to go for moral support? You could suggest skype, be his one touch dial and give him a ride and wait across the street at the bookstore. Whatever you feel ok with that is SAFE. You do NOT have have to be present. There are other ways to show support that do not compromise your well being.
X being a nutter with a gun is not something you need.
If Y is sucking you into deeper into this because he has trouble letting X go? Tread with caution and maintain your boundaries so you stay safe.
Maybe you set it at (Y can come to your place to unload for an hour once a week) til it is over. That is being there and providing comfort in a size that is reasonable and safe for you. If he needs more encourage him toward counseling.
But you do not go with Y to anything X related or let Y go on and on and on about X stuff every day of the week at you.
You do not make (x problems)or (y's problems with x) the center of your world.
Hang in there!
Galagirl
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