Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

I'm so sorry the ringworm has gotten so bad! But good for you for figuring out it's gotten worse because of an allergic reaction to the dr prescribed anti-fungal.

I am glad the apple cider vinegar is working. Did you get the organic kind with the "mother" (solid bits of apples) in it? That is so healthy.

Wash your bras and bath towels every day, after one day of use. Wash your hands a lot and dry with a paper towel. Have your husbands do that too. Wash your nightwear daily. Don't wear anything twice without a wash.

Limit your intake of sugar and alcohol. As a breastfeeding specialist, I have helped a lot of women with breast yeast (thrush). Following these protocols helps a lot.

http://www.naturalalternativeremedy.com/the-11-best-at-home-remedies-for-ringworm/
 
Yeah, I don't re-wear anything or re-use towels anyway. I did call the doctor. They took down the info and said they'll call back. *shrugs*
 
All done with teaching Chemistry today. I am trying to do budgeting through June, but I keep getting distracted. I had to yell at my youngest, because she's in danger of not graduating. Since I homeschool, that's kind of crazy, but it is what it is. She's been slacking and not doing anything. She needs to finish her participation in government course, read 4 books for English, and she hasn't even started her Microsoft Applications course with her dad. It's all do-able, but she needs to apply herself or she'll not be getting a diploma. Sigh. I am not really worried, but it's aggravating that she is so unmotivated. In the meantime, I still have to plan her trip to Denver, schedule a graduation party, and get her senior pictures done. $$$
 
I went to the doctor today and he prescribed a steroid cream, Selsun Blue shampoo on my body every night (wash off in the morning) and a pill to take 2x a day for 30 days. Initially he sent a prescription to the pharmacy, but they called to tell me my copay on the generic was $420. So he sent over another, which I will need to pick up tomorrow.
 
Things are so crazy in my schedule lately. I've all but completely cut out time with my friends, and I am still really overwhelmed. A lot of it is my own doing - all those vacations in a row have left me behind on everyday tasks and things are piling up - literally!

I have a to-do list that stretches to the moon. My house looks worse than it ever has and I don't have time to mess with it. I'd hire someone to come clean, but much of it involves organization and no one else can do it.

Today I am hoping to get a lot done prior to hosting the teen game club at 1:30. I need to finally get over to the social security office and update my son's address, and file all of his wage earning reports - going back to November! Only, when I looked yesterday I located zero from this year. So that's a problem, but I am going this morning with what I have at least. I also need to get to the bank and update his address there. These two things will take a while!

I also need to make a stop at the courthouse to file the affidavit from the newspaper for my name change. That came in the mail while I was in Atlanta. It's the last piece I need to make it official, then I just have to wait for the clock to tick down. So very excited to have PunkRock's name be part of mine! Of course though, once it is legal, I'll need to go back to the bank and the social security office to update those, and the MVA as well to change my license!

While at the bank, I also need to figure out how best to handle rent payments from WarMan. Though we have the same bank, he can't just make a transfer between accounts online. He can set up an automated payment, but they actually would mail a check, which is dumb. When it arrived, I'd have to then take it to the bank. You'd think it'd be easier in this day and age, but nope. I think in the future we may end up doing it through PayPal, but even that is a pain because it involves steps from both of us. Hopefully we have overlooked a method that will be easy-peasy, other than adding him to the main shared bank account. I mean, I'll do that if I need to, but it seemed to make him uneasy when I brought it up initially. I believe I didn't add PunkRock until after we were married. Maybe not though - I may be remembering wrong. It doesn't matter to me, as it isn't like a ton of money sits in there, or that I am worried about WarMan absconding with it. It's just an account for paying bills out of every month.

I need to set up a timeline for decluttering my house. I've been able to focus on small areas, but it's overwhelming at the moment since WarMan moved in last week. Boxes everywhere - extra items needing to be dealt with. Looking around, it's just so much! I will get to it eventually, but in the meantime I feel a little overwhelmed with it all.

I am going crazy right now too! I need a dick in me so bad! I feel like I am walking around crazy horny constantly. I mean, even more than normal. I'm trying to keep my guys happy with blow jobs, but I feel like I am failing at a basic level because of this ringworm covering me. It's all over - having sex would definitely pass it to someone. So I am feeling desperate for penetrative sex, and at the same time I feel like my guys are disappointed in me. They are probably less concerned than I am - they keep telling me they understand it is only temporary - but I feel like I am failing. I gotta go get those new meds after 2 pm today so I can get this problem fixed, stat!
 
Neither of my lovers is giving me sex much or at all right now. Ms Pixi's anxiety issues have killed her libido presently. Punk's mom is succumbing to cancer and his grief and stress are causing his IBS to act up. I don't think it's fair to judge them as "failing" me sexually. They have both indicated they are sorry for not having the ability to be sexual right now. I care about both of them a lot, and feel compassion for their health and emotional statuses right now. It's not permanent.

Try to go a little easier on yourself.

I understand you are horny. If you can't "have a dick in you" right now, can one or more of your guys put on a glove and at least finger you? Or use a toy wrapped in a condom?
 
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While at the bank, I also need to figure out how best to handle rent payments from WarMan. Though we have the same bank, he can't just make a transfer between accounts online. He can set up an automated payment, but they actually would mail a check, which is dumb. When it arrived, I'd have to then take it to the bank. You'd think it'd be easier in this day and age, but nope. I think in the future we may end up doing it through PayPal, but even that is a pain because it involves steps from both of us. Hopefully we have overlooked a method that will be easy-peasy, other than adding him to the main shared bank account.
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Forget having the bank do it. WarMan could have his employer's payroll department set up automatic deposits from his paycheck into your account. It's more efficient and quicker to have it come right out of his pay. I'm sure it works the same in most other states as it does in New York. Here, you can split up your payroll deposits into any number of bank accounts that you want; one of his can be your account. He would just need to specify the dollar amount.

Maybe he can set it up to be monthly. If not, just figure out what he would need to deposit each paycheck to make the rent. Let's say he gets paid every other week - that would be 26 paychecks per year. His rent x 12 months ÷ 26 = the amount to be deposited. In NYS, there's a form one has to sign to have their payroll people do that, and he'd need to provide them with a voided check from your account where it should be deposited; and it's just as easy to stop the automatic deposits if necessary. I wouldn't think the process is more complicated in MD.

I think that would be the simplest way to do it, if you don't want him writing you a check.
 
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Wow, you guys have an archaic banking system!

And I second someone getting on gloves or putting a condom over a toy.
 
If nothing else, does you bank have an app that will allow you to do mobile deposits? If not because of it being a small local bank it might be worth considering changing to a bigger bank for the convenient features!
 
We bank with M&T! It isn't even small. Lol I pretty much use the mobile app all the time, and PunkRock and DarkKnight transfer money in and out as needed. But, you can only transfer funds electronically if you are on an account. Otherwise, if you wish to send money, they will mail a check. If WarMan went to the bank, he could deposit cash or a check into my account, but he couldn't do an electronic transfer. I agree it is weird and seems outdated!

NYCindie, I really don't want to make this more complicated by involving another business! He works for a national company, and getting them to make changes would be more of a hassle. Putting him on the account is the easiest.

Last night was my first night with using the Selsun Blue on my ringworm. I cried. I kinda looked like a fading Hulk, or a body paint gone wrong. I took the pill prescribed to me, though not without great misgivings. It's the same stuff as the cream I was allergic to, but in pill form. I had intense itching last night, which I've not experienced before. Whether or not that was attributable to the pill or the shampoo all over my body, I have no idea. I'm going to go wash this junk off soon though! I did use some of the steroid cream and those spots didn't itch. Something's working, anyway.
 
Bluebird said:
NYCindie, I really don't want to make this more complicated by involving another business! He works for a national company, and getting them to make changes would be more of a hassle. Putting him on the account is the easiest.
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Really? And here I thought I had a brilliant suggestion for you. :( Hmm, it's strange such an easy thing to do would be more complicated just because it's a big company. Payroll departments do this thing all the time, if the company offers direct deposit of people's paychecks. Did you ask him?

Sorry to read about all the itching and hassle you are still going through with the ringworm. Hopefully, you won't have to deal with it much longer!
 
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Well, the ringworm seems to be sloooooowly dying off, thank goodness. Still, it was awful enough that I haven't really gone anywhere in a few days. Yes, I could dress showing little to no skin, but it still makes me feel not-myself, so I am just not motivated to go anywhere or do anything. Actually, on Saturday night I missed a friend's art opening, and that made me pretty upset.

It really sucks to not even be able to snuggle with my guys as usual. I am very much a skin-to-skin person and having to have a barrier between us just sucks. Hopefully the trend at healing will continue - I think the new pill is actually working - and I can get some snuggles and sexy times soon.

My bedroom and bathroom are finally looking normal, and WarMan knocked out a big chunk of the boxes in his office the other day. There are still a bunch of odds and ends in the garage - but I can't move forward with those until I am done with the spaces where they'll be in the house. And, because of the ringworm, I'm down and depressed and just incapable of putting effort behind anything. It sucks that I can recognize that this is stupid, yet not actually be able to motivate myself to complete anything.

I watched a TON of Game of Thrones yesterday with my daughter. DarkKnight said, well, Sunday is a day of rest. Sigh. Today I am trying to work on budgeting and other computer-based stuff, since it doesn't require a lot of physical energy. I do have to plan meals and pull stuff out of the freezer for the next 3 days, but I figured I'd wait til DarkKnight gets onto his lunch break.

WarMan and I did make it over to the bank on Saturday and added him to the one checking account. I got a call this morning though, from the bank, as apparently they need to have DarkKnight and PunkRock go down and sign off on the addition as well. Seems silly, but I sent them both a message and it should be done by tomorrow.

OMG y'all - a facebook friend posted about a place that sells kolaches here in Maryland! I know that may seem like a random statement - but OMG I am freaking out. I haven't had a kolache since I moved out of Houston a decade ago. I miss the sausage, cheese and jalapeno ones the most, and my friend says that they are sold there!!! It's about an hour away, but I am DEFINITELY making that trip with DarkKnight super soon. He doesn't know about it yet, but it is happening!
 
Today will be a busy day! I'm teaching (Chem lab on covalent bonds) and my car needs an oil change. DarkKnight and I had a bonus date night last night, so I did some shopping with him, so I get to not have to go back to the grocery store for a couple of days at least. :)

DarkKnight is heading to work in western NY on Sunday, and he'll be gone all week. I wasn't going to go, but now the plan is that I'm going to join him for Sunday and Monday, and then return to Maryland on Tuesday morning. I have to teach Tuesday and Thursday, and my dental implant is scheduled for Wednesday, so I can't really stay later. Still, I haven't seen my oldest daughter since the beginning of December, and I miss her a lot! I always try to take these trips with DarkKnight when his work is footing most of the bill - free hotel and food, can't beat that! We are going to have dinner at my sister's house Sunday, so I will see her family and my mom then too.

I am in the process of planning a couple of more day trips - I mentioned the one about the kolaches in my last entry - and last night WarMan and I discussed going to Point Lookout here in Maryland, since it's a very real place that I am currently exploring in Fallout 3. I also need to set up the escape room experience that will involve all my guys - I want to buy out the room and do one that is all us. :)

Crazy though - I lost my master list of all my upcoming plans, so I need to make another. It's just time consuming in that I have to go through my calendar app and copy the dates. I need to make sure I keep balanced with what's going on with everyone! I know that WarMan and I are going to go to see Kiss Me Kate next Friday, but beyond that, my mind is blanking.

Tonight is game night at my house, but I think I mentioned previously that WarMan has started seeing Monkey every other Thursday - to play D&D. So we have decided to get into Arham Horror hardcore on the off weeks, since he isn't interested in that game. So tonight, we (DarkKnight, PunkRock and I) are going to go out to dinner for Indian food at the Mango Grill, and then come back and knock out a game. I am actually really excited about it. :)

It's strange - I have been SO introverted this past week because of the ringworm. I am looking forward to getting out of this house! DarkKnight and I went to dinner last night and it felt good. Everything on my body is faded and I feel much improved. Still taking the medicine, but it is safe to say I am almost done - thank god! Still not clear enough for sex though. It's terrible because it's ALMOST clear enough, but as much as I want to rush things along, I also don't want to infect any of my guys. So I wait!
 
So frustrated at the moment! I am trying to get things set up for PunkRockAwesomesauce and me - we are going to a small gaming con in Martinsburg next weekend. I bought us the passes this morning, so that's all set. However, to get on the schedule for specific game slots, you have to create an account on this OTHER site. Which I did. Now I have to wait for someone to "approve" me. Which of course, they aren't doing right away. I don't understand why in this day and age, shit takes so long. Oh, and the hotel where the convention is at is booked solid. So I had to book a hotel down the road, which is bollocks. Actually, I am not too upset about that, since the other hotel is one where we have a member card and get perks. lol But it will be a hassle when we are tired. I guess we are only going for one night, but pfffft. I guess I shouldn't complain too much, since I'm doing this all on the last day of pre-registration. Oh, and PunkRock has decided now is a great time to be unavailable via text. I am having to make decisions without him, and that sucks.

I am also annoyed right now because my hair looks like crap. I need a cut and color in the worst way, and I don't dare go to the salon and be Typhoid Mary, spreading ringworm everywhere, so I am living with ugh. I was going to try and color it at least, today, but the hours are getting away from me and it doesn't look like it'll happen. Tomorrow morning, I suppose. I am definitely coloring it before I go to NY on Sunday!
 
I picked a new hair color. It's still red, but deeper. I still haven't had a cut and my eyebrows are awful, but those have to wait a while longer.

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I'm in NY now! I was able to see my brother and his baby yesterday, and I had dinner with my oldest daughter, who I haven't seen since the beginning of December. I miss everyone so much! However, my sister told me over the phone she thinks my brother may be using heroin again, and I am happy to live far away from the drama. I wish I had time to talk to him more but he was very superficial and there were other people at his house, so I didn't have an opportunity to worry too much. I am going to my sister's for dinner tonight and I will talk to her in person to see what she says.

I wish I could type more but I have to jump in the shower so I can head out to Henrietta. I'm meeting up with my bestie and I can't wait to see her!
 
I was feeling rather adorable at the time, but later I felt gross and fat when looking at photos taken with my daughter. I can't win, I swear.

Things went south today. I was driving to see my bestie, when my mom called, saying she was hurt that I didn't make time to see her alone - she wanted mother-daughter time. This made me feel bad, though I had planned to come to her house (she lives with my sister still) for dinner. My mom knows how to make me go from snappy to crappy in like 2 seconds. Sigh. Anyway, I told her I would call her back when I finished with my friend.

I had a great time hanging with my friend for a few hours at Starbucks, just catching up in person and talking about our lives. No worries there.

I talked to DarkKnight a bit - he has been talking about upgrading his ipad3 finally, and I was thinking maybe giving it to my mom as a Mother's Day gift and customizing it so she can learn to use it. She's always complaining about not being shown things on Facebook, and if she had a tablet and was taught how to use it, she could see for herself. Since DarkKnight's birthday is the day after Mother's Day, so if I can find the money, I can buy him a new iPad for his birthday, and then that might just work.

My mom though, when I went to see her, she was wound up, anxious and dumping guilt all over me. My sister still absolutely refuses to help her move out on April 30, so that leaves my brother to help her, and he's only helping because he is getting paid. My mom hadn't yet reserved a uhaul, which is crazypants. I called and of course everything is booked up everywhere. I managed to find something eventually, but then my mom doesn't have a credit card so I had to put it in my name. Then I find out she didn't transfer or turn on utilities, so I had to do that too. Cable wanted first month up front - as well as a deposit - and so I had to pay that as well. She gave me $50 in cash and said she would mail me the rest next week.

That said, she was so distraught and just dumping on me about how terrible everything is. I did not react well. I tend to wind up with her and that doesn't go all happy, if you could imagine.

Later, my brother tells me he and his fiancée are pretty much splitting up and he doesn't have a car, and so he isn't sure how he'll even get over to my mom's to help her move. And then that he doesn't have insurance, so I am left confused about how he even intends to drive the moving truck.

At this point it is looking like the best thing would be to return to NY myself that weekend. If DarkKnight came with me, he could help with the move, make sure the Internet is set up correctly, and get the iPad all ready to go. However, just thinking about it has me stressed and unhappy. I feel like I have no choice, and the trip will probably set me back $400. This was not what I intended to spend at all this month - and I have a list a mile long that I WANT to spend money on. That's in addition to the cost of a new iPad, which again is not something I was planning to buy right now. That's optional, but it is a good idea, really. With the move though - there's no one else, and I feel obligated. There's no doubt it would help, and honestly - what if my brother can't get the rental truck? What then? At least DarkKnight could drive it if that plan falls apart.

Mess. Seriously. I am angry at my sister and her family, but I do understand that she feels taken advantage of and unwilling to assist my mom right now. However, I resent the fact that means everything is falling on me, when it is terribly inconvenient, expensive and a hassle.
 
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I would think you could hire somebody for less than $400 and not have to do it yourself. Maybe your bestie knows someone who could use the money?
 
Bluebird,

What would happen if you didn't go help, if you didn't pay any further money to help your mother move? What would be the worst thing? Maybe your mother's move is awful? Doesn't happen at all? She has a meltdown? She is angry with you?

Just because your sister won't help (and I don't blame her) and your brother is rather useless at this point doesn't mean you have to fix things. Consider that you do not have to do this. Really. You might choose to because you want your mom in her new place but this is not something you must do. Make sure you are choosing consciously instead of from guilt. It's no accident your mom wanted 'mother daughter time' - she wanted something from you. You do not have to give it to her.

Hugs. This is a crappy situation and you deserve your family to treat you better. But you may have to demand that respect.
 
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