What makes a good romantic partner?

1234567

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How would you define what makes a good romantic partner?

For me, it is someone who, when I'm around, makes me feel good. And I engender that in them. So getting together, no matter what we're engaged in, from casual everyday things to dates to talking stuff out to sex, ends up with a good feeling on both sides. Our lives are improved just by being together

Feelings of tenderness and specialness and care figure heavily in that. Which produces feelings of love.

. (Which differs from a friend- who also has good feelings- but more of mutual respect and enjoyment of the same things and similar interests. They create good feelings about the world, not yourself in particular. Of course, romantic partners can also be friends)
 
For me, it is helpful to look at relationships as individual pieces, not as "romantic or non-romantic". So, there are aspects of life that some people are naturally more in sync with me on than others like: living habits, interest in entertainment, need for social interaction, independence, honesty, self-reflection, and sexual attraction (just examples).

My goal is to build my relationships in such a way that I am indulging in aspects that dovetail, and excluding aspects that don't.

. (Which differs from a friend- who also has good feelings- but more of mutual respect and enjoyment of the same things and similar interests. They create good feelings about the world, not yourself in particular. Of course, romantic partners can also be friends)

Those friendships don't sound very intimate to me, which is fine - I don't have intimate emotional connection with everyone. But I wouldn't consider that to be a description of "friendship" so much as "not really close".
 
Hi 1234567,

I think a good romantic partner is someone I am compatible with. If we are not compatible, we should probably part ways.

Just some thoughts,
Kevin T.
 
But what does compatible mean? That the person doesn't annoy you too much? Or that they annoy you only in the right ways? :D
 
Well for me it means they don't annoy me at all...lol

That REALLY wouldn't work for me - people, in general, annoy me. When I start to be annoyed by the people I care about it means that I need to walk away and get some alone time to recharge (or they are being a dick, in which case I will call them on it later - when I have rested, eaten, and regained my equilibrium).

For me:
#1 - intelligent (I really am sapio-sexual)
#2 - honest

After that - it depends: the reasons that MrS is a good partner for me are VERY VERY different from the reasons that Dude is a good partner for me.

Like "what makes a good friend" - I have good friends that are good for entirely different reasons. When my SLeW tries to talk to me about certain topics - I remind her that I am the "wrong" friend for that - she has other people in her life to talk to about sports, or popular music, or hair products!
 
1. Can make me laugh, especially at myself.
2. Calls me on my bullshit.
3. Has goals and dreams.
4. Intelligent.
5. Has interests and a life outside of our relationship.
6. Gives more than they take.

Creative and kinky are big pluses.
 
That REALLY wouldn't work for me - people, in general, annoy me. When I start to be annoyed by the people I care about it means that I need to walk away and get some alone time to recharge (or they are being a dick, in which case I will call them on it later - when I have rested, eaten, and regained my equilibrium).

For me:
#1 - intelligent (I really am sapio-sexual)
#2 - honest

After that - it depends: the reasons that MrS is a good partner for me are VERY VERY different from the reasons that Dude is a good partner for me.

Like "what makes a good friend" - I have good friends that are good for entirely different reasons. When my SLeW tries to talk to me about certain topics - I remind her that I am the "wrong" friend for that - she has other people in her life to talk to about sports, or popular music, or hair products!

But that is why it works for me. I am generally annoyed as well. If someone doesn't annoy me they are pretty special. The biggest things that annoy me are stupidity, dishonesty, and being self-centered. Also, people who don't like seafood...lol.

If I were to make a list:

smart
funny
honest
independent
similar interests
diverse interests
natural curiosity
similar political and religious views
the kinkier the better
doesn't want kids
 
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