How would you define what makes a good romantic partner?
For me, it is someone who, when I'm around, makes me feel good. And I engender that in them. So getting together, no matter what we're engaged in, from casual everyday things to dates to talking stuff out to sex, ends up with a good feeling on both sides. Our lives are improved just by being together
Feelings of tenderness and specialness and care figure heavily in that. Which produces feelings of love.
. (Which differs from a friend- who also has good feelings- but more of mutual respect and enjoyment of the same things and similar interests. They create good feelings about the world, not yourself in particular. Of course, romantic partners can also be friends)
For me, it is someone who, when I'm around, makes me feel good. And I engender that in them. So getting together, no matter what we're engaged in, from casual everyday things to dates to talking stuff out to sex, ends up with a good feeling on both sides. Our lives are improved just by being together
Feelings of tenderness and specialness and care figure heavily in that. Which produces feelings of love.
. (Which differs from a friend- who also has good feelings- but more of mutual respect and enjoyment of the same things and similar interests. They create good feelings about the world, not yourself in particular. Of course, romantic partners can also be friends)