Recovery allows maturity...
Magdlyn,
I didn't say she is an anti-feminist. What she explained is that feminist movement, as well as gender ideologies, have been explored by the media as a weapon to disrupt traditional families, ultimately aiming to strengthen the government, and thus there is
in my country a lot of exacerbated feminist movement which is purely driven by media's "brain wash", but actually creates very unfair situations for men. The system assumes automatically that the men is an abuser and the woman is a victim without any proof verification, which creates a threat for innocent men. It is so disrupted that in practice woman can get angry for whatever reason and continuously slash out and spank man without any worry, because if he ever tries to defend then she calls on the system and he has to leave, then she follows up getting his property and custody of kids. I watched this happening over and over, including father and friends, etc.
My daughter is and always has been, on her good days, warm, generous, funny, artistic, intelligent, etc.
Yes qualities such as being enthusiastic and passionate are so interesting, that can even counterbalance the disorder. And recovery can be done. Sometimes it is as easy as quitting with the contraceptive pills.
It was always heartbreaking to see her "demons" take over and cause her so much pain. Her father and I are relieved that she has managed to heal... although we don't see her often because all the Jesus preaching is hard to take!
Yes, "demons take over". I understand that if done compulsively, the preaching can replace the compulsion for the other destructive behaviors she has quit. It feeds the same need in a healthier way. Though when I say recovery, I mean to make this need more balanced and moderated.
I just hope her new stability continues.
When the body is unbalanced, it targets on relapsing.
I understand often the late teens and early 20s are the worst period for this disease. But my daughter was always "different." From birth. My opinion is she was oxygen and nutritionally deprived during my pregnancy. I had recurrent bronchitis during my middle trimester and this affected my pregnancy so much, my placenta had broken down and my daughter was born 3 weeks early.
Shortening and deficiencies in oxygen, nutrition, blood flow and gestation period, all may cause other deficiencies, development, intelligence, etc. But you know this behavior is not
just about deficiency. In mental health, balance is key and the excess is what causes greatest mischief. You can't fully repair a disrupted brain formation, but you can make it balanced. Then it works better and every right step will be ten times more effective. Your recurrent bronchitis indicate that your immune system was not working well, which is the result of an imbalance.
Btw, my wife has gone through severe health concerns during her gestation and first months, too. Was lucky to survive.
But from reading the book Stop Walking on Eggshells I understand BPD is more often triggered by a rough childhood.
I believe this is a false perception. The healthy kid won't respond to a rough childhood by developing such destructive behaviors as an adult. If resilient, recovers easily. Thus childhood trauma only exacerbates the problem that exists within the kid.
Well, here we part ways. I still don't buy your idea that your desire for polyamory will help your ailing wife in any way. It just sounds very risky to me, and with much potential for backfiring in a spectacular way.
No, polyamory won't make any disordered person recover, but my wife is already recovered. If compared against who she was years ago, it's a miracle. What polyamory can do is make people more mature, and this is now possible, but only within any small step that she allows and feels comfortable in doing, if any, if ever.
